What Does It Mean When Your Ex Won’t Respond After No Contact?

Today I want to talk about what to do if you’ve gone through the whole act of going through the no contact rule. Then it comes time to reach out to your ex, and you do that.

Maybe you contact your ex using some of the templates that we give you in the Ex Solutions Program, but they don’t respond or write back.

What does it mean when you get that sort of radio silence on from your ex?

I want you to know that it’s not necessarily a bad thing if your ex won’t text you back right away after no contact.

It doesn’t mean that you blew your chances at getting back together and it’s not going to work out, or anything like that.

Often times, your ex may need a little bit of time to really percolate on what you said or what they are going through themselves. They need time to really decide on their own if they want to reach out to you or if it’s in their best interest to reach out to you.

And, just because you sent your ex a message and they don’t respond back to you immediately or within a day, that’s not necessarily a bad thing.

It just means that your message is in there, it’s having an impact.

It may just take a little bit of time for it to work its way through for them to realize, “Okay, yeah, I should probably get back to this person and just say ‘Hey’, or just respond.”

It can take, sometimes, several weeks for them to make that decision. And, it’s okay.

Don’t make a big deal about how your ex responds.

Getting your ex back is not always this like chain reaction of like, “A” happens, then “B” immediately happens.

Sometimes there’s a bit of a lag between those two, and when you’re reaching out to your ex, this is definitely one of those cases when there’s that lag.

So, don’t freak out if your ex doesn’t write you back right away.

Generally, what we recommend is, if they don’t write back, it’s okay to contact them again about a week later.

But, again, we talk about that in the program. We tell you exactly how to contact your ex.

You want to keep perspective and focus. Things don’t necessarily have to happen immediately.

You can actually have a deep impact on your ex without it necessarily showing up on the surface right away.

All hope is not lost if they don’t write back right away.

It may just be a matter of time before your ex gets back to you. It may just be a matter of waiting a few more days, or a week or two, before they actually respond back to you.

I hope that helps you out and gives you a little bit more perspective on how things work and also not to give up hope if you’re not getting that response right away from your ex.

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3 thoughts on “What Does It Mean When Your Ex Won’t Respond After No Contact?”

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    Help! My ex and I broke up about a month ago after a bad fight. She said she felt so guilty and she could never see me again- and blocked me on most modes of communication. I immediately went into no contact for 45 days. Today I tried to message her- a nice positive note, and not only did she not reply, she blocked me on that social media app as well!! Help ! What can I do? Or is it hopeless and I should just move on.

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      Hi Danny,

      Sorry to hear your ex didn’t respond well to your note. One notable thing was that she is definitely emotionally reactive toward you.

      In this case, I’d suggest that you go ahead and leave her alone until maybe in the future she chooses to reach out to you. Perhaps she’s just not ready to talk.

      Hope that helps some, and you’re not alone in this. I talk to people often who end up in a situation where their ex just isn’t feeling being in touch. Often that changes with time, but I don’t want to give you false hope.



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    Hi, my ex and I broke up a month ago. Dated for almost a year. He is divorced for a year (separated for 2.5 years) and I’m in the process of finalizing a divorce. We broke up a few months ago. His choice. Said he needed some space and he had to concentrate on work and his kids. I reached out weeks later and he was so happy to hear from me, missed me and we got back together. It was a loving relationship with great intimacy and fun. This last break up was brought on by me. We had a great night and toward the end the night I was complaining about him not spending enough time with me. He works a lot. I left his house saying I needed more and I needed the space this time. Was hoping he would give me more. He didn’t want to break up that night and asked I think about it and we talk the next day. I tried calling and texting him the next day and he wouldn’t answer. This went on an entire week. I would send messages each day asking if we could sit down to talk and work things out. He was silent. He finally answered by text a week later saying I was the most amazing women he ever met but he doesn’t think we should see each other anymore and I deserve someone who will treat me the way I should be treated. He said he thinks he should experience being single. He has always told me how I am different than other women, that we have a special connection, he’s very attracted to me and always wanted me in his life even if was just friends if we didn’t work out. Said he met me for a reason. I don’t know if this is just a bad timing thing. He had a few flings before me but I was the first person he dated post divorce. He was my second post divorce. Seems to me he needs to get it out of his system to sleep with some women before settling down. Mid life crisis thing. I messaged back saying I respected his choice but hope he will change his mind. He didn’t answer. It’s been 15 days of NC. He hasn’t reached out to me and I haven’t reached out to him. I miss him so much and regret my decision. Do you suggest a 30 day NC, longer or indefinite NC in hopes he will come back to me someday.

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