I’m Brad Browning, relationship coach and author of “The Ex Factor” guide.
Today I’m going to talk about how to make your ex fall in love with you– because, of course, that’s what you want.
I mean, you want the love back. You want to go back to the days early in your relationship when you and your ex were madly in love.
First, I want to talk quickly about why your breakup happened in the first place.
Why do relationships fail?
Well, it’s pretty simple, really. Every single relationship fails for the very same reason, and that reason is a loss of attraction.
Basically, your ex was attracted to you. You displayed certain attractive characteristics that caused your ex to fall for you in the first place. Everything was great for a certain time, and then things changed.
And, that change led to a loss of attraction in your ex towards you and, unfortunately, that’s what led to the eventual downfall of your relationship. So, all breakups are caused by a loss of attraction. That’s the first thing you need to understand.
Now, why is this important to making your ex fall in love with you?
First of all, it’s important because love and attraction are essentially the same things. Love is physical, sexual, and emotional attraction all bungled into one. That’s what love is. So, they’re very interrelated – love and attraction.
Now, unfortunately, you can’t just convince your ex by saying a certain magic word or by flipping a switch to turn on their attraction for you and turn on their love for you. It’s not that easy. You probably already know that.
So, how do you get to that point again?
How do you rebuild the love and the attraction that led to your relationship in the first place and that were present during the first happy days of your relationship before the attraction faded?
The good news is that you were once at that point. Your ex did love you. He or she was attracted to you. So, you already know that it’s possible. You just need to get back there, and one of the most important things you need to do is evaluate what changed between you.
What changed that your ex liked about you?
Or, perhaps, which unattractive characteristics did you start to display that caused your ex to lose the attraction and, thus, the love for you?
Some of the most common are being needy, being clingy, not having a life outside of your romantic relationship, letting go of your career or personal goals.
These are all things that happen during a relationship that can lead to a loss of attraction and cause your ex to fall out of love with you.
You need to look really carefully at how you can go back to that person that your ex fell in love with in the first place.
What attractive characteristics did your ex like about you in the first place?
This is of the most important things you can do when you’re just getting started trying to get your ex back, and that’s why I dedicated a large portion of my program specifically to figuring out what the attractive characteristics are that led to the success of your relationship at first.
Then, helping you figure out if maybe there were some unattractive characteristics you were displaying that led to the loss of attraction and caused your ex to fall out of love with you.
So, aside from these attractive characteristics and unattractive characteristics of figuring out what changed and what led to the drop off in attraction, what else can you do to make your ex fall back in love with you?
Well, there’s some certain self-improvement things you can do that are only going to help your cause.
These are things like going to the gym, pursuing goals in work and school, dating other people.
You might not want to date other people right now, but if your ex finds out that you’re dating other people, they’re actually going to be more attracted to you, believe it or not.
And, there’s science behind that. It’s called “preselection.”
Basically, when your ex sees that there are other people that are interested in you romantically, they’re going to actually become more attracted to you subconsciously, something that’s evolved over hundreds of thousands of years.
So, dating, self-improvement activities in general, are all things that you can do to make yourself more attractive to your ex and start to rebuild your exe’s attraction to you and, thus, love, as well.
There’s tons of other things you can do.
You could bring up happy shared memories.
When you first start talking to your ex again, you can send text messages.
You can have in-person meetings where you’re able to flirt and rebuild some of that sexual attraction.
How to make your ex fall in love with you is a very extensive topic, of course, and that’s why I’ve dedicated an entire program to it.