Feel Hopeless About Meeting The One? 4 Ways to Fight Dating Burnout


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If we’re being perfectly honest here, dating can feel like an endless grind where you beat your head up against the wall again and again, hoping that you’ll finally succeed in meeting someone great.

The cycle of getting a date, going out with someone new, enjoying yourself and then experiencing some version of you or them not calling, over and over can really chew up your ego.

So how do you keep going on dates and putting yourself out there without getting discouraged and throwing in the towel for good?

Try these four dating tips for feeling good even when you want to give up completely.

1. Maintain balance.

Don’t let going on dates take over your whole life. It’s easy to get burned out on anything when you turn it into a part time job. Limit dates to only one or two a week. The rest of the time, make sure you’re still out doing things you enjoy like maintaining your hobbies and seeing friends regularly.

This serves two purposes. First, you won’t lose touch with the parts of your life which provide you joy. Second, passion is an aphrodisiac. You’ll have something to talk about and you won’t have stopped living your life while you’re on the road to finding the one.

At one point when I was looking for Mr. Right, I went out with 5-8 new Mr. Wrongs a week. I’ve never been accused of doing anything half-way and it shows. Not surprisingly, I wore myself out and had to go cold turkey every few months.

When you’re seeing too many people it’s easy to start treating the whole thing like a job interview. Job interviews are not sexy.

2. Make dates fun.

The most memorable, enjoyable dates I’ve been on were the ones that were meant to be fun. Go-carts, mini golf, real golf, pool, painting mugs, driving fast cars, goofing off, silly fun stuff. Fun activities are a complete breath of fresh air when you compare them to making awkward conversation over risotto. It’s okay to save the more romantic stuff for later when you have an actual romance happening.

When you’ve been striking out with people, it’s easy to stop being happy and playful since it’s grinding to put yourself out there again and again. When you stop having fun, it shows both in your enthusiasm and your attitude toward your dates.

A sure sign of dating burnout is when you’re cringing about going on a date. Men, schedule dates that are fun. Women, mention that you’d like to do something fun.

3. Cultivate a thankful attitude about rejection.

The truth is that dating can be brutal. Letting yourself be interested in someone new over and over again while getting your feelings hurt or being rejected can feel like you’re walking on broken glass after a while.

This is why changing your attitude about rejection can change your whole life. Each and every time you start to feel that a new person is blowing you off or that sinking feeling when they want to have “the talk”, I want you to be thankful.

Be thankful that they’re gone. Be thankful that someone wrong for you has done you the favor of leaving the building. Be thankful that your fabulous self isn’t being contaminated anymore by the hope that something with them would work.

After that, let it go. Let go of all of those people who walked into your life and promptly searched for the door. Don’t call. Don’t text. Don’t send them Christmas cards. Say goodbye to the hope that it would work out and let their rejection set you free to find the right person.

Sure it can sting hearing that you aren’t their cup of tea. But the truth is that if you’re not their cup of tea, they’re definitely not for you. Be unapologetic about cutting them out of your life. Give yourself the gift of acceptance and moving on.

4. Take a break from dating.

Sometimes it’s necessary to stop dating altogether for a few months to recollect and think about your recent experiences.

Are you attracting the wrong people?

Are you feeling crappy while you’re doing it?

Has your gorgeous wide-eyed hope been replaced with jaded lists of requirements for your love?

Time to take a break to recalibrate and get over some of the disappointments you’ve had lately and love yourself back to normal before getting back out there.

Frustrated with men?

If you’re like most women, you’re frustrated with men, dating, and relationships… and for good reason.

You might be thinking things like this:

  • What do men actually *want* in a woman?
  • Why is he so difficult to talk to?
  • What is he really thinking about? (Does he really love me?)
  • Why did he suddenly lose interest?
  • Why can’t he just love me and be faithful?

Well, the answer might surprise you. It was definitely a HUGE revelation to me.

What started out as a lunch with a friend turned into the accidental discovery of a hidden “gap” in the mind of every man… a gap that explains what they *really* want in a woman, and why it rarely works out.

If you find yourself constantly frustrated with men, and just want a real connection with a man that loves you for you, you NEED to watch this video.

Find out how to close “the gap” and start to enjoy the love and connection you’ve always wanted.

I’m not sure how long this video is going to be up though, so make sure you watch it now.

Elizabeth Stone

About Elizabeth Stone

Elizabeth Stone is a bestselling author, head love coach and founder of Attract The One and Luxe Self.

Through her coaching, writing and online programs she has helped thousands of women reunite with their men and create amazing, soul-level connections. She is thrilled to have helped so many couples reignite the spark in their relationships.

Tirelessly focused on helping people improve their love lives, her work has gone viral on Your Tango and Thought Catalog as well as been featured on EHarmony, Zoosk, Popsugar, The Good Men Project, Tiny Buddha, Bustle, Fox News Magazine, Ravishly, She Knows, Mind’s Journal, Read Unwritten, Madame Noire, Digital Romance Inc. and many more.

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