How To Put The Spark Back In Your Relationship (7 Fun Ways To Fix Boring)


So, you’ve together for a while. But, lately, things have been feeling stale in your relationship. You don’t want to break up or get a divorce, but something has to change or your love life is out the door. So, how can you make your relationship feel fresh again?

I’m Amy North. I’m a relationship coach from Vancover and author of the bestselling program, “The Devotion System.”

Today, I’m going to share with you some tips for how to put the spark back in your relationship.

Before I get started, I just want to let you know that it’s quite common for long term relationships to feel a bit dull over time. So, don’t panic and think your love life is doomed. By simply following the seven tips that I’m about to share, you’ll be able to spice things up and put the spark back in your relationship in no time.

Now, let’s get started.

1. Be spontaneous.

Do you remember the beginning of your relationship how things just happened? There was no reason or rhyme for what you did together. No routine. No excuses. Drinking wine on a work night together seemed dreamy, and the late-night movie was never too late. Those are the nights you’ll never forget and the memories you’ll cherish forever.

What’s to thank for those moments? Spontaneity. That said, it’s not unusual for couples to get swept up in routine. While routine can be great for getting things done, it’s important to be spontaneous every now and then, too, especially if you’re looking to bring the spark back between you.

2. Kiss like you mean it.

Puckering up, smooching, lip locking, tongue wrestling, whatever you want to call it. It’s one of the most important parts of a relationship. Why? Because it’s a sign of being in love. If you’re at a point in your relationship where kissing has either left the building or becoming a monotonous task, then it’s important to bring it back.

To do so, make a point to kiss your partner more often and more passionately. Remember, a quick peck on the lips isn’t going to stir up much emotion.

3. Try new things together.

Everyone knows at least one perfect couple. You know, the ones who go rock climbing every Wednesday, spend their weekends on kayaking trips, take road trips, and have countless stories together.

As much as those couples seem perfect, the secret behind a loving relationship is a willingness to do and try new things together. Experiencing something new and exciting with your partner is a great way to bring the spark back because you’re sharing it together. By making a point to put yourselves out there, your relationship will be feeling rejuvenated in no time.

4. Touch each other.

When it comes to sex and other intimate activities, every couple is different. For instance, some couples get close once a month. Others, once a week. Others find time to get frisky every single day.

There is no right or wrong answer here and no magic number you need to reach. What is important is realizing that making time to touch one another will strengthen the bond you share. Whether this means holding hands more often, cuddling, massaging, or having sex, when you do make a point to physically connect with your man, you’ll emotionally connect, too.

To learn more about how you can physically reconnect with your man, visit my website and watch the free video presentation.

5. Be open about your feelings.

One of the most common problems so many couples face is a lack of communication. The problem with this is that when you don’t share what’s on your mind, your partner will never know how you feel.

In order to get the spark back in your relationship, it’s crucial that you open up the communication lines between you. Make time to talk about your feelings, wants, needs, desires and dreams. Tell your man when you feel neglected, bored, frustrated, or sad. Only after you are honest about your feelings will your relationship improve.

6. Go on dates.

This one may sound a bit obvious, but you’d be surprised how many couples let dates disappear once they’re comfortable with one another.

Instead of replacing a night out with Netflix on the couch, keep your dating habits alive. It doesn’t matter how busy you are with work, family, kids, pets, whatever, there should never be a reason to put these romantic rendezvous on the back burner. If you want to get the spark back, then this is a big one for getting back on the right track.

7. Reminisce about your relationship.

There’s no better feeling than the one you get while talking about the early days of your relationship with your partner recalling how the two of you got together. Sharing your first memorable moments will not only make you feel closer as a couple but it can also help to reignite the spark between you.

However, don’t get stuck living in the past. If all you’re doing is talking about how things used to be, then your man is going to get tired of hearing about it.

Now that you know what needs to be done to bring the spark back to your marriage or relationship, it’s time go and do it. Even if you feel like you’re in this alone right now, once you get some of these tips into play, you’ll be amazed at how quickly your partner responds.

To learn more about how to put the spark back in your relationship and get your guy’s attention, head over to my website and watch that free video presentation.

Amy North

About Amy North

Amy North is the dating coach and author behind the bestselling programs, The Devotion System which explains how to find and keep the man of your dreams and Text Chemistry which helps women magnetize men using simple, easy text messages.

Coach Amy North specializes in breakups, marital issues, and dating for women, and offers relationship coaching to clients from around the world.

Her background in both psychology and journalism makes Amy a highly sought-after relationship expert. With thousands of subscribers and millions of views, her popular YouTube channel has become a smash hit with women all over the world.

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