Today, I’m going to be talking about 6 scientific factors that raise your risk of divorce.
Let’s jump straight into the goods.
1. You and your partner withdraw from conflicts.
Now, the first factor that leads to divorce is you and your partner withdraw from conflicts.
So when you try and talk to your partner about a tough issue or problem in your relationship, does he or she engage in with you or do they just pull away completely?
Studies have shown that if they do pull away, that obviously, isn’t a great sign. A 2013 study in the Journal of Marriage and Family found that this cold behavior in response to conflict is a really strong predictor of divorce.
Another study conducted by the Communication Monographs Journal in 2014 came to the same conclusion. Their study showed that couples that didn’t try to actively solve their issues were much less happy in their relationship.
Of course, this information probably doesn’t really come as a surprise to you, but the next time you try to bring up a problem in your marriage, see how your partner reacts.
Does he or she asks you questions? Do they show concern? Or do they ignore you and give you the silent treatment? If he or she doesn’t give you the time of day, that may be a very strong indicator that something is causing trouble in your marriage and you need to address the issue— whatever it is— as soon as possible.
2. Being overly passionate as a newly married couple.
This is a weird factor that leads to divorce and a little bit counterintuitive too.
You would assume that couples that show a ton of affection for one another— especially as newlyweds— are more likely to build a stronger and longer lasting marriage.
In reality, that just doesn’t seem to be the case. A 2001 study from the Interpersonal Relations and Group Process found:
“As newlyweds, the couples who divorced after seven or more years were almost giddily affectionate. Displaying about one third more affection than the spouses who were later happily married.”
Interestingly enough, the passionate, overly romantic love stories that you read about in books and Hollywood movies actually have a lower chance of making it work in the long run. Who would have thought it?
3. You describe your relationship in negative terms.
The Gottman Institute conducted a series of interviews with several hundred couples, asking them various questions about their marriage and their spouse.
By analyzing the language that was used in these interviews, the study revealed a really strong connection between divorce rate and contemptuous language. Furthermore, couples who described most aspects of their relationship with endearment stayed together longer.
Now again, this might not seem like a very groundbreaking study, but it is important to take away one big thing from this.
Obviously, no marriage and relationship is perfect but failing couples tend to zero-in on the problems and fail to recognize the positive aspects of their partners.
So the next time somebody asks you about how do you feel about your marriage, do your best and try and talk about the good things that your spouse brings to the table.
In fact, do yourself a favor and break down all the things that you love about your spouse and the reasons why you married them then make sure you cherish and memorize that list. In the long-run, you’ll be happy that you did.
4. The husband doesn’t work full time.
Now, this is a bit of a touchy factor in divorce, especially in this in this day and age where women have a lot more opportunities now than in the past.
A 2016 Harvard study shows that the male breadwinner stereotype is still prevalent. This Harvard study suggested that it was not a couple’s finances that determine whether a couple would stay together or not, but the division of labor.
This study actually looked at thousands of marriages after 1975 and found that husbands who didn’t have a full-time job had a 3.3% chance of divorcing the following year, as opposed to 2.5% of the full working time husbands.
Interestingly, the wife’s job status had almost no effect on the rates of divorce. Again, times are changing and we are seeing more and more stay-at-home dads in happy marriages, but this is something still worth noting.
5. Not completing high school education.
This factor of divorce probably isn’t going to be very applicable to many of you, so I’ll keep it brief.
The Bureau of Labor Statistics reveals:
“The chance of a marriage ending in divorce was lower for people with more education. Over half of the marriages of those who did not complete high school, ended in divorce compared with just 30% of marriages with college graduates.”
Other studies have pointed out that the reason for this may simply because people who don’t complete high school have much lower incomes, generally speaking on average. That obviously puts a strain on a lot of marriages. Now again, this probably isn’t applicable to you, but it’s kind of interesting to know nonetheless.
6. Getting married too young or too old.
Now again, this is probably not surprising to a lot of you guys out there, but couples who do get married in their teens are at a much higher risk of divorce. Not surprisingly, this is actually also true for people who marry in their late 30’s and beyond as well.
According to professor Nick Wolfinger at the University of Utah, after the age of 32 your odds of divorce increased by five percent each year. But before you panic, we need to point out that this doesn’t mean that you have to rush into marriage. You need to make sure that you find the right person for you.
However, this age factor isn’t extremely strong predictor of marital success, so keep in mind. It’s also important to note that the greater the age difference between two spouses, the greater the risk of divorce as well.
Now, in conclusion here, there’s a number of reasons why marriages lead to and end up in divorce. And many of those variables are controllable.
To learn more about how you can prevent divorce and start rebuilding your marriage today, then you must watch the free video presentation on my website.
Be sure to watch that entire video on there to the end.
In it, you’re going to learn the 3 Marriage Murdering Mistakes most couples make that ruin their chances of ever having a happy marriage.