Have you ever gone on a date with a man who nearly bored you to death with dull stories or cheesy pickup lines? He probably seemed desperate or creepy. Don’t be that person.
Hi, Amy North here.
Today I want to talk about some conversational flirting tips for women. As you may already know, I’m a relationship coach and author of the bestselling program, “The Devotion System.” I’m from Vancouver, Canada and ver the last few years, I’ve been working with women to help improve their love lives.
Today I’m going to share five important flirting tips for winning over men with words. Let’s get started.
1. Be playful.
If you’re looking to win a guy over, then it’s important that you show him your fun, playful side. That’s not to say that you have to be an over-the-top goofball. But, rather, let your guard down and enjoy yourself.
Be able to laugh at yourself and his jokes, too. You would be surprised how much of an impact laughter can have on a man. If you are make his day brighter, he will be much more willing to commit to you.
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2. Be mysterious.
While it’s nice to feel like you know someone, it’s important not to give him too much, too soon.
As tempting as it may be, it’s important not to spill your guts out to him because if you do, you could send him running.
Instead of sharing your entire life story with him, pick the key bets and focus on those. Just as you don’t want to know about his best friend from second grade or his Uncle Bill’s old ranch, share stories that will give him a glimpse of who you are as a person. When you can do this in a mysterious yet flirty way, it will keep him wanting more.
Simply put, save the last exciting details for down the road. For now, be concise and keep his attention.
3. Be positive.
Hand in hand with my previous flirting tip, it’s important that you show your date your positive side. This means keeping the conversation light and breezy.
Don’t talk about your issues with your image or your fear of dying alone. Instead, be positive and talk about the things you do enjoy.
Be sure to avoid any negative or draining conversation topics and watch your tone of voice.
Also, be cheery and smile a lot. As the saying goes, “A smile is worth a thousand bucks.” Believe me, your toothy grin is a key flirting tip.
4. Ask him questions.
As you probably already know, guys love to talk, especially when it’s with someone they’re interested in romantically.
Instead of hogging the spotlight, be sure to bounce flirty questions off him to break the ice.
Now, this may sound counterproductive, especially since we’re talking about how to flirt. You’d be surprised what a powerful impact your ability to listen has on him. Giving him the floor to talk will not only show him that you’re interested in what he has to say, but it’s also a huge sign of respect.
Just like you would avoid a follow-up date with someone who didn’t give you the chance to chat, he feels the same way.
When he is speaking, give him your full attention.
This means ignoring any text or phone calls you may be getting, and keeping eye contact. If you’re looking around the room or getting distracted by something on the table, he’s going to know you’re not into him. Be polite and make him your sole focus.
Remember, flirting is also about your body language and not just the words that come out of your mouth.
5. Be yourself.
Nothing is more attractive than a woman who is confident enough to be her true, genuine self.
Truth be told, men are much less oblivious than you may think. This means that spotting a woman who is faking it is easy, which is why it’s so important to be yourself.
Push aside anything that’s bothering you and allow yourself to be happy. Keep in mind that flirting is meant to be fun. Don’t take it so seriously. If you can show the guy that you’re with that you’re comfortable in your own skin, then he’ll be hooked in no time.
Well, that just about does it for today. If you have any secrets about how to flirt with a guy that you’d like to share, please post them in the comments below. Same goes for any other questions or comments you may have.
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