5 Deep Things Men Find Attractive About Women That Are NOT Physical


I’m Nadine Piat, the creator of Healthy You Healthy Love and today, I’m about to reveal what men find attractive in women.

First, let me make one thing clear.

We won’t be discussing clothes or body shapes or what’s the so-called perfect face symmetry for attraction or the ratio between hips and waist that research claims is so irresistible to men because of the evolutionary reasons.


Today, let’s talk about what’s below this and let’s go deeper than skin deep because it’s what comes from the inside that makes a woman beautiful. It’s what keeps the love alive and what men really want in a long-term relationship partner.

1. Genuine.

First and foremost, it is the real you that is the sexy you and having the confidence to show it.

Be genuine always.

I know the online world isn’t making this easier as we’re living in a world of filters for our pics and pressure to glamorize our lives or even pretend to like things that we don’t actually like or care about at all to be accepted.

What men find attractive is not a woman in disguise or a woman who buys into empty fabrication. They want a real woman.

Your unique realness could be just what he’s looking for.

Now I’m not for one minute suggesting you go on a date and share your dirty laundry with the man you’ve only recently or just met. That is not wise dating. If I was on a date with a man who decided to off load all these past and present challenges in the first few weeks of meeting, there would be a very good chance he wouldn’t be seeing me again.

Not because he has issues— we’ve all got stuff happening in our lives— but because he felt the need to express it all so soon.

It’s a case of oversharing too much, too soon.

To say you’re having challenges with your teenage daughter is one thing. To go into the situation in great detail is another. Just be mindful of what you share.

The kind of uniqueness I want you to reveal is your unique personality, your true interests and even quirks.

Trying to pretend to be like him actually wastes your time and his as you end up attracting men for the wrong reasons.

The truth is nobody is happy pretending except actors. But that’s their job. So don’t make yourself unhappy by posing as someone else. You are beautiful and smart all on your own. Don’t be afraid to let your personality shine.

2. Intelligence.

Speaking of smart, this brings me to the second thing men find really attractive about women, brains. That’s right. The men who are worth your love like smart women.

Intelligence is sexy. Way sexier than a perfect body.

Why are your brains so sexy?

Because intelligence is substance.

If there’s one bit of a relationship advice you need to remember is that real relationships have substance.

They don’t survive on looks alone or other superficial attractions.

But beware here.

Intelligence does not mean you should be cocky, which is more of an ego-driven kind of vibrato.

Arrogance is not sexy which leads to my next point.

3. Confidence.

Confidence is what men truly find sexy and is a major turn on and not just for men.

Think about it.

Who would you rather be with?

A strong confident man who knows who he is, what he wants and how to get it with integrity in his heart or someone who’s uncertain about everything and questions his own values, constantly relies on you to boost him up or tries to boost himself up with superficial pretense?

I bet you wouldn’t choose the second guy.

That’s what men find attractive in a woman too.

Yes, some traditions and primal conditioning still lives in the veins and hearts of many men. They still want to help you and be your hero in some way.

Even though this is true, the evolutionary man has changed with the times and can appreciate a woman who’s their equal partner.

I don’t necessarily believe that en and women will ever be the same, but men are not looking for a weakling that needs support and protection to survive.

There are other ways to be protective after all.

Did I say protective?

I sure did. And this is the next thing men find attractive that every woman needs to know.

4. Dedication and loyalty.

Men appreciate care and loyalty in a woman.

No happy relationship is made up of one person who constantly gives and another who constantly takes. Happy, united, and meaningful relationships involve a healthy dose of both giving and taking.

Not always at the same time, but overall the giving and recieving is well balanced out.

You know you have both each other’s back.

If you’re a genuinely caring person, this will come naturally to you and make you irresistible to men.

You probably already know this little secret about men. But if you forgotten it, let me refresh your memory.

Men are like plants. They need you to regularly water them with care to flourish. And loyalty is the basis of trust.

Would you want to be with someone you can’t trust?

Someone you’re constantly afraid will betray you the first chance he gets?

Well, neither do men.

The way you treat your friends, the way you treat other people in general, shows whether your loyal and a man can see this quite easily when you start dating.

Why is loyalty so important to men?

Because men want to reveal their tenderness, their more emotional selves. They don’t want to bottle up their deeper desires and vulnerabilities. They want someone they can finally open up to.

That said, be mindful here. Being a doormat is not the same thing as being caring. So be careful to not mix up the two things.

So if you want to know what men love about women, there it is.

Loyalty is sexy.

They might never tell you this out right but it’s true and it’s what men find beautiful in a woman. Actually, it makes you rather irresistible to men.

To support you with this, I suggest you check out my presentation– the #1 secret to getting the love you want. I explore this point and other critical points in-depth.

I’m not finished yet because the fifth thing men want in a woman is critical…

5. Go easy on the drama.

It’s amazing how many women are ready to turn a man’s life into a daytime TV soap opera because their fears are running their life— not trust and love.

Men don’t really like unnecessary drama.

And, I’m sure neither do you, so don’t use drama to draw him in. If you have a natural tendency to dramatize, try to rein it in. it will be better for everyone.

It’s OK to be direct at times and have healthy boundaries but drama is not what men want.

It’s one thing is to challenge him from time to time. Men actually respect and appreciate this in a woman. Though, they don’t like a dictator or irrational behavior that goes around and around in circles. He won’t trust you if you operate from this place. Most importantly, his heart won’t trust you which is what my program Unlock His Heart is all about.

So there you have it. What men find attractive in women that will make you absolutely irresistible.

And, the kind of men you deserve, NOT the ones who are looking for a trophy, a handbag or a doormat.

So be caring, be loyal, be confident, and be your authentic self while also maintaining a seductive amount of mystery. And lastly, be genuine with him about what truly matters to you.

To find out more about how to make him putty in your hands and ensure he only has eyes for you, don’t miss out on the #1 secret to get the love you WANT from a man.

I appreciate you and see you again very soon.

Nadine Piat

About Nadine Piat

Nadine Piat is certified coach, author, speaker and creator of 4 bestselling relationship programs including Unlock His Heart and Never Lose Him. 

She has over 10 years of experience teaching people how to build attraction, create soulful love, cultivate unshakeable confidence, bolster their self-worth and gracefully communicate.

One Comment

  1. Linda Stanley

    March 25, 2019 at 2:49 am

    I agree with the idea that intelligence makes an important contribution to attracting the men. Another aspect I want to recommend is her sense of humor, I think so. Anyway, thanks for your sharing.

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