8 Good Reasons It’s Time To Breakup And MOVE ON

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Wondering if your relationship has passed it’s sell by date and maybe it’s time to breakup?

Sometimes it just feels vaguely like things aren’t going great but you aren’t quite sure whether it’s time to try to repair your relationship or kiss it goodbye. The limbo phase sucks, so let’s talk about some solid reasons to end things.

Some of this seems obvious, but when you’re stuck in a crappy relationship:

a. Doesn’t feel so cut and dried

b. Helps to see it written out, glaring you in the face.

Here are some really good reasons to break up with them and move on:

1. There is abuse.

This seems obvious, but abuse the single most important reason to leave on this list. My hope is that if this is you, you’ll read this and the lightbulb will finally go on.

Remember that abuse isn’t just physical and comes in all shapes and sizes. It is not gender specific and crosses all demographics. If you’re being abused, please, please start taking steps to leave right now.

2. You’ve lost yourself.

Losing yourself in a relationship sneaks up on you.

Like a frog being cooked in a pot, usually you don’t realize that your passions have fallen by the wayside until the nagging feeling that you’re just a shadow of your former vibrant self.

This happens for several reasons. It can be because you don’t have a partner who shares or at least encourages you to follow your passions. It can also be a result of letting yourself go physically as your relationship wears on.

Either way, it can feel like you’ve so solidly melded into coupledom that YOU has been replaced with WE in a way that makes you feel dead inside. You can definitely get yourself back while staying in a relationship, but if your partner has seriously stifled your growth then it might really be time to go.

3. No matter what you’ve tried, you can’t get your sex life back on track.

Sex is super important. The connection it fosters between a couple simply can’t be replaced any other way.

I don’t advocate dumping someone cold if things get slightly stale. There’s plenty that can be done. However, a partner who refuses to meet your needs or vice versa is the death knell for a relationship, especially when you’ve tried everything and still can’t get the passion back on track.

4. You’re sad way more often than you’re happy.

This is common when you’ve been fighting constantly. Another sign that your happiness train has gone off the track is when you’re constantly asking friends for advice about whether to end it. Since your friends won’t always level with you and tell you the ugly truth, let me be the bearer of the bad news.

A good relationship will make you happy way more often than it will make you cry.

5. The trust is long gone.

Obviously, cheating, lying, repeated breakups and suspicion all erode your bond. When the feeling of safety that you should share has been replaced with mistrust, it’s really difficult to for the relationship to recover.

6. You’re cheating.

This reason to breakup seems like it should fall into the “no, duh” category, but it’s more common than it seems. If you’re having an affair, contemplating one, or have already cut a new pony from the herd, you owe it to your current partner to recognize it’s time breakup with them and move on.

7. You have major, insurmountable philosophical/lifestyle/child rearing differences.

These are the big things, like you wanting kids and your mate doesn’t or vice versa. These are the life decisions that can’t be negotiated, only moved on from.

Ignoring your relationship non-negotiables like this is a ticking time bomb, eventually it will all blow up. Rather than get to that point, it’s time to sit down and discuss the fact that you want to live in a commune or ___(insert insurmountable obstacle here)____.

8. On again, off again is giving you whiplash.

The breakup, makeup cycle is a hard spiral to pull yourself out of. If you’ve started this cycle with a lover, know that 99.99% of the time it ends horribly and just plain isn’t worth it.

This is because what brings you back for more usually can’t overcome the erosion of trust caused by repeated breakups.

What if things between you used to be great but he’s pulled away?

Was he super into you but over time he just got distant?

Are you LAST on his priority list?

If you’re wondering whether it’s time to breakup with him or you’re just totally fed up, then you have to see this.

It’s about something called “The Gap” which is maybe the number one cause of misunderstandings between men and women.

The shocking thing is how this can subtly it can destroy otherwise healthy relationships.

If you’re going through this or know someone who is, watch this video to learn how to bridge “The Gap” and bring him close again.

Elizabeth Stone

About Elizabeth Stone

Elizabeth Stone is a bestselling author, head love coach and founder of Attract The One.

Through her coaching, writing and online programs she has helped thousands of women reunite with their men and create amazing, soul-level connections. She is thrilled to have helped so many couples reignite the spark in their relationships.

Tirelessly focused on helping people improve their love lives, her work has gone viral on Your Tango and Thought Catalog as well as been featured on EHarmony Blog, Mogul, The Good Men Project, Fox News Magazine, Ravishly, Femalista, Popsugar, Read Unwritten, Medium and many more.

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