Hey, there! This is Clay with Relationship Inner Game. Today I’m going to talk about 5 things that men find absolutely irresistible about women. And no, this doesn’t just have to do with big boobs or your appearance, although it doesn’t hurt— having big boobs.
Let’s just go ahead and get right into this because unfortunately, most of the time unless you go to a doctor, you can’t really control much about your boobs.
Here are five things that you can control that men find irresistibly attractive.
1. You are understanding and supportive.
You have no idea how much a man will value a woman who understands and supports what he is going through because as a man in society, we are expected to kind of set the tone, take the lead, and make the decisions.
I’m not saying that’s right or wrong. It’s just kind of the agreement that us as a society have come to. And, as a man, a lot of men are out there who take on a leadership role.
And so, when you do that, there’s a lot of self-doubt that creeps in with it as well too like, “Am I doing the right thing?” or, “Oh, I thought I was doing the right thing but then like somebody shot me down about this thing. Somebody told me I was wrong or whatever.” And it wears down on a guy.
But, if there’s a woman in his life who is supportive and encourages him to keep going after what he wants and doing what he knows is right, then that is going to mean so much to him.
That encouragement is going to help him so much, rather than just being another person that’s sitting there nagging him and telling him that everything that he’s doing at home is wrong as well as everything that he’s doing wrong at work.
If you can be supportive, understanding and really loving then that will help him find you as a totally amazing bombshell sort of woman.
So definitely be supportive and understanding of where it is that your guy is coming from.
And, if you can’t be supportive and understanding then just consider that you might be with the wrong guy.
2. You challenge and inspire him to be the best version of himself.
You also want to be honest with him by challenging and inspiring him to be the best version of himself.
So, you want to understanding and supportive, but also, you don’t want to let him off the hook when he’s trying to think the easy way out, when he’s trying to slack off or when he’s trying to sell himself short.
You want to really push him at the right times and in the right ways. And I’m not saying you all just want to drive and then be constantly be whipping, lashing the whip or anything like that.
But, when it’s important, just be like, “Hey, I know that it’s really important for you to like go after this deal at work or whatever it is. So, I just want to really make sure that you’re not selling yourself short or BS-ing yourself when you say that you’re not that interested in it or whatever. I know that you’re not that kind of person and I know that that’s not really you. So I want you to like really go after it full throttle (or whatever it might be).”
He’s going to find that attractive because he knows somewhere deep down that there’s a part of him that wants greatness for himself and for his family and for all the people in his life.
And, if you can kind of call him out on his BS in a loving sort of way and inspire him to kind of go after what he really wants then he’s going to really respect you.
Again, this also has to be coupled with that loving, understanding, supportive side. Otherwise it’s just going to come across like you’re pushing him and nagging him.
Of course, only do this during the really big important things.
Don’t be like, “Hey, I know that you’re really committed to being an awesome husband so I’m going to really challenge you to do the dishes.” Don’t do that. That’s silly. Figure out some other way of figuring out who does the dishes. But that’s not it.
3. You’re authentically yourself.
The third thing that you want to be able to do to be that hot mamacita that he can’t keep his hands off of and wants to commit to big time is to be open, vulnerable, and expressive.
You want to just really let yourself be you. Just let it out. Don’t put the brakes on your personality. Don’t lock it down. Don’t dial it down 5 steps or anything like that. Just be a hundred percent you. Just let it all out there.
The biggest way that I’ve noticed that a lot of women sort of suppress this side of themselves is they play the polite game.
They don’t want to say the wrong thing. They don’t want to turn the guy off or whatever so they play this polite game like, “Oh yeah, that’s fine, whatever you want to do. OK, that sounds good. Yeah, if that’s what you want to do then we should totally do that. Oh, I don’t really have any opinions. I’m open for anything. Yeah, that sounds good. OK.”
That kind of thing is not helpful. That’s not creating any kind of real connection between the two of you.
I know you think you’re being accommodating but you’re really not. You’re not really there. You’re sort of checked out of the whole process.
What I’m saying is that you actually bring your emotional expression to the table because that’s what guys really find juicy and attractive.
It’s your emotional expression, your femininity, your ability to be expressive and sensual and all of these wonderful things. That is what men love.
So go ahead and bring that to the table. Don’t get stuck in the polite game. That’s not going to help you out. It’s only going to create disconnect between the two of you and he’s going to be like, “Yeah, I don’t know. There’s nothing going on there so I stopped calling her.”
Unfortunately, that’s what is probably going to happen. So don’t think that you’re doing anybody any favors by doing that.
4. You’re in LOVE with your own life.
The fourth thing that men find irresistibly attractive in you, you minx, is when you love your own life.
If you are in love with your own life without a guy in it, that’s going to go a long way. So, do things that are important to you. Do things that you’re actually passionate about. Do things that you actually care about.
And again, I don’t what it is.
Maybe that’s knitting. Maybe that’s some cultural artwork thing. Maybe that’s doing yoga. Maybe that’s exercising. Maybe that’s starting a business. Maybe that’s doing a charity thing. I don’t know.
Whatever it is for you, make sure that it’s something that you actually like doing because if you actually love your life, he’s going to actually like you more because he knows that you’re not going to glom onto him and become a needy, clingy sort of person because you actually love your life.
Why would you need to be clingy with somebody else if you actually love your life just the way it is?
Instead of being clingy, you can just be somebody that loves your life and also has a person in your life that you also love and hopefully loves you too. And that’s going to go so much further in attracting men.
5. You take care of yourself.
And the fifth and final thing that you can do to make a guy absolutely crazy wild attracted to you is to take care of yourself too.
A lot of people burn themselves out going full throttle after any number of things in life whether that’s their career or family things or whatever.
It’s important to take some time to nourish and take care of yourself, take a little bit of time for yourself, relax a little bit or whatever. It’s also being able to take care of yourself in other ways. If you need to take care of your body, eat right, exercise more, you do that in a loving sort of way.
Not like, “Hey, I don’t look like this Victoria Secret model. I need to starve myself” or anything like that. But take care of yourself in a loving way like, “Hey, I actually give a shit about my body so I’m going to eat healthy food.” Or, “Hey, I actually love myself so I’m going to make sure that I get enough exercise or I’m going to make sure I get enough sleep. I’m going to make sure that I’m rested and take time for myself.”
That self care is going to be really useful for a guy because he knows that you are responsible for your own happiness and know how to make yourself happy. Then, you’re not going to look to him to do it for you because that’s something that scares a lot of guys away— when women look to them as the sole source of their happiness.
If you know how to take on your own happiness then that’s going to be really attractive to a guy. He’s going to want to be with you because he knows that he won’t have to be there holding your hand the entire way. He can go out there and do what he needs to do and know that you’re going to be OK. And that’s really what men find really attractive in women.
And, if that doesn’t work, you can go ahead and check out the boob thing.
But anyway, hopefully this helped you out. If you’d like to learn more about how to meet, date, and attract and get commitment from the kinds of guys that you want, please head on over to my website.
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What have found that men find attractive in your experience?
And men, if you’re spying on the enemy here, go ahead and leave a comment down below. Is it about just boobs or is there something else that you think is attractive in a woman? Go ahead and leave a comment down below and get the conversation started.
This has been Clay with Relationship Inner Game. Take care.