Here’s how to get your ex back after cheating on them.
My name’s Brad Browning. I’m a relationship coach and the author of “The Ex Factor,” a comprehensive guide to winning back an ex.
I don’t have to explain to you why cheating on the person you love is a bad idea in the first place and that it can have serious consequences. You already know that, so I won’t preach about why you shouldn’t cheat on your boyfriend or girlfriend.
In reality, we’re all human, and we all make mistakes from time to time.
Now that you’ve accepted the fact that your infidelity cost you the person you love, it’s time to talk about how to get him or her back and start over.
1. Don’t deny that you cheated.
First thing, don’t deny it or fight your ex about the cheating.
After you’ve cheated on your partner, he or she is going to feel incredibly betrayed. They’re going to see you differently, and they’re going to have a very hard time loving you at the moment. Accept that this is the case, and don’t fight with your ex about why you cheated or who it was with, or how much you’re sorry.
If he or she broke up with you because you cheated, you will need to accept it and begin thinking about how to get them back. Once you’ve accepted their feelings of betrayal and anger, cut off communication with your ex for a while.
Your ex needs time to put the cheating behind you and to forget some of the hatred that your ex is probably feeling right now.
2. Do NOT beg for forgiveness.
Also, try to ignore your gut instinct to say “Sorry” a million times and beg for forgiveness. Even if you’re truly sorry, and hopefully you are, telling it to your ex again and again won’t help. Once you’ve done it once, a few times, that’s enough. Give your ex time and space while he or she begins to miss you.
3. Have patience.
Next, be patient with your ex, and wait until he or she is ready.
Let’s be realistic. It’s going to take a long time to get back together with your ex after you’ve cheated on him or her. It isn’t like any other breakup. Saving a relationship after cheating not as simple as other breakups.
The time required for your ex to miss you and want to be with you again could be longer than it would in other situations. So, patience is key here.
4. Accept full responsibility for cheating.
After this potentially lengthy period of your ex being angry and bitter at you, chances are your ex will actually start to miss you. Accept full responsibility for cheating on him or her.
5. Accept that your ex will punish you.
Your ex may attempt to punish you by seeing other guys or girls, by trying to make you jealous, etc. Don’t get angry. Don’t give in. Just accept the punishment for what it is, and keep going. If your ex doesn’t know who you cheated on him or her with, that is ideal.
Don’t give your ex any more details than are absolutely necessary, even if they ask for them.
Now, about starting over with your ex. After one partner cheats on another, their relationship will never be the same.
The trust has been broken, and although trust is something that can be built back up, it’s almost impossible to bring it back to the same level that it once was at.
If your ex chooses to forgive you and begin a new relationship with you, it should be a fresh start and a new relationship.
Wiping the slate clean and starting with a strong, new foundation is the only healthy way to begin dating your ex again.
Promise each other that you’re going to move forward without looking back. Your future relationship will always be marred by the scars of the past, and that’s not good. If your partner is going to dig at those old wounds whenever he or she feels the need to get back at you for something, chances are the two of you aren’t going to work out in the long run.
Best of luck during this difficult process. Don’t get discouraged, and keep at it until you finally have your ex back in your arms.
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