When you find yourself smitten, it can be hard to get the guy you’re into off your mind.
From daydreaming about your future together to reminiscing about the last date you went on, he may be monopolizing all of your thoughts.
So, how can you do the same to him? How can you get your man to fall in love with you and think about you and only you?
Would you believe me if I said that setting the right tone in your text messages can do the trick and make him feel that intense love and desire for you? Keep reading to find out how.
Hey, ladies, Amy North here. For those of you who don’t know me, I’m a relationship coach from Vancouver BC. You may recognize me from my program, The Devotion System, which is a woman’s guide for finding and locking down the love you want and deserve.
Today I want to talk about something that so many of us women find ourselves faced with at some point or another.
And… that’s getting the guy you’re crazy about to feel the same way about you.
Before I jump into five things you can and should do in your flirty texts to make those lovey-dovey feelings mutual, I want to quickly talk about the biggest mistake women make when they want to make a man fall in love and that’s seeming desperate.
There’s a fine line between showing interest in a man and coming across as clingy.
Since your goal is to make him feel intense feelings of desire for you, then it’s important that you send the right messages.
And, more importantly, you’re going to want to avoid blowing up his phone. Sure, this may force yourself into his mind but that’s not necessarily a good thing.
In fact, you may be better off with him NOT thinking about you at all than thinking of you because you’re driving him nuts.
Again, even if you think he’s the best thing since sliced bread, he still needs to feel like he can’t just have you.
Instead, you’re going to want to create a bit of a challenge for him by letting him know that you’re interested but not too easy of a catch. I could go on and on here but rather than focusing too much on getting him to chase you, I want to talk about some other key pointers to keep in mind while texting him.
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Now that that’s out of the way, let’s talk about the top ways to make a man feel intense love and desire for you. To make this as easy as pie, I’ve come up with five personal tips that you can use when texting to get the guy you’re into not only thinking about you but head over heels with desire.
1. Be confident.
You’ve probably heard this a million times, which is partially why it’s first on my list. But have you ever really thought about what “being bold” or “being confident” actually means? If you haven’t, then listen up because this goes far beyond looking good or speaking your mind.
Instead, being confident is about genuinely loving and appreciating yourself for you who are and what you do. To make this happen you’re going to have to set aside some time and tune into your own head and heart. Maybe you take a solo stroll and do some thinking. Or, perhaps you write out on a list.
Either way, recognizing your strengths and what makes you such a great catch is important if you’re looking to find love.
Doing this, you can expect to come across your flaws too. But, guess what? That’s actually a good thing. When you can pinpoint your weaknesses in the areas of your life that need a little bit of extra focus in love, then you’ll have much more luck improving them.
So, don’t freak out if you realize there are a dozen things that you don’t like about yourself, now is the time to change. Once you have sorted through your thoughts and come to terms with where you’re at in life, now your– it’s time to boost your confidence.
Of course, there are countless ways to do so, but make a point to focus on the good in your life. This kind of positivity will translate into confidence in your text messages and is a great first step.
Next, pick up some new projects or get around to tackling those dreams of yours that have been on the back burner. Again, the options here are endless, so find something that makes you happy and stick with it. Making these personal pleasures a part of your life is going to have an outstanding impact on your relationship. As a bonus, your passions make great texting topics.
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2. Challenge him.
As I briefly touched on already, if you’re looking to make a man feel intense love and desire for you, then it’s crucial that you make him work for it.
After all, as the old saying goes, “Nothing good comes easy.” Well, I could go on about how men are born hunters and how since the beginning of time they’ve loved chasing their prize but that’s all been said before. So, instead, I’m going to get right to the point.
Picture this. Let’s say there are two women, Ashley and Christine. Both of them like a guy named, Joe. Both of them have a different approach when it comes to showing it.
Ashley goes out of her way to send over the top text messages that ooze sexual innuendos and make it known that Joe can have her any time of the day.
Christine does the opposite. She plays the slow game. She’s a bit flirtatious with him but she knows how to hold back too.
In other words, she creates tension between Joe and herself but she does so in a way that keeps him on his toes and wondering whether or not he could actually win her over. Because of this intrigue, Joe is interested in Christine.
He knows he can have Ashley and he may even assume that she behaves this way with other guys too. So, where is the challenge in that?
As you’ve gathered from that example, it’s important that you keep the man you’re into working for your affection and attention. To do so, you’re going to want to send subtle hints that you’re into him without going overboard in your text messages. When done properly, this sort of encouragement will have him hooked.
3. Tease him.
Whether you’re ready to jump between the sheets with him or not, letting him know that he does, in fact, stand a chance in this department will make him feel intense desire for you.
Explicitly telling him you want to have sex with him isn’t the smoothest move you can make. And I highly suggest you don’t do so. Subtly teasing him will do the trick.
So, from clever hints to playful wording, there are so many ways you can do this successfully. My recommendation here is to read the signals he’s sending you and respond accordingly.
For example, if he’s all about the flirty banter, then play along with it. If he’s into texting about the physical aspects of your relationship, then choose the right words to tease and turn him on. Just be careful here.
As I mentioned in tip number two, you don’t want to come on too strongly. So, let him take the lead and give back about 75% of what he’s giving you.
4. Appreciate him.
Did you know that most men would say they feel unappreciated by their woman? It’s sad but true.
Instead, be the woman who makes her man feels like a million bucks. If you’ve ever been in a situation where you felt unappreciated or undervalued, then you know how much it sucks and how detrimental it can be to your ego.
With this in mind, it makes sense why men wouldn’t want to be with someone who didn’t take the time to tell him that he’s cared for and appreciated.
There’s no excuse not to either because it doesn’t take much to show him that you appreciate him. Yet, this kindness will move mountains for him.
Make a point to recognize and thank him for the little things he does for you in your text messages. Even something as simple as sending “I appreciate you.” “I love having you in my life.” Or “Thanks for being there for me.” will be soul-shaking in his books. So, make sure you do these things. It’s basically the recipe for winning him over.
5. Be your own person.
Take a moment to think about some of the ladies you admire most, whether you know them personally or they are celebrities.
What it is about them that you like so much? I’m willing to bet it has something to do with them being driven, ambitious, strong women.
One of the most attractive traits a woman can possess is independence. This means that when you can be the kind of person who knows what they want and isn’t afraid to go after it, that will do wonders for winning over the heart of any man.
The truth is men want to be with women who they can compliment, NOT complete.
If you’re sending the message that you need a guy in your life by being too clingy or co-dependent, then you’re going to have a harder time getting him to commit.
If you have a fun-filled life and are motivated and inspiring, then men will be lined up for a shot with you. He’ll also look forward to hearing from you since you are the whole package.
Makes sense? I want to hear your thoughts. If you have any comments, questions, or suggestions for texting in a way that will make men feel intense desire for you, I encourage you to post those in the comment section below.
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