One of the most common questions I receive is “what are the signs he’s serious about you?”
It’s easy to develop feelings for a man and then wonder if he’s serious about your relationship.
Good men might not come out and share their feelings right away, but they do a lot of the same things when they’re starting to fall in love and see you as permanent part of their life.
Here are 17 signs he’s serious about you and could be starting to see a future.
1. He has had a conversation with you about wanting an exclusive relationship.
This one sounds like a no-brainer, but the “assumed relationship” is common, and not something that you want to fall for.
If he isn’t trying to date you exclusively— he knows that you could meet someone else at any time and right now that doesn’t bother him too much.
Once he gets to know you and wants the same things, talking about monogamy won’t scare him off.
2. He respects your opinion and regularly asks for it.
A man who is starting to get serious about you listens and shows you respect.
He remembers what you say and considers your advice carefully even if he doesn’t take it.
3. He’s honest and transparent.
A guy who’s starting to feel serious about you will usually try to get everything out on the table so that he doesn’t “mess things up” with you.
In the interest of doing this, he might overshare about himself.
If there’s some detail about him that could potentially cause a problem, he will either bury it deep (not great) or proactively tell you all about it.
It’s hard to say which one, but both are attempts to present himself in the best light.
4. He puts out all old flames.
A guy who sees a future with you will cut off contact with all flings and exes turn his focus entirely on you.
He will not allow for the potential that another women he is not as interested in will pop up and ruin everything.
You won’t have to ask him to do this.
5. He says good things about you when you aren’t around.
A man who is excited about a new relationship will usually share the good news with his friends and family.
If his friends and family seem to already know all about you when you meet them, this is a good sign he’s serious about you.
6. He wants to get to know you on a deep level.
He’s doesn’t gloss over the little details you mention, and cares to listen to you talk about your childhood, goals and career.
If you mention a big presentation at work, he’ll ask how it went.
He cares about what makes you tick and is curious about your inner world.
7. He makes plans with you in advance and sticks to them.
Since he wants a future with you in it, he doesn’t mind making plans in advance.
He is careful and thoughtful about spending time with you.
He wants to reserve time with you in advance and will make sure that he doesn’t potentially mess up your relationship by suggesting everything at the last minute.
He’s willing to discuss events way in the future, like that concert in three months or how you will spend the holidays together.
8. He looks for ways to include you in his interests.
Nothing makes him happier than bonding over his favorite activities with his favorite person– you.
If he’s interested in golf, tennis, refurbishing old cars, etc., he tries to include you somehow.
9. He’s at a point in his life where a serious relationship would work.
To see anyone as a potential long-term match, a man usually needs to reach a point where a commitment makes sense in the bigger picture.
When guys are trying to get through school, get their careers off the ground, fix big life problems or want more time to date around, commitment is usually the last thing on their minds.
This is why sometimes a man might really love you but still not be able to commit. He has other things going on. A man who sees a future with you will most likely have the emotional and physical resources to feel comfortable making a commitment.
10. You have started to meet his friends and family.
He has no problem introducing you to his family and friends.
He wants to show you off and is not afraid of people’s reactions to you.
When a man really likes you, he is usually more worried about the potential his family will scare you off than what they think about you.
11. He tries to make a good impression when you introduce him to your people.
A guy who isn’t serious will sometimes go along with meeting your people, but he won’t make a big effort. He already knows that whatever happens doesn’t matter very much since he isn’t sticking around.
A man who wants to be with you long term will make a serious effort getting to know the important people in your life.
12. He’s content waiting for physical intimacy and lets you initiate it.
He will treat you like a human being and not a hookup.
Even if he was a player in his past dating life, he will be fine taking it slow with you.
You won’t feel pressure to hop into bed with him since he will value your company more than any short-term potential sexual encounter.
In fact, he may move so slowly with physical intimacy that you begin to question whether or not he is attracted to you.
If he is still taking you on dates and doing the other things on this list, you are probably safe.
13. He is punctual and makes sure to apologize if he’s late.
A man who is serious about you will consider your feelings and won’t leave you hanging.
If he is running late, he will do his best to let you know and try to make up for it.
You won’t have to chase him down to figure out what happened with any confirmed plans.
14. He makes room for you at his place.
When a man is serious about you, you won’t have to worry about having a spot for your toothbrush.
He makes room for you in his home– whether that’s spending time together or making space for you to be comfortable.
If he’s cleared out a space for you in his closet without you asking, you know he’s smitten with you.
15. He cares about your happiness, tries to help and is there for you.
A man who is serious about you will be interested in making you smile in any way he can, and this includes acts of service. He won’t leave you thinking he’s bailed or disappeared when you could really use his help.
If you need something, he’s your go-to guy.
Even if he has no idea how to help you, he will do his best to make helpful suggestions.
16. He regularly initiates contact with you and you don’t worry that he’s disappeared.
He texts, calls, and contacts you in ways that show he’s thinking about you.
You don’t have that sick, nervous feeling in your stomach that maybe he’s ghosted you.
17. Your time together feels easy and carefree.
You have fun together. Your conversations flow easily. He listens to you and takes a non-judgmental attitude toward things you share.
He helps make interactions with him easy.
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