5 Sexy Ways To Spice Up Your Stale Relationship During Quarantine (Or Anytime You Want)

4 Sexy Ways To Spice Up Your Stale Relationship During Quarantine

Maintaining a relationship is an art. It requires intricate strokes, patience, and the ability to manifest something genuine from feelings alone.

At first, it seems effortless. However, beyond the honeymoon phase, it requires a fair amount of skill.

Nothing tests those skills like a quarantine.

There’s something about sharing your entire day with another person that feels exhausting, and it can absolutely take a toll on your relationship and ability to keep that sexual spark alive.

Intimacy is one of the most important factors in all of this, and while being stuck at home for months with a lover seems like it would make for a sexy Blockbuster (likely starring Marion Cotillard and Jude Law… sheesh, can you imagine?), it’s actually dampening the sexual chemistry between some partners and even causing entire relationships to wash away.

If you are finding that you and your partner are more like candles in the rain rather than the passionate firestorm you were before quarantine, here are some things you can try.

1. Get out of your PJ’s.

Now that we are home all day, and even working from home, it can be really tempting to spend the entire day in your PJs. Why not be cozy, right?

But, failing to change out of your pajamas in the morning sets a pretty lousy tone for the rest of the day. Not only does it affect the way you feel about and carry yourself, but it also influences the way your partner sees you.

Crusty sweatpants don’t exactly scream sensuality.

I’m not suggesting that you get dressed to the nines and keep your pinkie up all day long, but changing out of your PJs in the morning into something slightly more put together is going to make you feel sexier and make you more desirable to your partner. It can be as simple as moving from the jammies to some fresh jeggings.

2. Schedule intimacy.

Quarantine-times can feel a bit like the twilight-zone, except rather than being a Rod Sterling thriller, it’s more like Groundhog Day. As time goes on, it seems to feel like we are living the same day over and over again.

As a quarantined couple, you don’t want to find yourself wondering, “Did we have sex yesterday, or was that the day before?” When intimacy falls into a forgettable pattern, the value of those moments gets flushed down the toilet.

That’s why scheduling sexy nights can be a great idea.

Not only does it allow you to look forward to the intimate moments, but it also serves as a way to chop up the monotony that can form from living in this time-loop. If you’re the kind of couple that has sex every day (first of all, congratulations!), you can still schedule it. For some couples, this might be an after-dinner affair or a Saturday night affair.

3. Try something new in the bedroom.

Speaking of breaking up the monotony, I strongly encourage trying some new things in the bedroom. Turn your intimate experiences into memorable events. There’s a huge range of spicy things you can add to the bedroom.

Whether it’s a new toy, a new location (like the shower), or even just a new position, bringing novelty back into your sex life is a necessary practice if you want to keep things interesting. I suggest having a conversation with your partner about your/their fantasies. You two can even try watching pornography or reading erotica together to get ideas.

Learning what your partner’s fantasies and discussing your own are things that will make you better communicators, both inside and outside of the bedroom (or shower!).

4. Sexify your shared space.

Did you know that research suggests your space can strongly affect your emotions?

That’s why people say that a cluttered space leads to a cluttered mind. It’s a visual representation of how we are feeling on the inside, which is why it’s so important, especially during these confusing times, to keep your space clean. You can also enhance your experience with your partner by making it a little bit sexy!

The easiest way to do this is with scented candles. Not only do they add some romantic evening lighting, but they also send pleasing aromas into the air. Cinnamon-scented candles are some of the sexiest, as cinnamon has been linked to an increased libido for centuries.

If candles aren’t your speed, you can add flowers or decor items that incorporate touch, such as furry blankets or leather accents.

5. Respect each other’s personal space.

While we’re on the subject of space, it’s important for you and your partner to respect each other’s space while quarantined together.

Whether you live in a studio apartment or a mansion, you can designate areas of the home to one another. It might be that you work on opposite ends of the dining room table during the day, or remain quiet during certain hours. Maybe, you take walks separately throughout the day.

These small or brief moments of separation is going to make your time together much more enjoyable. Give you and your partner a chance to look forward to your togetherness, so that it’s even sweeter.

Share on facebook
Share on pinterest
Share on twitter
Share on email

Leave a Comment

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

FREE MASTERCLASS

7 Blocks to Manifesting Love

Find out the 7 sneaky blocks keeping you from manifesting an amazing, happy, connected relationship and exactly what you can do about them, starting immediately. Even if you’re single or “it’s complicated.”

Do NOT follow this link or you will be banned from the site!