How many times have you met a seemingly great guy only to have him pull away or even vanish from your life?
Sadly, most of us know that feeling all too well.
What if I told you that there are certain flirty text messages you can send the guy to stop him from pulling away from you? Interested? That’s exactly what I’ll be covering here today.
Hey ladies, I’m Amy North. For those of you who don’t know me, I’m a relationship coach from Vancouver, Canada. You may also know me for me from my program, The Devotion System, which is a complete guide on how to not only find love but also how to lock down the man of your dreams and have the relationship you want and deserve.
Now, that that’s out of the way, let’s get started.
1. The Escape Text
The first type of message you can send your guy is what I like to call the escape text. Contrary to its name, this is the kind of text you want to send a man to stop him from escaping.
So, what is the escape text?
It’s a fun, creative flirty text that you send a man. But what’s really great about it is that by using the simple but powerful texts I’m going to teach you, you will be able to give him something that no one else can— a brief break or escape from reality.
Since escape texts are designed to get your guy to think outside of the framework of everyday life, these kind of messages not only let his mind wander to another perhaps pleasanter place but they’re also great conversation kick starters.
If you’re looking to be his breath of fresh air then the secret text to come up with creative, intriguing question to text him, the kind of messages that will give him an opportunity to play make-believe for a moment or two.
For instance, instead of sending him a plain old, “tell me something” text to get a conversation going or asking him the same boring routine questions, spice it up and make your text exciting.
A few good examples of escape text messages are:
“If you could have one super power, what would it be?”
“If you could live in any era, which one would you choose?”
“If you could go anywhere in the world right now, where would you choose to go?”
As you see, these text messages are short and to the point. You don’t need to dress them up because when you ask a question that’s interesting enough, it’s compelling enough on its own and you don’t need to add all the bells and whistles.
Be sure to ask him questions that will make him feel a spark of child-like wonder again, the kind of questions that will set his soul on fire and make him think the good thoughts. Have fun with these flirty text messages and make them your own.
Remember though, while this is a great opportunity for you to learn something new about a man, be prepared to answer whatever questions you ask him too.
2. The “Wish You Were Here” Text
The next type of text message to stop him from pulling away is the “wish you here” text.
As you may conclude from the name, these are the kind of messages you can send a man to tease him and create sexual tension between you. This kind of message makes him want to drop what he’s doing and get to wherever you are.
Now, that’s not to say that he will or actually should drop his plans, but the point is that this kind of text message will evoke that much emotion in him that he may for a moment or two consider actually doing so.
Of course, this text can be as PG or R rated as you’re comfortable with. Keep in mind that even though your man may not come out and say it, every guy wants sex. So you may want to get a little bit frisky with this. Now, you may be thinking, “But I mean, my guy isn’t the typical man’s man. Sex isn’t the most important thing to him.”
And while that’s totally fine, it doesn’t mean that he doesn’t want sex as well. It just means maybe he’s more reserved saying so or admitting it to you. That’s why a “wish you were here” text is such a smooth way to pique his interest and attraction to you, which in the long run will do wonders for keeping him close and committed to you.
What exactly is the “wish you were here” text?
Simply put, it’s a descriptive text for you to tell your man what you would do to him if he was there with you.
Of course, this can be pretty fantastical. Meaning, you can say things you wouldn’t actually do. Just by painting a picture for him to think about, you’ll not only turn him on but he’ll begin to associate your text messages with feel-good romantic feelings. When that happens, he’ll look forward to hearing from you.
Examples of “wish you were here” texts are:
“If you were here, I would slowly push myself against you and kiss your lips so softly.”
A more R rated one of these text would be something along the lines of:
“If you were here right now, I would climb on top of you, unbutton your shirt, and trace my fingertips down your chest to your …”
You don’t even have to add in the more provocative words. Implying it alone is enough to make him ooze with anticipation. Just remember, making your text messages descriptive is key because men respond best to messages that make them literally feel or imagine something in vivid detail.
Good descriptive words to use are feel, touch, grope, graze, shiver, tingle, taste, lick, crave, and so on.
