Do you want to keep your man’s eyes on you and only you? Would you love to make him absolutely addicted to you? If so, you’re in the right place.
As you may or may not already know, there are certain things women do that absolutely hook men. The good news is that these have nothing to do with looks, just your attitude. Men fall in love with, commit and marry NORMAL women who know these basic principles about attracting men.
Once you get yourself into the right mindset, you’ll not only have his attention, but like a lovesick puppy dog, he won’t leave your side.
Here’s what you need to do to attract him and (more importantly) keep him interested long term.
1. Stay positive.
More than just smiles, emotions in general are contagious. This means that if you’re the pessimistic or self-pitying type, those feelings are going to affect your date, too.
Men are attracted to happy, confident, outgoing women. Just like you wouldn’t want to date someone who was always negative and moping around, neither do men. That’s why it’s so important to be positive and try to find the good in everyday situations.
This doesn’t mean you have to be fake— it means that when you get centered and positive about your life as a whole, you’ll be more attractive to everyone in your life. That extends to the men around you. You can’t pretend to be “OMG SO HAPPY!!” with him and then unleash a vicious tirade at the waiter.
If you’re struggling with your own happiness, you’ll struggle to attract men. Try to make yourself happy first, THEN spend time with the man you like. Once your man realizes that you’re the one to keep him smiling he’ll become hopelessly devoted to you.
2. Cultivate an air of mystery.
Have you ever left a date feeling mentally drained, or like you now know everything there is to know about a man— even if you weren’t exactly fascinated by his long-winded stories about his childhood pet?
If so, you probably had little interest in seeing him again.
The same rings true for men.
If you tend to take over every conversation and/or excessively over-share everything from your childhood memories to your deepest secrets then he isn’t going to be interested in calling you past the first few dates.
Instead of spilling your heart out to him IMMEDIATELY it’s important that you hold back some information, and keep him coming around for more.
3. Be hard to get.
Playing hard to get with a man gets a bad rap (people tend to freak out about games) but BEING hard to get actually works.
Since men are hunters at heart, making him work for your love and attention will keep him chasing you. When this happens, he’ll become powerfully addicted to you.
To do so, it’s important that you’re not “too available.” This means that you don’t immediately drop whatever you’re doing to see him. You set certain standards and limits for yourself when it comes to making plans with him. When we really like someone, we tend to want to spend all our time with them. There’s plenty of time for spending more time together once you’re committed. For now, hold back a little bit and stick to your own plans.
For example, if he calls and asks if you want to go for dinner that night, tell him you’re busy and suggest rescheduling for a day or two later. Even if you have no plans for that night, keeping him on his toes to see you will get him hooked.
Since you teach people how to treat you, consider that always being available makes you seem low value, or like you were waiting around for someone to do something with. Instead, if you have your own plans, STICK to them. Even if those plans consisted of much needed rest and relaxation, reschedule the date for a time that works for both of you.
It’s also important that you’re not always the one to initiate contact with him. If you’re doing all the texting, messaging, phoning, etc., it’ll eventually neutralize your chemistry. If you want him to stay in his masculine energy, let him be the one to date you, not the other way around.