4 Toxic Things You Should NEVER Say To Your Ex


Welcome ladies and gentlemen to my latest and greatest breakup advice in which I’m going to share four phrases that are so toxic and damaging that they’ll often be the final nail in the coffin of your dead relationship.

At the very least, saying these things to your ex is going to make a huge negative impact on your chances of getting back together.

I am, Brad Browning, YouTube’s resident breakup expert. For the past 11 or 12 years of my life, I have been helping people around the world undo breakups and get a second chance at love. Which is why my channel here on YouTube has around 240,000 subscribers.

Let’s dive into it.

Here are the four phrases that you definitely never want to say your ex at least, not if you want any chance of getting back together with them. 

1. “You broke my heart and my LIFE IS OVERRRRR!”

Toxic phrase number one, “You broke my heart, I feel like my life is over.”

Look, if you said something like that early on after your break up, you’re probably OK. Emotions are running high in the first few days after a tough breakup, so it’s unlikely that your ex read too much into it.

Saying this type of thing to your ex beyond the first few days after your breakup or saying things like this repeatedly is possibly the best way to confirm for your ex that they made the right decision in breaking up.

Let me put it this way:

Do you think that Ryan Reynolds or Mila Kunis would say something like, “I’m lost without you. You have broken my heart forever,” after they go through a breakup or they have been dumped?

Or do you think they just shrug and say:

“You know man, that sucks. I guess I’ll just find someone new to replace you, which will take all of three minutes.”

Of course, you probably don’t have a lineup of gorgeous people desperate to land a date or propose to you like Ryan Reynolds or Mila Kunis probably does. But that doesn’t matter, because my point is about the underlying statement that you’re making about yourself and your value as a person and romantic partner when you say something insecure like this.

If you want your ex to think that you’re an amazing person, someone that they’re very lucky to have or had the chance to date and be with, then you need to act accordingly.

I won’t bore you with the psychological background behind this, but remember that you’re incredible, beautiful, handsome, talented, and you’re a great catch for anyone of the opposite sex.

Help your ex see these themselves by not showing low-value traits or saying things like, “You broke my heart. I can’t live without you” to your ex.

Those are a very effective way of destroying any remaining attraction that your ex has for you and confirming their decision to break up was the right decision.

2. Toxic “kicker” phrases or admissions.

Toxic breakup phrase number two is anything along the lines of:

“You know, I hated your family anyway.”

“I never even really loved you.”

Or any other negative things like that.

This is a more of a category of statements rather than a single phrase, but I mean any kind of belated admissions or attempts to hurt your ex by revealing truths about parts of the relationship you hated, lies you told, or taking back the kinds of things they might have felt good about at the time when you originally said them.

Your ex is going to probably be genuinely affected by them, whether or not what you’re saying is true. And, it shows a very shallow immature side of your character.

And, sure. Maybe you hated your ex’s family even though you lied about that all throughout your relationship.

Maybe you never liked your ex’s clothing or their friends, even though you complimented them both all the time when you were together.

It doesn’t really matter what it is, but you really don’t want to be saying this type of thing to your ex right now.

Obviously, if you just don’t say anything at all, you’ll definitely be safe.

But if you can’t manage that, at least avoid saying anything hurtful or making any kind of statement to your ex like:

“By the way, I actually didn’t really _____.”

Quite frankly, your ex isn’t going to want you back if you say that type of stuff to them regularly enough. You can’t really blame them, right?

3. “I’m DELETING YOU from my life!”

Toxic phrase number three is:

“I’m deleting you from my life altogether.”

This one isn’t always a game breaker for your chances of getting back together. But if you do say that type of thing enough to your ex or if you make a big enough deal about how you’re done with them forever, and you’re blocking them on Facebook, blocking their phone number, that’s bad news.

It really just shows how much you’re affected by the breakup and how quickly you’re willing to turn to petty mind games and make rash decisions in the heat of the moment.

Simply put, this is a bad thing to say to your ex even if you mean it at the time.

Why would you really need to block your ex forever anyway?

More importantly, even if you do decide to block your ex on social media for other reasons, why would you tell your ex about it? 

The only reason to say things like, “I’m deleting you from my life,” or “I’m never thinking about you or our relationship again” is to hurt your ex’s feelings or try and threaten him or her into thinking that they have to take you back now or lose their chance forever.

Now, that in itself can sometimes actually be an effective strategy, but it’s never by saying these types of things directly to your ex. You need to be way more subtle, strategic, and covert about that kind of thing. 

Even then, before you do dive into those kind of mind games or incite jealousy with your ex, please consider signing up for my one-on-one coaching first at my website, so that I can learn a bit more about your situation and warn you if it’s likely to backfire on you, or if you’re going to ruin your shot at winning them back by doing whatever it is you think you’re going to be able to do to incite jealousy that kind of thing to threaten them.

4. “I’m going to kill myself if you don’t take me back.”

Finally, toxic phrase number four that will prevent you from getting your ex back is, “I’m going to jump off a bridge if you don’t take me back.” 

Suicide and mental health is a serious business.

If you actually feel suicidal for any reason, then you need to get professional help right away. Suicidal thoughts and depression are medical conditions that need treatment and medication. They’re definitely not something that I want to downplay or trivialize or take lightly.

And, along those same lines, suicide or threats like that are absolutely not something you should ever be faking or attempting to use as a way to get your ex to do what you want.

I mean, how many couples get together and fall in love because one person is worried that the other will do something bad to themselves if they don’t agree to be in a relationship?

Honestly, I can’t even think of a worse way to get back together with your ex. Please don’t ever threaten your ex for any reason.

Regardless of how effective you think it’ll be right now, it’s not going to work. It clearly shows how pathetic and petty your thinking is after the breakup.

Suicide and mental health aren’t something you should joke about or use for personal gain.

That last one was a bit of a heavy topic, wasn’t it? I’m sorry to get all serious on you there. But hey, I want you guys to win back your ex, assuming that’s what you want.

In order to do so, you definitely need to avoid saying the four toxic things to your ex that I’ve just discussed.

Hopefully, you haven’t said any of them to your ex already.

If you HAVE said some of these things to your ex already, then please don’t immediately assume it’s game over for your chances of getting back together.

It’s completely possible that you’ve actually already done enough positive things to counteract any of these toxic things that you might have already said your ex. And that could mean that you’ve still got plenty of hope for reversing your breakup and getting a second chance with your ex.

To get my help getting back together visit my website and watch the video all the way to the end. I’ll help you avoid saying or doing anything else that will ruin your chances of getting back together with your ex.

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Brad Browning

About Brad Browning

Brad Browning is a relationship coach specializing in breakups and divorce. Based in beautiful Vancouver Canada, Brad has worked with thousands of men and women around the world, helping to reverse breakups, stop divorce, and mend broken relationships.

Brad is author of two best-selling online programs: The Ex Factor, which teaches readers how to get their ex back, and Mend the Marriage, which helps readers to revive a dying marriage. He also offers personal coaching to a limited number of clients, guiding them through the process of winning back an ex or rescuing a marriage from the brink of collapse.

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