If you’re interested in learning more powerful phrases to make your man wild with desire for you then visit my site and watch the free video presentation here.
3. The Seductive Stanza Text
Now, the third kind of text you can send a man to stop him from pulling away is the basic flirting type of message. But instead of stopping there, we’d spice it up a bit and call this one the seductive stanza. Because yes, like poetry, these messages should pull on his heartstrings and stir emotion in him.
By subtlety seducing your man with text messages, you’ll have him hooked. Best of all, doing so is so much easier than it seems. Just be sure to creative, playful and use your imagination.
An example of a seductive stanza could be anything from:
“Guess what I’m wearing right now.”
“The things I’m going to do when you come over tonight.”
Just remember to wait for a response before messaging him again. The last thing you want to do is scare the poor guy away.
4. The Ego Stroker Text
The fourth kind of message you can send a man to stop him from pulling away is the ego stroker text. As the name implies, that’s exactly what you’re going to be doing with this kind of message.
There’s no denying that relationships can start to get stale after a while. But what’s worse is when complacency sneaks in. When this happens, it’s easy to let things slip between you and your man. And before you know it, he’s pulling away from you or feeling unappreciated.
Instead, by being the woman who makes your man feel good about himself and the things he accomplishes, he’ll want to keep you around. I mean why wouldn’t he? You make him feel good. Not to mention as the old saying goes, “If you don’t, someone else will.”
To make sure that he feels like number one, text him ego stroker messages that shine on his intelligence, physical appearance, sexual performance, attitude, how he treats you, the works. Just be careful not to overdo it or your words will start to lose their magic.
Also, be sure to only say things that are true. For instance, if he’s terrible at going down on you, then you don’t want to stroke his ego by saying that he’s great at it. Instead, pick something else that you truly believe he excels at and make it the focus of your flirty text. Just be honest and speak from the heart.
A few examples of an ego stroker text could be something like:
“I love your arms and how strong they are. When you wrap them around me, I feel like nothing in the world could harm me.”
“You’re such an amazing kisser. The way your lips feel pressed against mine is electrifying.”
Again, make this your own and you’ll have him wrapped around your finger.
5. The “Go Your Own Way” Text
The final flirty text message I want to share with you today is the go your own way text.
This text message is designed to show your guy that as much as you love having him in your life, you still have your own agenda and other priorities. You’re busy living your own fun-filled life.
So, even if you have nothing going on when your guy texts you, you may want to fib a little bit and tell him that you’re doing something other than sitting around. Now, I’m not condoning lying here. If you’re genuinely keeping busy, that’s even better because your story will seem more real.
That said, if you are having a quiet night in, catching up with your favorite television shows, then you might want to spice up the message you send him by saying that you’re doing something else more creative or immensely stimulating.
This type of flirty text message works wonders to stop him from pulling away especially when it comes to situations where he asks you to hang out on short notice.
Since the key to keeping him intrigued is to make him work for your time and attention, by not being too available or ready to go any time he comes calling and instead requiring a few days’ notice when it comes to making plans. That’s a powerful move.
To give you an example of this kind of flirty text message, let’s say that you’re just getting home from a long day at the office and your guy texts asking if you want to grab dinner in a half hour.
Instead of saying, “Sure!” or, “I’m just going to have a lazy night in,” instead, spice it up with something like:
“Hey, I would love to join you for dinner but unfortunately, I already have plans with friends. I’m free Friday though if you want a rain check.”
Again, make this your own. If you don’t want to tell him that you’re going out then say that you’re busy working on a project or that you’re having someone over. Whatever you tell him, just make sure it’s not too fabricated or unbelievable.
The message you’re sending is that you’re going your own way tonight so you have to catch up with him soon. It can be hard to turn him down especially if you really want to see him. But remember, nothing good comes easy.
Did you know that there is a state of desire more powerful than love?
Well, that just about does it for today. If you have any questions about the types of flirty text messages I’ve covered here or you have your own to share then please post those in the comment section below.