Will your ex come back after no contact?
Stick around and I’ll let you know if you are stacking the deck in your favor or if you’re just really wasting your time with no contact.
Read all the way to the end because I’m also going to be sharing the biggest sign I’ve seen in people who have been successful in getting their ex back after no contact or just in general.
Let’s go ahead and get into the signs you’re going to get back together.
1. The reason why you broke up has been resolved.
The first thing to look out for when it comes to whether or not your ex is going to get back together with you after no contact is if you have resolved the main reason why the two of you broke up.
You may not know specifically why the two of you broke up, especially if it was one of the breakup types that I call “the blind side breakup” or it just kind of came out of nowhere.
If you really stop and look back over the last couple of weeks or maybe even months of your relationship, you can probably start to piece together some signs that things weren’t really going in the optimal direction between you and your ex.
If you can kind of look at that, you can say to yourself,
“Maybe our connection was falling apart a little bit.”
“Maybe we weren’t bonding like we used to.”
“Maybe she was complaining about how I spend too much time working.”
“Maybe he was saying I wasn’t taking enough interest in his life”
Or whatever it was, right?”
If you can go ahead and resolve that issue, that is going to be one very, very, very big sign that you can get back together with your ex after no contact or just in general.
Your ex isn’t going to walk back into the same broken dynamic or broken relationship that they walked out of in the first place.
They want to come back to something that they know is going to be completely different.
They want to be in a relationship that isn’t going to have the same problems that caused them to leave in the first place.
So, if you have resolved the reason why your ex broke up with you, then that’s a huge sign that there might be something there and that your ex might want to get back together with you.
2. You have used your time during no contact wisely (preferably by using Active No Contact).
The second sign that you might actually get back together with your ex is if you haven’t just wasted your time during no contact, kind of white knuckling it through the process.
I teach something called active no contact.
But I know that there are a lot of people out there who watch other videos online or read other websites and they hear about this thing called the no contact rule and they think that there’s just like one version of no contact.
But there isn’t.
There are many types of no contact.
I happen to teach one called active no contact.
If you’d like to learn more about that, visit my website and fill out the quick quiz and I’ll share more information about active no contact.
For better or worse, a lot of people just kind of white knuckle it through no contact.
They just try and hold on.
They think that somehow not talking to their ex for— in most cases, 30 days of no contact— is going to somehow yield some sort of magical result.
But… I hate to break it to you.
If all you’re doing is not talking to your ex, your results using no contact to get your ex back are going to be very, very limited. Because like I just mentioned, they would be coming back into the same broken dynamic.
They would be coming back into the same relationship.
Your ex would look at you and say, “You’re exactly the same person I broke up with.”
But, if you do something like active no contact, then they’re going to see a new side of you.
Then they’re going to know that they’re not walking back to the same relationship.
If you have put in some time to demonstrate to your ex that they’re not walking back into the same relationship, then that is a very, very strong sign that you will get back together with your ex after no contact.
3. Interacting with you feels good from your exe’s standpoint.
The third sign your ex will come back after no contact is that interacting what you feels good.
Say you’ve resolved whatever it caused the two of you to break up in the first place.
That’s very important.
But your ex also isn’t going to get back together with you just because of that. They’re going to need to actually feel moved on an emotional level.
This means interacting with you has to feel good.
It can’t just be like, “Oh hey, I promise I won’t cheat on you anymore.”
No, interacting with you has to feel good on an emotional level, right?
In order to do that, you have to really get good at bonding and connecting with your ex.
You have to get good at creating emotional interactions that uplift both of you and make things feel good.
I know it seems really obvious when I explain this, but the interactions between you and your ex have to feel good on an emotional level.
You might think, “Yeah, duh!”
But a lot of times, people lose sight of this.
They focus on things besides the emotional connection between them and their ex.
They focus on things like text messages and what it means if their ex unfollows them on social media.
Or if their ex liked this post that they put on some website.
Or what it means if their ex put up an online dating profile.
What I’m saying is you don’t need to worry about any of that if you just focus on making the interactions between the two of you feel good.
Also, it doesn’t hurt to fix whatever caused the break up in the first place.
4. You are out of damage control mode.
The fourth sign that you will get back together with your ex after no contact is you have gotten out of damage control mode.
Damage control mode is that mental place of panic and anxiety that people find themselves in immediately after a breakup.
A lot of times people think that time heals all wounds.
So if you just use no contact to get your ex back, you’ll get out of damage control mode, but that’s not true.
Time can turn down the volume on some of these things but if you still have not really resolved a lot of the deeper feelings you might be experiencing, you still can easily slip back into damage control mode with your ex.
An offhand remark that your ex makes can send you into a panic.
News that your ex is dating somebody else or you saw their online dating profile or they posted something about how they’re glad to be single can send you right back into damage control mode.
So it’s really important that you do your best to get out of damage control mode because it is almost impossible to have an interaction with your ex that feels good if you are coming from a place of damage control mode.
You must get out of damage control mode if you want to get back together with your ex.
5. You don’t give up easily.
The fifth, very strong sign your ex will come back after no contact is that you’re not the kind of person who gives up easily.
This is the most important sign you’ll get back together that I’ve seen with people who I have worked with over the years.
I wish there was a way to say this and make it different, but getting back together with your ex is not going to be a smooth journey.
There are going to be ups and downs, there will be setbacks, your ex will act hot and cold.
Your ex will probably do things like go through the stage of getting back together called “Riding The Dragon” where they give you mixed messages.
One day they’re really into you.
The next day they’re cold.
There’s going to be positive pullbacks and all sorts of things that come up along the way.
And if you’re the kind of person that gives up easily, then you’re going to have a really hard time getting your ex back.
Because when those setbacks happen, you’re much more likely to give up.
You’re much more likely to retreat.
But if you know what you want and if you’re willing to stick with it, if you’re willing to just set your sights on what you want, you are much more likely to actually get it in the long run.
And that includes getting back together with your ex.
The people who I’ve worked with that have been the most successful are the ones who don’t give up easily. They are the ones that know what they want and they’re willing to go after it.
I hope this has helped you know if you have a good chance of getting back together with your ex after no contact.
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