Hi, there. It’s Brad Browning here, relationship coach and author of “The Ex Factor” guide. Today, I’ll be talking about what to text your ex-girlfriend after no contact if you want her to come back to you.
Now, before I jump into this, you need to know a few things before you first start texting her.
First, you need to understand that you can’t simply just start texting your ex-girlfriend directly after the breakup.
If you have read any of my other articles, you probably know that applying my “no-contact” rule for at least 30 days after your breakup is crucial.
If you don’t allow enough time to pass after the breakup before you start casually texting her, your ex-girlfriend is going to think that you’re desperate for her attention, and for women this is a huge turnoff. So, don’t do that.
Before texting or communicating at all with your girlfriend after no contact, you need to make sure you send her the right signals first.
Step #1 – Don’t text her something boring.
A lot of guys will start off by saying something hollow and unprovocative.
Simply saying, “Hey,” or “What’s up,” is not going to stir up your ex-girlfriend’s emotions.
Remember, women are extremely emotional. So, what you need to do is say something that will compel her attention and force her to want to write back to you.
Think of something that will capture her imagination and grip her emotions.
If you really want your ex back, you’re going to have to use some creativity. The video up on my website will teach you a little bit more about how to affect her emotionally to the point where she feels like she has to respond.
Step #2 – Make sure you text her for a good reason.
Texting her for no other reason than to say, “Hello” is just not a good enough reason to text her.
At this point, you shouldn’t convey to your ex-girlfriend that you want to talk to her at all.
So, when you do text her, make sure that you need something from her or you want to tell her something specific.
For example, this text usually generates a response after no contact:
“Hey, do you remember the name of that Italian restaurant we went to on your birthday last year?”
Remember that all you want to do here is just open the lines of communication with your ex-girlfriend. You’re not trying to get her back, attract her back into your life or seduce her. You just need information. You’re just asking about an Italian restaurant.
Once you get the conversation, all the juices flowing, then you can start planting the seeds of desire in her mind. Until then, keep things light and simple, and have a point to your texts.
Now, that text message I just talked about earlier is good for a number of reasons.
First, it doesn’t convey any neediness.
Secondly, it’s not boring, and it also brings back a positive memory that she had of you.
And, finally, it gets her thinking about you and possibly getting jealous.
She might be thinking, “Why is he asking this? Is he going to take another girl there to this restaurant or something?”
Step #3 – Make sure you don’t talk about any drama.
Texting your ex-girlfriend after no contact regarding your past relationship is a huge mistake.
Don’t do that.
You don’t want to make your ex-girlfriend think that you still care about her, at least not yet.
You’ll scare her away by doing that.
Don’t bring up any of the past.
Don’t bring up any negativity.
Don’t start any drama.
…And, definitely don’t ask her if she’s dating anyone new.
At this point, you need to act like you don’t even care about her or what’s going on in her life.
Step #4 – Be funny.
Remember, girls get bored easily, so if you’re not holding their attention, then they’re going to ignore you and move onto the next guy who will entertain them.
No matter what kind of relationship you had in the past, your ex-girlfriend is no exception to this rule.
One of the best ways to open up the lines of communication with her after no contact is to text her something funny and entertaining.
You can bring up a hilarious memory that you had shared together or make fun of a mutual friend you both know. If you don’t have any funny memories to text, just send her a link to a funny YouTube video.
Again, the only reason that you’re texting her at this point is just to open up the lines of communication.
Now, if you want to escalate your text messaging to the next level and possibly make her fall for you again, you need to watch the video on my website. Thanks for reading. Talk to you soon.