25 Mistakes You Should Never Make When Trying to Get Your Ex Back

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Breakups are tricky. In the heat of the moment, it’s easy say and do things that we don’t mean.

If you want a shot with your ex in the future, making your breakup as amicable and graceful as possible will improve your chances.

Avoid doing these 25 things if you don’t want to be known as “the crazy ex” and have zero chance of getting back together:

1. Inventing bizarre reasons to contact your ex.

“Oh… so I need to stop by to get my facial cleanser back.”

2. “Accidentally” (on purpose) running into them.

“Weird, I was randomly in your neighborhood, 25 miles away from my house.”

3. Constantly hanging out at places you used to go together.

“This is MY bar.”

4. Trying to get revenge.

“I’m going to get back at him for saying that THING”

5. Destroying your exe’s stuff.

“If I burn everything, SHE WILL FINALLY REALIZE I LOVE HER!!”

6. Talking to your exe’s friends about them.

“So… I wanted to talk to you about your buddy. What’s he up to?”

7. Contacting your exe’s parents.

“I wanted to call to see if your daughter is okay, since she broke up with me last Tuesday.”

8. Trying to apologize for everything that went wrong.

“IT’S AALLLLLLLLLL MY FAULT! I have failed you in every way imaginable.”

9. Emotional outbursts.

Ever sobbed loudly in the Target makeup aisle? I have.

10. Stalking (cyber or otherwise).

“I’m going to just see what he’s up to…”

11. Deleting your ex on social media, then using your friend’s profile to see what they are up to.

“Hey, we’ve got to find out who that mystery man commenting on her profile is…”

12. Comparing yourself to his exes before you.

“I think I’m sooo much hotter than his ex, Eileen.”

13. Looking at old pictures of you together.

“We looked so perfect together!”

14. Initiating awkward “WHY?” conversations.

“WHHHYYYYYYY did you give up on us???”

15. Gossiping about your ex.

“I heard that she’s getting breast implants.”

16. “Accidentally” texting them.

You: “Hey sexy.”

Your ex: “Um… Hi?”

You: “Oops, that was meant for someone else.”

17. Obsessively staying in contact.

“I just wanted to let you know, I’m going to the dry cleaners.”

18. Refusing to accept reality.

“It’s not over until I say it’s over.”

19. Getting jealous and acting it out.

“I just can’t handle that you have a dog that you love more than me!”

20. Trying to make your ex jealous.

“I’ll just have all of these girls from the club tag me in their photos. My ex will see them on Facebook. I’ll show her what she’s missing out on.”

21. Creating elaborate theories about your ex.

“I think he’s secretly gay.”

22. Plotting ways to drive your exe’s new flame away.

“I’m just going to call her new boyfriend and tell him they have to stop dating.”

23. Drunk dialing.

“I wanted to *hic* tell you that *hic* I MISS U BABE”

24. Suggesting “Ex Sex”

“So.. wanna get together?”

25. Using the idea that you “have nothing left to lose” to justify any other behavior you know is wrong.

“It doesn’t matter anymore, I’m going to go to his house and cry on his doorstep. Then he’ll finally know it’s meant to be.”

When you’re trying to get your ex back, cool, calm and collected is the best way to handle yourself during every single interaction from now on, forever. They can’t miss you and start to fantasize about wanting you back if you’re smothering them and sacrificing your self respect.

It sounds strange, but to have the potential to get back together with your ex, you actually need to get over them so that you can both have a fresh start later on.

Without clearing out the baggage from the old relationship, the hurt and resentment will just bubble back into your pairing once the relationship takes off again.

Want another chance?

3 Mistakes To AvoidI hate to admit it, but after past heartbreak, I’ve done some of these breakup mistakes– so if you have too.. I can understand why it happens.

If you really want your ex back and want to try something that actually WORKS to help you reconnect– you’ve got to see this video presentation that I made for you which explains 3 things people do wrong when trying to get their ex back and exactly what you should do instead.

Go watch it here now.

Elizabeth Stone

About Elizabeth Stone

Elizabeth Stone is a bestselling author, head love coach and founder of Attract The One.

Through her coaching, writing and online programs she has helped thousands of women reunite with their men and create amazing, soul-level connections. She is thrilled to have helped so many couples reignite the spark in their relationships.

Tirelessly focused on helping people improve their love lives, her work has gone viral on Your Tango and Thought Catalog as well as been featured on EHarmony, Zoosk, Popsugar, The Good Men Project, Tiny Buddha, Bustle, Fox News Magazine, Ravishly, She Knows, Mind’s Journal, Read Unwritten, Madame Noire, Digital Romance Inc. and many more.

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