Today, I’m going to be continue my series about texting your ex.
Specifically, if your ex won’t respond to your messages, there is probably something going on.
Remember, your ex is having this whole journey through reactance that we talked about in the five stages of getting back together. So keep that in mind and that definitely could explain why your ex won’t respond to your texts.
All of that aside, there is one thing that people often do that actually discourages their ex from wanting to respond to them.
This is through the questions that they ask and the way that they text their ex and reach out to their ex.
First of all, some people don’t ask a question when they text their ex, right?
If your ex gets a text message from you and that message is like, “Look what I’m doing!” or something like that, your ex doesn’t know that you want them to respond, right?
They might think your text is just an update.
If you don’t ask them a question they might not know that you want them to respond.
It’s simple, but you need to ask your ex a specific question when you text them.
Second, you do not want to make a big ask when it comes to texting your ex.
One of the main mistakes people make is they try to get their ex to get back together with them through one text message.
They might send the wall of text type of message to their ex.
Or, at the end of their wall of text they might directly ask their ex questions like:
“Will you give me another chance?”
“Will we get back together?”
“Can you ever see yourself dating me in the future?”
These are very BIG asks for your ex.
They might not know the answer to that question right now because they’re going through their own emotional journey in the process of getting back together with you.
Your ex is going through the stages of getting back together I share inside The New Beginnings Course— from the wall of reactance, to test drive, to riding the dragon, to crisis point and eventually to the new beginnings stage.
They might not know if they want to get back together so they might not respond because they don’t know how to answer or they don’t want to make you feel bad by saying no.
You need to meet your ex where they’re at and speak to their emotional level.
This will help them feel a little bit more comfortable responding to your texts.
Also, get in the habit of asking smaller questions when you text your ex.
Instead of texting your ex something like:
“Will you get back together with me?”
“Will you go out on a romantic date with me?”
“Will you consider leaving your rebound so that we can give our relationship another shot?”
Try texting your ex smaller questions like:
“What’s the last thing that made you smile?”
“Are you reading any good books right now?”
“What’s the news about that event you told me that was coming up?”
Something as simple as that could make the difference between your ex not responding to you at all and actually wanting to engage with you on an emotional level.
Keep that in mind when it comes to interacting with your ex.
This is all based around the idea of meeting your ex where they’re at emotionally and building a solid foundation of emotional connection between you.
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