A nightmare that so many women fear is finding out their man is cheating on them. However, since cheating isn’t a new phenomenon, there are ways to spot a cheater.
Hey! My name is Amy North. I’m a relationship coach from Vancouver, BC and author of the bestselling program, The Devotion System.
Today, I want to share with you the top 10 signs of a cheater.
Before I jump into things, I want to quickly define cheating.
Some people consider cheating to be anything physical with another person, whereas others see it as something as simple as secretly texting the opposite sex.
A great way to avoid cheating is to define what both you and your man consider cheating to be from the start of your relationship. When you do, it will leave little room for confusion or excuses down the road.
That said, if you feeling like your man may be unfaithful, then here are 10 red flag signs that he’s cheating on you.
1. He stays out late.
Whether he claims to be busy with work or is constantly saying that his friends need him for something, if your man is suddenly with others then your senses maybe tingling. That said, it is possible that he’s sincerely busy.
In most cases, you should be able to tell if something feels off.
2. He hides his phone.
If you notice that he’s spending a lot of time on his phone then something may be up. But again, don’t jump to assumptions too quickly.
However, if he’s quick to tuck his phone away or keeps it out of sight whenever you walk in a room or if he stops leaving it laying around, then yes, there’s a possibility that he’s cheating on you or at the very least, is up to something that he doesn’t want you to know about.
3. His stories don’t match up.
When a guy is cheating, he is probably going to try and cover his tracks with lies. When this happens, he may find himself tangled in his own web. If you notice that his stories aren’t matching up or you start hearing other things from his friends, then there’s a good chance he’s up to no good.
For instance, if he tells you that he met up with his buds for a quiet beer after work then you later hear about a major of a night out they had, then guess what? It’s time to call him out on it. He may be defensive when you do, but if he’s contradicting himself or confusing his stories then you have every right to speak up.
A clear red flag of cheating is if he brings up stories expecting you to join into reminiscing only to discover that you weren’t a part of it.
This may sound innocent but if he’s spending time with a woman other than you, he may be starting to confuse and mix up his memories. If this happens, you’ll notice holes in his stories or awkward stuttering as he scrambles to get his facts straight.
As the old saying goes, “Oh, what a web we weave, when we practice to deceive.”
4. He smells different.
Now, this one could go a couple of ways. For starters, he may start smelling like other women or on the other hand, he may be trying to impress someone with a new scent.
Either way, if he starts changing himself— this applies to his style too—
then you may want to ask yourself why he’s stepping up his game.
5. He has mood swings.
One minute he is so happy to be with you and the next, he is irritated by your every word. He’s happily having fun with you then suddenly he’s paranoid or on edge. If you notice that your man is having mood swings, then it could be because he is stressed, feels guilty or is looking for way out of your relationship.
This is especially true if you notice he is picking fights with you or pushing your buttons to get a reaction.
Trust your gut with this one.
If it feels like he’s intentionally trying to push you away, then chances are, he is. If he doesn’t have a real reason to leave you, then he may be trying to create one.
6. He cuts off all PDA.
For those of you who don’t know, PDA stands for public displays of affection.
If your guy has stopped holding your hand or kissing you in public then it’s possible that he’s worried about who may see.
A guy who is cheating will worry about being caught with you, which sounds strange given the fact that you are his wife or girlfriend. Still, if you feel like he doesn’t want to be seen romantically with you on public then ask yourself or better yet him why.
7. His likes and interests suddenly changed.
There’s nothing wrong with trying new things. But when your man’s interests changed out of the blue, it’s a warning sign that something might be up.
Common types of changes include music, types of food, movies, et cetera. If he’s feeling smitten with a new lady, then you will have a hard time not incorporating their things in his life with you too.
8. He can’t explain his expenses.
Now, depending on how long you’ve been together and how open you both are about your finances, this sign of cheating may fly past your radar.
However, if you’ve been together for some time and you know where you both spend your money, then you may find yourself catching his unexplained bills or wondering why he’s suddenly broke.
If you discover a paperwork trail filled with dinners out, hotel rooms or gifts for women, that alarm bell should definitely be ringing.
9. He suddenly cares about his hygiene.
Again, this depends on the kind of guy you’re with and how far into the relationship you are with him.
If he has gone from stubble and aux natural to cleanly shaved and smelling like a million bucks, then these changes may not be for you.
Once you’ve known him long enough to know how he typically cares for himself, it shouldn’t be hard to spot these sorts of changes.
If you notice that he has suddenly taken an interest in how he looks then ask yourself, “Who is he trying to impress?”
10. He is acting distant.
If you notice that your guy is suddenly acting distant and avoiding intimacy with you then that’s a huge sign of cheating. Since sex can make couples feel close, not having that intimacy between you can make you feel like you’re oceans apart.
If he’s no longer interested in getting close to you then it could be because he is getting affection elsewhere. When this happens, it’s important that you address the issue and find out what is going on in his world.
Well, there you have it, the top 10 signs of a cheater. If you have any questions about what I’ve covered here today or would like to add your story, then please feel free to share in the comments below.
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