4 Pieces Of TERRIBLE Breakup Advice To Avoid At All Costs

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This is about about getting back together with your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend. In fact, this is a must read if you’re trying to reverse a breakup because in it I’m going to tell you why you absolutely must ignore a few pieces of very common bad breakup advice.

Why should you listen to me?

My name is Brad Browning and some people like to call me breakup Brad.

For the last 10 years or so, I’ve been helping people from around the world get a second chance with an ex. And currently, my YouTube channel has around 175,000 subscribers and almost 30 million views. My best-selling comprehensive program, The Ex Factor has sold a little over 100,000 copies.

I want to share some very common things that many people are going to tell you when they learn that you’re unhappy with your recent breakup and that you’re trying to win back your ex.

In fact, I’m sure most of you have already heard a few these pieces of breakup advice from your friends and your family, which is why you really need to pay close attention to what I’m about to cover.

Before I begin let me just quickly mention that when people tell you most of the things I’m about to talk about they’re generally doing it with the best intentions.

The simple fact is that the strategies and tactics that you need to use to get your ex back are generally really counterintuitive.

What you think would be a logical strategy to get your ex back and cause them to take you back is often actually going to hurt your chances and do more harm than good.

That’s why it can be really dangerous to listen to advice from anyone who doesn’t really know what they’re talking about.

In fact, even a lot of the so-called breakup experts on the internet don’t have any real experience or any real clue what they’re talking about. Some do, but a lot of are just looking for an easy cash grab. Just be careful who you listen to.

Anyway, OK, let’s get onto it. Let’s dive straight into the first piece of bad breakup advice that people are going to say to you that you should completely ignore.

1. You shouldn’t try to get back together with your ex at all or your ex just isn’t right for you.

Again, this is usually something that your friends and family will say to you because they either want you to avoid having your heart broken again (as though that’s guaranteed to happen if you get back together and it definitely isn’t), or because they are not particularly fond of your ex in general.

These are fairly normal opinions that your closest friends and family have a right to voice. But they don’t know what goes on in your head or how your relationship was behind closed doors when they weren’t around.

Simply put, no one else can tell you whether you should or shouldn’t be with somebody.

It’s your decision.

No one else can make that decision for you because they simply don’t know how you feel or what you really want out of your relationship.

Granted it’s definitely wise to ask yourself whether your ex is the right person for you before you start winning him or her back.

But if you already know your ex is who you want then you can just tune anyone out who tries to talk you out of it. It’s your life and no one else is in a position to tell you how you feel or what you should want.

2. Simply tell your ex how you feel about them.

Moving on, the next piece of common bad breakup advice you might have already heard is to tell your ex how you really feel about them.

This is a line that parents will often use and it’s essentially it’s their way of saying, “all you can do is tell your ex how much you love them and hope for the best.” 

Well, no offense to all the people who said that to you since your breakup but they’re telling you the exact opposite of what you should really be doing if you do want to win back your ex.

Spilling your heart out in front of your ex or writing them a sappy love note are almost always a sure fire ticket to failure.

So, please never listen to anyone telling you to do those things.

There may come a time when being truthful about your feelings for your ex may be OK, but for now you need to avoid doing anything like that.

In fact, you actually need to be doing the opposite.

You need to make your ex think that you don’t give a crap about the breakup and that you’re the kind of amazing catch that they’d be crazy to let walk out of their life.

Fundamentally changing how your ex thinks about you and your relationship is the first step to making him her come crawling back to you.

Head over to my website and watch the full instructional video I’ve got up here.

In that video I talk all about the psychological technique that’s crucial if you want to win your ex back.

3. Only start dating again when you’re “ready.”

Another thing that people will tell you is that you should only start dating again when you’re really and truly ready.

They give you the whole, “take your time, don’t rush into any new relationships until you’re ready,” type of argument.

I think this piece of advice is almost always given to you with your best interests in mind but it’s also just wrong.

You should start going on dates and hang out with members of the opposite sex as soon as possible.

Even if you don’t want to be with anybody else and dating is the last thing you feel like doing right now, it’s always healthy and it’s a very powerful tactic for getting your ex back.

Even if the jealousy and other benefits that come from openly beginning to date new people again doesn’t make an impact on your ex, (although it generally does) but on the rare chance that it doesn’t make your ex jealous, it’s also going to help keep your mind off the breakup.

Dating will help you start to move on and maybe even lead you into a new, better relationship.

Regardless of how things pan out, you should ignore anybody who tells you not to rush back into the dating game. As soon as you can, get yourself out there and start hanging out with new people and going on dates.

All right, I’ve got one more piece of bad breakup advice to share before we wrap this up:

4. You should get revenge on your ex.

Sometimes you may hear people tell you that you should get revenge on your ex.

Now, I don’t want to generalize here but often the people who tell you that type of thing are the same people that end up in unhealthy relationships full of drama, jealousy, cheating and nasty breakups.

Sure, maybe your ex did do something terrible to you and maybe you’re still mad about that. That’s fair enough.

But if whatever they did was so bad that you’re now determined to get back at them and seek vengeance then you probably need to think twice about actually whether you want to really get back together with that person in the first place.

Quite frankly, even though I’m not here to preach morality to you or talk you out of trying to get revenge for your ex if they did something horrible to you, I also know that it almost never works out in the end.

At best, you’ll get a few days of cheap satisfaction but more likely you’ll just end up looking petty, burning bridges and feeling just the same as you did before.

My advice and is just to forget about trying to get back at your ex or seeking revenge because it’s just not worth the effort.

Maybe someone you know has given you some advice on how to win back your ex and you want a second opinion about whether you should actually listen to whatever they’ve said to you.

Or, maybe someone else has told you something that that contradicts what I’ve said and you want to hear my take on that. Whatever your question or comment, please just leave it in the comments below.

All right. It’s time for you to start taking control of your situation and beginning the process of changing your ex’s mind about the breakup.

The best place to start is at my website where you can watch my full how-to video and learn the psychological techniques that will have your ex begging you for a second chance.

Click here get started watching now.

Brad Browning

About Brad Browning

Brad Browning is a relationship coach specializing in breakups and divorce. Based in beautiful Vancouver Canada, Brad has worked with thousands of men and women around the world, helping to reverse breakups, stop divorce, and mend broken relationships.

Brad is author of two best-selling online programs: The Ex Factor, which teaches readers how to get their ex back, and Mend the Marriage, which helps readers to revive a dying marriage. He also offers personal coaching to a limited number of clients, guiding them through the process of winning back an ex or rescuing a marriage from the brink of collapse.

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