Getting a boyfriend is one thing, but keeping him; that’s a whole other story.
Hey ladies, I’m Amy North and today I’m going to teach you how to get a boyfriend and keep him.
Now I know this might sound like quite the challenge but believe me, getting and keeping a guy isn’t as hard as it sounds. That is, as long as you know what you’re doing.
Now, let’s get started.
Getting and keeping a boyfriend starts with you.
What I mean by this is that it’s important to be in the right mindset before getting together with someone new. You have to believe that you’re worth every minute of a man’s time and that any guy would be lucky to have you.
Confidence is key.
Even if you’re not feeling like a million bucks right now, fake it until you make it. As a woman, you’ve probably struggled with insecurities and questioned what it is that men find attractive, but after talking to many men I’ve discovered that there’s no such thing as one ideal woman.
What one man finds attractive, another does not, and vice versa.
Sure, some men find certain traits attractive but as cheesy as it sounds, it’s what’s on the inside that counts. This means that being drop-dead gorgeous has less to do with the color of your eyes or your dress size, and more to do with having the right attitude.
There are many ways to be positive and feel good about yourself. The most obvious ones being to workout and dress in a way that makes you feel good.
It goes so much further than that. For instance, being relaxed and playful, believing in yourself and focusing on your best attributes.
This means that instead of thinking “my thighs are too fat,” think, “my thighs are perfectly normal and they get me where I need to go.”
Once you start to see the best bits of you and change your negative thoughts to positive ones, you’ll be radiating with sexiness.
Other little tips like wearing sexy underwear, practicing your strut, making smiling a habit, perfecting your posture will also take you far here. It’s amazing how much something as simple as shaving your legs can do to boost your confidence, so take care of your body and treat it to these little pleasures.
Check your baggage.
The next step to getting and keeping a boyfriend is letting go of baggage. You may have convinced yourself that you’re already over all of the crappy relationships you’ve had in the past, but it’s important that you’re honest with yourself here.
In order to open up your heart to someone new, you need to let go of any feelings of heartache or resentment that you may have bottled up inside.
The truth is, nothing that happened in the past is going to impact your future unless you allow it to. If you let past problems, experiences, issues have power of your present and future, then you are going to be stuck reliving the same sad story again and again.
Bad relationships can leave a nasty taste in your mouth, but if you let these experiences live on they’ll work 100% against you if you’re trying to find love.
Hence, why you need to let go and move on. If you have never been in a serious relationship—so many of us haven’t—then you may feel the need to let go of other things you’ve been bottling up.
Perhaps you have weight insecurities or you don’t feel attractive. It could be that you have always been a bit of a loner or you had a rough upbringing and don’t feel deserving of love.
Even if you’re just an average woman who has been content most of your life but has yet to find the one, decide who it is that you want to be and let go of anything that doesn’t serve you. When you let go, you create space for something better to come along.
Once you’ve tossed aside your baggage and are feeling good about yourself, it’s time to get out there and meet your dream man.
Getting Out There And Meeting Men
When it comes to meeting a man there are many different places to do so. To name a few, you can meet a guy through a mutual friend, at the pub, walking your dog, online.
However you choose to meet men, it’s important that you come across as a happy, outgoing person.
If you meet someone and jump right into how terrible your day has been going, or vent about your shitty co-workers, your negativity is really going to push him away. Instead, it’s important that you show him your best self and give him a little taste of what life with you would be like.
Again, the point is to be cheerful and positive.
After You Start Dating Him
Once you do meet someone and start going on dates there are some things to keep in mind.
For starters, it’s important that you’re prepared for the date so you don’t keep him waiting. Being punctual is a sign of respect so be sure to give him a good impression.
While you’re together keep the conversation light and pleasant, and remember that men love to be around women who make them feel good. Ask him questions to get to know him but don’t interrogate him, this isn’t a job interview.
For more tips on how to have the perfect first date, hop on over to my website and watch the free video presentation.
Getting Him To Be Your Boyfriend
Now, let’s say you’ve been on a few good dates and things are starting to get serious between you and the man you’re seeing.
How do you get him to commit to being your boyfriend?
