What’s that one thing that is on and near the top of everyone’s dating criteria?
Aside from good looks, what do people want in a partner?
If you thought ”funny,” then you get where I’m going with this.
We’ve all met that person that is offended by everything. From your footwear to the scent in a room, there is just no pleasing them.
Those types of people are lacking a sixth sense, a sense of humor.
Conversations with such people are the equivalent to bathing in a tub of broken glass. Some people take life way, way, way too seriously, and it is saddening.
That is not how you want people to think about you.
As the Greeks say, “life is far too important to be taken seriously.”
Luckily, you can improve your sense of humor!
Just in case you are lacking in that department, I thought I would help you climb the dating hierarchy by giving you some tips that you can use to improve your sense of humor and personality so you can be be that funny guy that women all want to be around.
I’m Kate Spring, I’m a dating and relationship coach from the west coast of Canada.
I took a poll amongst my male clients and asked them what they wanted to learn most, and the general consensus was they wanted to know how to be more desirable to women.
I thought, “yes, ok,” but the further I got into it, I began to think that the thing people have the most control over is what they say and how they say it.
It hit me that this is your sense of humor and personality.
And I don’t want to hear any of that, “But I’m not funny” kind of talk.
Everyone is funny in the right environment. And what I mean by that is that you are, essentially, the company you keep.
If you hang out with people who are negative and who have a dark rain cloud of a personality and can bring down even the Dalai Lama’s mood, then you, my friend, have soul sucking company, and it’s time to distance yourself.
This brings me to my first piece of advice for how to improve your sense of humor.
1. Spend time with funny and happy people.
When you spend time with people, their qualities and/or moods tend to rub off on you. And thus, you are the company that you keep.
So, to improve your sense of humor, it makes sense to keep good, funny company.
Having a good sense of humor is like having unlimited resources, no matter the situation.
It elevates you to the top tier of the dating hierarchy.
Since you don’t have total control over your genetic makeup and how you look– take control of how you look at life, your attitude and your personality.
Having a sense of humor means that you appreciate jokes and can perceive them.
It means that you’re amused by a lot of things as opposed to being serious all the time.
Remember that for those who laugh, life is a comedy.
For those who cry, it’s a tragedy.
Both are attitudes, ways of looking at the world and at the self.
My second piece of advice for how to improve your sense of humor around women is to:
2. Develop an ability to laugh at yourself.
Have you ever met a guy who does something so stupid, and instead of just laughing it off, gets so hurt that he looks like he’s going to cry?
It’s actually so funny, but not in the, “haha that guy is so funny and kinda cute,” way, but more in the “haha, oh no I feel bad for you” way.
Having the ability to laugh at yourself and make mistakes is refreshing, and it lightens any mood.
Women respond really well to this because it puts them at ease.
Say you’re on a date with a woman, and you knock over your glass of red wine and it gets all over your crotch.
Instead of wanting to curl up in a ball and crawl in a hole and completely disappear, laugh!
Grab a cloth and some soda water and laugh it off.
It’s all about the bounce back here. Whatever kind of oopsy woopsy you do in front of a crush or during a date with a woman, laugh at yourself.
It’s awkward as heck when you watch someone who is visibly nervous on a date, but if you can learn to not take yourself so seriously, then any woman will feel at ease with you and enjoy your resilient personality.
This type of guy is one of the most likable by all. It shows confidence, resilience and a good sense of humor.
When you hear a cheesy ad of an old couple being interviewed about the secret to a long-lasting marriage, the answer is always laughter and having a sense of humor.
Everyone wants to be with someone that makes them laugh.
It is a historical fact that our personalities will outlive our young physiques.
I know that not everyone has the Will Ferrell, Kristen Wiig sense of humor and improvisation skills. That is why they get paid the big bucks.
But you can be funny in your own right if you just let yourself be.
I’m not advocating that you be the funniest person out there.
I’m just suggesting that you try to improve your sense of humor if you’re feeling a little down and out in the dating world.
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3. Observe funny people.
If you want to learn to be funny, then watch funny people.
Watch comedy specials, sitcoms, Saturday Night Live.
There are so many outlets accessible to you to watch funny people interact in the world.
Find some comedy skits and study how comedians observe the natural, often mundane, world and turn it into something extraordinarily funny.
Look at how they observe seemingly normal things and comment on their obscurities or absurdities.
Alright, and my fourth piece about how to improve your sense of humor is a caution:
4. Don’t tell jokes that bring other people down.
Don’t tell racist jokes or mean jokes that target the most insecure person in the group just so that you get a laugh.
That is the lowest form of comedy, and it has no place here.
Humor is a sign of intelligence; it’s a learned, mature coping skill, and women are attracted to both of those qualities.
Therefore, if you want to improve your dating life, then I suggest you work on your sense of humor.
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