I don’t know about you, but words have the ability to make my heart sing and smile.
Sure, words with no follow through or words that don’t seem genuine never land too well and yet, words can influence our connections with others.
Today’s concept is pretty simple. Men love a little bit of word-action.
Just like you and me, men like to hear you say nice things even though not all words are alike.
What men like to hear from women is not necessarily the same as what women like to hear. So stay with me to find out the eight things men want to hear you say.
Why does this matter to you?
Because men want to spend time with the woman he feels good being around and words are a powerful way to create this kind of desire within him.
What you must know is it the things a man wants to hear are not necessarily something he’ll ever ask you to say because many men don’t feel comfortable expressing their needs or even consciously know what they need to feel connected, wanted and appreciated.
So when you say these specific things to a man, he’ll feel a flutter in his heart because he will feel that he’s valuable to you.
Men love this.
By the way I’m Nadine Piat, a dating and lasting attraction coach for women and the founder of Healthy You Healthy Love. I’m also the creator of four world-leading love and relationship programs including Unlock His Heart and Never Lose Him.
Here are eight nice things to say to a man or shout from the rooftops that make a man feel good.
1.Let him know you appreciate him.
Appreciation is fuel for any relationship.
Any man would love to hear he’s good at something and I don’t mean just sex.
He’d love it if you appreciate his job, handyman skills, the way he listened to you or the way he helped a friend in need.
And… if you say these kinds of appreciative words in front of his friends and family, he will love it even more. There’s nothing quite like praise in front of an audience.
2. Let him know you love him just the way he is.
An adult man is not an amorphous piece of potential for you to shape.
He’s an adult man who wants to hear few things more than that you love him exactly as he is and that he needs no “improvements.”
Sure, an effective relationship requires two people to be invested in learning and growing but you still have to love him for who he is today, not what he can potentially be or who you think he needs to be.
3. Minimize the drama between you.
Few men are fans of drama queens. Men like their lives easy rather than needlessly difficult.
So even after an argument, tell him you’re still good and confident you will work things out rather than punishing him for days with passive-aggressive torture or saying awful things you should never say to a man.
4. Let him know he makes you proud.
You’re with this man and not another because, amongst the many other things that attracted you to him, there is something that makes you proud.
Yes, proud to be with him. It could be his knowledge in an area or his capacity for compassion or anything really.
So tell him you’re proud of him. He’d love to hear it.
If you’re not proud of him, then perhaps it’s time to reassess the relationship. If you don’t like the character of the man you’re with, then this is something to reassess all together.
5. Let him know being with him adds to your happiness.
That’s the point, right?
You’re with him because he adds something to your life.
He may not be sure about how he makes you feel and as we all know, sadly, men are not mind readers, so let him know he makes you happy.
Of course, no man is responsible for your happiness though you’ve got a kind and loving man in your life who’s good to you, let him know it. This will make him feel good.
6. Be sure to let him know he can have his space.
He will love you forever for this. No one likes to feel confined in a relationship or under constant control.
If you feel he can do with that mood boost and you want to tell him something he’ll love, tell him it’s fine by you for him to have fun without you sometimes.
7. Let him know he’s useful.
Evolution is a process but men still like to feel useful and they like to hear it from you.
Yes, we’re perfectly capable of taking care of everything ourselves, but is it worth it when you can outsource stuff you don’t exactly enjoy or just to lighten the load? He’ll appreciate knowing he’s useful to you and take it as a compliment.
8. Let him know that you’re not always right.
Let’s be honest, a lot of us are very stubborn when it comes to admitting that we’ve done or said something abruptly, meanly or with lack of thought. Nobody likes it. But it’s a part of life. Nobody is perfect and nobody wants to be with someone who thinks they are never wrong.
Admitting you were wrong and saying sorry would make your man feel good. It will also make you feel good, I promise.
Humility is a necessary ingredient to reining out ego and building intimacy.
There you have it. It’s so simple. And this is one of those things you might want to save so you can refer back to it later. Because using these words is such an easy way to make someone you care about feel good about themselves and about your relationship.
Of course, please comment and share your thoughts about this. Maybe you have some sweet words of your own that men love to hear that you can share with us (or even words men don’t like to hear).
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