It’s important that you let him feel like he’s chasing you.
Since men are born hunters they thrive on winning you which is why it’s so important that you let him chase you.
So often women make themselves too available, and when they do their men lose interest.
To get him to chase you there are a few things you need to understand.
First is knowing that you deserve the best because when you do, it will show and he will come chasing.
Second is following your guy’s lead, meaning that if he’s casual about dating you then you’re still free to keep seeing other people. Keep in mind that unless he’s calling you his girlfriend you’re still a single lady.
When he gets the sense that you could have anyone you want, the fear of losing you will give him the push he needs to make the move. Just be sure to leave the ball in his court and wait for him to bring up the future of your relationship.
To avoid mistakenly chasing him, pull back everything you’re throwing at him; the communication, availability, accommodations for his schedule, the whole shebang.
Don’t initiate plans with him, text him or be the first to call. You should only respond to his advances.
This may seem counterproductive if you’re trying to win him over, but if you’re constantly contacting him then he’s never going to have the opportunity to come to you.
Once he does come to you, don’t give in quickly. The better you are at holding off, the more he will pursue you.
At the same time, this doesn’t mean that you should ignore him or reject his date proposals. It just means that you’re making yourself a little bit harder to catch and it will give him the chance to do what he desires most; to chase you.
When you do see him, keep in mind what men crave and that’s respect, admiration, appreciation, a challenge and to be desired. There are obviously many other things he wants but those are the big ones.
To let him know you respect him, show and tell him, just be sure not to bow down to him.
To admire him, tell him honestly the things you like about him and be grateful when he does things for you.
While it’s important to appreciate his effort, make it known that you can and will walk away if he doesn’t live up to your standards. Knowing he can lose you at any time will keep him working hard to keep you.
Plus, when something is hard to get men value it more.
Even if he knows you want him, show him too. Men want to feel desired. When he doesn’t feel wanted by you, it can really take a toll on his confidence. To keep him feeling good about himself, flirt with him, tell him that he makes you happy and that you feel lucky to be with him.
Just don’t overdo it or you’ll seem needy and that with interfere with his chase.
How To Keep Him Committed To You
Once he’s your boyfriend there are some key tips for keeping him committed.
For starters, men want to be with a woman who is decisive and knows what she wants. If you’re the type who relies on her man to choose everything from where to go for dinner to what to wear on New Year’s Eve, then he’s either going to get bored with your indecisiveness or become annoyed by it.
Instead, have opinions of your own. Make decisions and express yourself. After all your man fell for you so show him how strong and independent you can be.
Being reliable is another great way to keep your guy happily committed so let him know that he can count on you. Every successful relationship requires an unspoken promise to be there for one another so if you have a habit of making promises you can’t keep or saying things you don’t mean, then he’s going to have a hard time trusting you.
Be a woman of your word. As always, be appreciative and remember that a simple ‘thank you’ means a lot to your man. When he opens up to you, listen and give him your undivided attention.
Encourage him to do his own thing and be open to his sexual needs and desires. Praise his effort, go on dates and let him know that you trust him.
Keep things fresh and try new things together. The point is to keep a relationship fun and exciting.
A common mistake that so many women make is they lose themselves in their relationship. To avoid this be sure that you have a life outside of him.
It’s proven that your man will actually miss you more when you’re not around so go out with your gal pals, sign up for that yoga class or take a weekend to yourself. Trust me, you’ll have his attention when you return.
No matter how angry or upset you may be with your man you should never scream at him, belittle him or call him names, especially if you are in public.
The only way to have a healthy argument is by keeping it private, so keep your business your own and learn to forgive and forget. Always make time to be playful with one another, laugh lots, tease your man, wrestle him and let your guard down.
Sharing these moments with your guy will not only connect you on a deeper level but it will also make him realize how lucky he is to have you.
Be thoughtful and remind him how much he means to you by surprising him from time to time, and always make him feel like a king because even the manliest of men need reassuring at times.
Well that’s all the time I have for today but if you’d like to learn more about how to get a boyfriend and keep him, then, hop on over to my website and check out the free video.
As always, thanks so much. Until next time, take care and good luck.