Few feelings compare to the ones you get when the guy you’re into cancels plans.
On one hand, you want to be a cool, understanding chick who is totally OK with him canceling on you.
On the other, you want to let him know that you’re upset with him, even if his reason for flaking is completely legitimate.
The big question here is, what do you text him when he cancels plans?
You may not realize it, but how you respond when he cancels on you is a make or break situation for your relationship.
For those of you who don’t know me, my name is Amy North. I’m a relationship coach from the west coast of Canada. I work with women to help them find and lock down the love they want and deserve.
The reason I want to teach you this text message to send him when he cancels plans is because, even though this doesn’t seem like a big deal, the message you send him will have a huge impact on whether or not he wants to see you again in the future.
Picture this for a moment:
You have plans with a man and hours before you’re supposed to meet him, you get a phone call from your best friend. Her car has broken down in the middle of nowhere, the nearest tow service is closed and she has no way to get anywhere. Being a good friend, you agree to go and rescue her.
This, however, means canceling your plans for the date. Messaging the guy you’re meant to meet, you realize how fake your excuse for not making it sounds. Since it’s the truth, you say it anyway.
Now, picture this:
He replies to your text message with:
“Not a problem. You’re a good friend. Let’s catch up this weekend when you’re free. Drive safe!”
Reading this kind of text message will have you swooning and wishing you could be spending your night with him.
Or, he replies your text to cancel plans saying:
“Are you kidding me? That’s cool.”
Reading this message from him quickly puts you on the defensive and you can’t believe what a selfish jerk he’s being.
In fact, you probably don’t even want to see the guy again down the road because why would you?
What’s tough about his response when you canceled plans is that you can’t exactly tell what he means by it.
Is he being rude or is he genuinely surprised by what you’ve told him?
Do you detect a passive aggressive undertone?
Since it’s so tough to interpret tone over text message, it’s important that the ones you are sending him are crystal clear and positive.
You want to send the kind of text message to a man that will make him want to see you again and maybe even make him feel bad for canceling your plans.
This means that no matter how you’re feeling about him flaking out on you, it’s important to not blast off an emotional or passive aggressive reply.
As much as you may feel he’s being inconsiderate or want to beg for him to reconsider, do NOT do this either.
Instead, take a few moments to cool your jets and remember, the fact he canceled plans may feel like the end of the world right now, but it’s not.
The next thing you want to do is compose a positive text message that lets him know it’s fine that he can’t make it tonight.
Again, this is easier said than done– especially when you’re feeling disappointed.
Why do you want him to think that you’re completely OK with him canceling plans?
The first is that it shows him that you have other things going on in your life. Him not being able to see you isn’t that big of a deal.
Instead, you’ll happily carry on without him.
The second reason is that it shows him you’re level-headed and understanding. You’re the kind of person who understands that sometimes life gets in the way of other plans and that’s totally cool.
No man wants to be with the type of chick who loses her mind when things don’t go according to plan.
He’ll not only appreciate how mature you’re being about the situation but even if he feels his reasons for canceling your plans are justified, deep down inside, he knows that there’s still a chance you’ll be upset or angry with him.
When you take away this sort of stress or fear by letting him know you’re OK with him canceling on you, it’ll make him want to see you again.
To learn more powerful tips for texting the guy you’re into, then make sure to watch my video here.
I cover a bunch of different scenarios for texting a man, so be sure to check it out for all of your texting questions and needs.
Now for the actual text message to send him when he cancels plans.
This text message to send him when he cancels plans is composed of three parts.
The first part lets him know that it’s fine he’s canceling on you.
The second part tells him you’re busy for the next few days, and the third part wishes him well.
Now, you may be wondering where this whole, “you’re busy for the next few days” part came in and why you should say that.
Hear me out:
Even if you have nothing going on over the next few days, it’s crucial that you say otherwise.
Giving the impression that your life is full and exciting is important because it’ll make you seem interesting and make him want to be a part of your fun lifestyle.
It also shows him that you’re not sitting around waiting for him to come calling because you’re way cooler than that. He may even feel that if he doesn’t act fast, then you might need someone else who will come along and sweep you off your feet.
Regardless of how tempted you may be to reschedule with him for the next day, it’s important that you play a little hard-to-get here.
Instead, be busy with something else. This means you should actually make other plans to go out do something. Don’t say you have an epic evening planned then sit around and do nothing.
Instead, find something to do.
Then, when you do eventually meet up with him, you do have something interesting to chat about.
A rule of thumb is to make him wait at least 48 hours after canceling on you before seeing him. Doing this will keep him interested and you on his mind.
When you text him after he cancels plans on you, your message should read something along the lines of, “Hey, that’s OK. I understand you’re busy. I have a lot going on these next few days. But if you want to catch up this weekend, I’m available. I hope you have a good night.”
If he gives you a specific reason for not being able to see you, then you can incorporate it into your text message.
For example, let’s say he tells you he has to cancel your plans because he forgot about a surprise party for his uncle.
Here you would text him back:
“No worries. I hope the party goes well. I have a lot going on this week, but maybe we can catch up in a few days. Have a great night!”
If you’re at a point where you have decided you don’t want to reschedule with him and that his canceling on you is the last straw, it’s still important to keep your return message positive.
As much as you may want to let him know that you’ve had it up to your eyeballs with him and his excuses, don’t.
Instead, say a brief:
“No problem. I hope you have a great night”
Lastly, if this guy has a history of canceling on you last-minute but you do you still want to try and make things work between the two of you, then you may want to make him aware of your frustrations in a positive way. I know I said you should play it cool, but I get it, ladies.
There’s only so much you can take until you feel you’re calm, cool demeanor is being taken for granted. So make it known that his repeated flakiness isn’t working for you by sending him a message.
You can say something like this:
“Hey, I’m bummed you can’t make it, but I totally understand that you have a lot going on. In the future, please keep in mind that I’m busy too and I’d appreciate it if you gave me more notice when you have to cancel, so I can make other plans for myself. I hope you have a great day.”
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