In this series I’ve been explaining what your ex is thinking, what’s driving their thoughts and behavior, and what’s causing your ex to say what they say during the process of getting back together.
Today, we’re going to talk about what it means when your ex says you are not compatible.
What does it mean to be not compatible?
What exactly do you need to do moving forward if your goal is to get back together with your ex and your ex says you are not compatible?
There are two main times when your ex says you are not compatible.
Number one is during the actual breakup itself, right?
So, if you’re sitting down with your ex and they are saying, “Hey, we are just not compatible. We should break up.”
What does it mean when your ex says you are not compatible during their breakup speech?
That means that your ex sees there’s a lot of friction between the two of you. There are a lot of in congruencies. The two of you want different things. You have different values.
Maybe they want to travel the world for a year and you want to settle down and put down roots or or do something else entirely.
There is tension that is pulling the two of you apart and causing a lot of friction, stress, arguments, and maybe a lot of hurt feelings between the two of you.
That is what it means if your ex says you are not compatible at the time of your breakup.
If that is the case, you want to really demonstrate to your ex that you can be compatible.
You need to look at what exactly your ex says is incompatible and you want to say (to yourself):
“Is it possible to overcome this incompatibility?”
“Is it possible we can have a great relationship where we can both get our needs met?”
If the answer is yes, then you want to demonstrate to your ex that want the same things, have similar values, you can move in tandem, parallel to each other in life.
This will start to SHOW your ex that you actually can have a new chance together.
I used the word “show” there intentionally.
Oftentimes, people will tell their ex that they’ve changed. They try telling their ex that things are going to be different.
But your ex is not going to put their faith in your words alone.
Your ex needs to see you demonstrate real, tangible change. They are not going to want to walk back into the same relationship that they walked out of in the first place.
So if your ex says you are incompatible, show them and demonstrate that the two of you ARE compatible.
That will give them the confidence to want to come back to you, assuming that the two of you have a good, strong emotional connection.
The second time your ex might say you are incompatible is when you are interacting after the breakup.
Maybe you are spending time together, texting back and forth, calling each other on the phone… who knows, right?
Your ex might say out of the blue, “We are not incompatible.”
Oftentimes that means they might be having a moment where they’re enjoying interacting with you, right?
Maybe you are out on a nice date together. Maybe you are having a nice conversation on the phone or over text message and it starts to feel good, right?
Your ex still doesn’t have enough of a vision that you can come together and want the same things in life and have similar values.
At this point you have to demonstrate to your ex in a concrete way that you are compatible, have the same values and want the same things out of life.
Your ex still does not get that you have the possibility of a shared future together.
You need to put more effort into making it unmistakably clear that you do have shared values and want the same things moving forward.
This can’t just be a smoke and mirrors thing that you say in order to rope your ex back into the same relationship that they walked out of.
This compatibility has to be real and substantial if you want to get back together with your ex long-term.
If you just want to pull the wool over your exe’s eyes, dupe them and create even worse hurt feelings— then go ahead and lie and make things up.
But if you want to have a thriving, successful long-term relationship with them, then what you should be doing is looking at your own life and saying things like:
“Can we actually be compatible?”
“Can we walk on the same path in life together?”
“Do we share the same values?”
“Do we want the same things?”
If you are truly compatible with your ex, then you must demonstrate that they made a mistake and you are compatible.
Don’t TELL your ex about it.
Instead, you have to SHOW your ex you are compatible.
That will show them that they are not walking back into the same relationship that they walked out of in the first place.
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