Have you ever noticed a chick staring at you and wondered what she was thinking?
Does she think you’re cute?
Has she spotted some leftover lettuce in your teeth from lunch? If your fly is down?
Trying to tell if a woman likes you by just looking at her is like trying to teach your cat a backflip. Pretty unrealistic.
Women have mastered the art of mixed signals and playing hard to get.
So trying to tell if a woman likes you just by a glance is a pretty difficult, if not impossible, feat.
Women will, however, send subtle signs that indicate that they are interested in you with more than just a look. And that is what this is all about:
The subtle physiological signs that let you know what a woman is thinking about you.
I’m Kate Spring, a dating and relationship coach from the west coast of Canada. If you’re new to my work, welcome.
If you haven’t got a clue, relax because women have been encouraged to be coy and play hard to get for centuries with the notion that romantic uncertainty increases attraction, and it does. But don’t remain uncertain.
There are signs that give a clear indication a woman is interested in you because today body language is a topic widely observed and studied.
In fact, we’re now able to interpret slight changes in a woman’s body that can reveal her true feelings and motivations.
Unlocking the mystery of a woman’s attraction can be as simple as looking for these 5 physiological indicators a girl is into in you.
1. Her pupils dilate when she speaks to you.
You know the saying that “the eyes are the window to the soul”?
I think it should be, “the eyes are the window to the libido.”
I once thought that this was a fallacy, a myth circulated by one of the original pick up artists, but, upon looking more deeply into the topic, I was pleasantly surprised that there is considerable research that supports the idea that there is a biological response to attraction.
The studies found that our pupils dilate up to three times the regular size when we see something stimulating, exciting or interesting in order to take in more of the pleasing surroundings.
In fact, women in 16th century Italy would take this medicine named “belladonna,” which would keep their pupils dilated because dilated pupils were seen as more attractive and seductive.
It follows, then, that when you want to tell if a woman likes you, see if her pupils are dilated when she’s talking to you.
It’s also important to note here that if you’re in a dark room, her pupils will enlarge as a simple fact that there is not enough light in the room. So try to see it in different lighting.
2. Her feet are crossed.
One of the physiological ways to tell if a girl is into you– not that she wants to marry and have children with you-– but that she’s interested in at least talking to you, is if she is standing facing you and her feet are crossed.
When someone is uncomfortable, their feet generally don’t point towards the person with whom they’re speaking. Their feet tend to point away, and only their torso is facing their conversation partner.
Subconsciously, their feet are preparing for them to exit the conversation.
However, when someone’s feet are pointed towards you, that means that they are engaged in the conversation and are in no rush to get away.
And an even better sign a girl is into you is when a woman’s feet are crossed. When her feet are crossed, it’s much harder to make a quick getaway.
This is a sign that a woman is essentially planting herself in this spot and is engaged in her conversation with you, which is a great sign she’s interested in you.
So look at her feet, are they pointed towards you, or are they crossed?
If so, take note that this is a subconscious response that she is interested in you and this interaction.
3. She looks at you when she laughs.
One of the very absurd psychological and biological ways to tell if a girl is into you is if she looks at you when she laughs.
When you’re in a group setting, and someone says something funny or tells a joke that elicits some laughter and a woman looks at you, she is looking for your reaction to see if you thought that it was funny too.
She’s making subconscious observations and wants to know what you think is funny because she is thinking long-term if you have a similar sense of humor, which will let her know how you could potentially function as a pair.
If she keeps looking at you for your reactions, that is one way to tell that she’s interested.
But one caution would be to not stare at her and wait for her reaction. She might wonder why you’re looking at her and then your encounter could get a little awkward.
In your quest for signs she’s interested in you, be sure to practice the art of subtlety.
4. She contacts you first.
This next sign a woman is into you that I want to touch on is not so physiological, but an obvious one and that is if a woman contacts you first.
If she reaches out via text, Facebook, Instagram dms, phone, email — whatever messaging service you use — this is a pretty good indication that this woman is:
a) thinking about you and
b) wants to connect!
Not all women sit back and wait to be pursued. Some women take initiative and go after what they want.
So if a woman is the first one to reach out, then she’s trying to make a connection.
If she constantly reaches out first, then that could be a pretty good indication that she has positive feelings towards you, or is at least trying to get to know you better so that she can determine the degree to which she likes you.
And a subcategory of this one is that if she asks you to hang out.
This one is a pretty obvious indicator she’s interested in you, and one that some men are lucky enough to receive.
If a woman asks you to meet up, she wants to see you and see where things go!
5. She asks you personal questions.
When we are just getting to know people, we start by asking simple questions, questions that are easy to answer and keep the conversation light, fun and flirty.
But, as things progress, and people try to make a connection with you, they start to dig deeper and ask more personal questions.
The intention behind it is to hear stories about your life and try to get a sense of what your life genuinely looks like. And, subconsciously, a woman is trying to imagine herself in your life.
The main reason why people ask personal questions is to not only get to know someone, but to also make a connection.
We’re always trying to connect with people, and if you and a woman are spending time together, and she’s asking you personal questions, then she could be trying to get to know you on a deeper level and trying to make connections between your lives.
To remember what we have learned, begin by imagining – a scenario in which a beautiful woman stands before you.
- Look into her eyes, are they dilated?
- Now observe her feet and how she is standing. When the conversation begins and you tell a joke, does she look at you when she laughs?
- After you part ways, does she contact you first?
- And if she does, does she ask personal questions?
These are all sneaky ways to tell a girl is into you.
This is Kate Spring signing off with a little reminder that a woman’s body is a book that, for an attentive reader, offers the keys to the mystery of attraction and the pleasures that accompanies it.
To learn more about building and maintaining attraction with a woman then head over to my free presentation on building attraction here.
