We’ve all been there before. You’re minding your own business, struggling to get through the day without thinking about your ex. Then, out of the blue, you run into them at the supermarket, kissing someone you’ve never seen before.
Crossing paths can be frustrating enough, but if you see or hear about your ex with somebody new, the pain can be almost unbearable. You might think that your dreams of getting back together with them are now dashed forever.
Actually, you’re wrong.
Just because your ex is already dating somebody new doesn’t mean your chances of getting him or her back are dashed forever.
On the contrary, this new person– your exe’s rebound relationship could actually help you get back together with your ex.
In fact, when you do this right you won’t even have to steal your ex back at all.
In a second, I’m going to explain further, but first I should probably introduce myself.
My name is Brad Browning. I’m a relationship coach and author of a best-selling program called The Ex Factor Guide, which outlines the process you need to follow if you want to win back your ex.
For more information on my program and additional free advice, go to my website here.
Let’s talk about why your ex dating somebody new is possibly a good thing for your chances of winning them back.
Often, people who’ve recently been through a breakup will try to jump into a new romance as quickly as possible.
You’ve probably heard the term rebound relationship before. The term rebound is definitely an appropriate one to describe this type of relationship because it basically means quickly finding a new lover after a breakup in order to help suppress the heartache and loneliness that follow.
If it’s only been a month or two since your breakup, and you’re in this situation where your ex is already dating somebody new, then it’s very likely that this new guy or girl your ex is with is a rebound.
Rebound relationships are rarely successful.
In rare cases, the rebound may eventually turn into something more genuine but that’s definitely an unlikely scenario.
Most of the time rebound relationships simply die away when they’ve served their purpose— which is to help your ex cope with their post-breakup blues because of you.
Think about it.
If finding a new lover and having a deep, meaningful relationship was easy and took just a matter of days, there wouldn’t be very many single people out there.
The reality is that most people aren’t compatible with one another, and it’s extremely likely that your ex and this new person are NOT right for one another.
As a result, their new relationship is usually a dead-end street and it won’t last long.
Most rebound relationship only last three to five weeks.
The few that survive longer typically tend to slowly die away after a month or two.
The physical attraction between your ex and their new lover may remain and I’m sorry if that’s painful news to hear. But that doesn’t mean they’re going to fall in love and live happily ever after.
On the contrary, in fact, they’ll probably be done with one another in no time at all.
So, how do you use your ex’s rebound relationship to help win him or her back?
We’ve already established the fact that the vast majority of rebound relationships only last three to five weeks and then come to an abrupt halt.
So, if your ex’s rebound is like most, then it’s already less than a month away from ending.
When your ex does end up breaking up with their rebound partner, he or she will be almost as depressed as they were when you originally broke up.
In fact, sometimes the end of a rebound relationship can actually be even worse than the initial breakup it was intended to cover up.
Well, it’s simple really. Your ex was sad and lonely, so he or she tried to replace YOU with this new person.
When they realized that they didn’t have any real future with this new guy or girl, those post-breakup emotions will come flooding back.
Only this time, your ex will also have discovered that finding true love and a meaningful relationship is not as easy as they had expected when they first broke up with you.
This new rebound lover wasn’t any good, so how many more people will your ex have to date before they find somebody who is compatible?
This is where you can probably start to see why your ex’s rebound relationship is actually good news for you and your chances of getting back together with your ex.
Because they’re now sad and lonely and the rebound has ended, your ex is now vulnerable.
And, having been through a superficial meaningless relationship with somebody else already, he or she is probably starting to have doubts about whether it was the right decision to break up with you in the first place. Your ex starts to think:
“Crap! That person I was dating was a rebound after all. I’m sure, I wasn’t born a loser.”
Your ex will think to themself after their rebound ends:
“I wonder if my ex was actually the right one for me. After all, we were happy most of the time we were together and things were definitely better than in my short-lived rebound relationship.”
Because your ex is having these second thoughts and doubting their decision to end the relationship with you, you’re in a perfect position to reestablish communication.
Your mission at this point should be to slowly but surely shift your exe’s image of you. You know, the image at the back of his or her mind that pops up when they hear your name into something positive and desirable.
By taking advantage of the fact that you suddenly look like a great option in contrast to the loser they were dating as a rebound, you can make yourself look like a much more desirable, logical choice for your ex.
Remember, at this point, they’re still coping with your break up and feeling heartbroken.
Getting back together with you is one way that your ex can end the pain they’re feeling now that the relationship is over and they’re suddenly faced with being single and lonely.
Like I said, your goal is to paint yourself in stark contrast to this new person your ex had been dating during the rebound.
For men, I call this psychological rewiring process alpha attraction.
For women, I refer to it as a magnetic attraction.
There’s a few key differences between men and women in each process but in both cases, it’s all about suddenly changing your ex’s feelings about you.
You can learn more about this system in the full-length video on my website.
Please do yourself a favor and take a few minutes to check out that video. It might make the difference between winning back your ex or watching them walk out of your life for good.
At this point, you might be skeptical about your ex’s new relationship.
You might be thinking that this new person your ex is seeing isn’t just a rebound.
Certainly, that is a possibility. I mean, there are some cases where rebound relationships can blossom into something more meaningful and long-lasting.
Most times, that’s not the case and people who jump into rebound relationships quickly after a breakup tend to lose interest in this person fairly rapidly. But if you do want my opinion on your specific situation, work with me on an on-going basis by signing up for my personal coaching service.
If you’re interested in learning about the details about how you can get my advice as you go through the process of winning back your ex, head to my website. I can’t guarantee how many coaching spots are available right now but you can always see my current availability.
Finally, I want to give you a word of warning:
If you want your ex back then do NOT do or say anything to try and sabotage your ex’s new relationship.
Don’t confront this new person your ex is dating, don’t insult or diss them in front of your ex and don’t talk openly with mutual friends about your ex’s new relationship or your intentions to try and get back together.
Instead, slowly rebuild your ex’s level of attraction for you until it reaches the point where your ex decides on his or her own accord to suggest to getting back together with you.
All the stuff I’ve been talking about here and everything in my Ex Factor Guide program is designed to be done subtly and gradually.