Kate Spring here, dating and relationship coach from Victoria, BC.
A lot of you have been asking me how to turn a girl on with your body language.
And that is an excellent question!
This is one of the best ways to create some attraction between you and a woman.
Honestly, there is nothing better than those butterflies that you get in your stomach when you start to develop feelings for someone and their touch becomes electric!
Body language is your non-verbal way of communicating with people.
It is equally as important as your verbal communication.
We interact and we judge people based on this non-verbal communication whether consciously or unconsciously.
Having positive and engaging body language is key to putting yourself ahead in the dating world.
The best thing to remember, and I can’t stress this enough, is to make eye contact with her.
Strong eye contact communicates to people that you are more dominant and powerful than say someone with shifty eyes or someone who is unable to hold eye contact.
That type of person is understood as insecure.
If you can make eye contact with a woman, she will perceive you to be warmer, likable and approachable.
When you are speaking with a woman and you are able to hold strong eye contact with her, it makes a girl feel like you are only paying attention to her, which you should be.
One woman at a time.
It’s like when you were little and your mom would only let you have one cookie at a time.
The same thing applies here.
When you are looking all around the room and not at her, she will become disengaged and probably not want to continue talking to you because through your eye contact, she feels like you would rather be elsewhere.
Smile and face her with an open body posture.
Don’t cross your arms in front of you, and start asking her questions about herself. These are the basics!
Women are extremely receptive to body language.
This is your first step in turning her on with body language.
Ask yourself, “what am I trying to accomplish with my body language?”
Or “what am I trying to communicate through my body?”
Remember, you’re trying to communicate that you are a confident man with a lot to offer a woman!
You also want to communicate interest and enthusiasm, not in the way where you stare at her and talk too close to her face. That will just make her uncomfortable and most likely force her to clam up.
Women are attracted to power.
You can communicate this by taking up space. What I mean by “take up space” is to be big.
If you’re sitting down don’t cross your legs or arms. Be open and sit with your legs apart and maybe even your arm on the chair next to you.
If you are feeling flirty, and the situation feels right, you could slowly bridge the gap of space between you two.
For example, a soft touch on the shoulder, or guiding her to the bar with your hand at the small of her back is a good place to start.
If she is interested in you and is also exhibiting some positive body language, then she will welcome this kind of touch.
Attraction is best built in the body, but to learn how to continue to build attraction when you aren’t face to face, watch my free presentation where I share the secret language that will make any woman feel an uncontrollable lust for you.
Alright, if you want to know a little secret, Amy Cuddy gives a TED Talk about how body language shapes who you are.
She suggests that before you are going into a job interview, in this case I’m going to say “date” or any time you’re feeling nervous and or small, make yourself big and hold that pose for 2 minutes.
Make yourself stand in a power pose. This could be with your arms straight up in the air or a superman-like pose.
She says this has proven to make people feel more confident.
So if you are finding yourself nervous, and you need an instant confidence boost, try this!
I guarantee you that women will be more attracted to the confident version of yourself.
Another way to turn her on with your body language is to be calm.
Because women are attracted to powerful, confident men, if you are calm, she will mirror your reactions.
Being calm means listening, having a relaxed body posture—one that isn’t rigid and still, but is loose and friendly.
Another part of being calm is that because you are loose and at ease, you can lean into her, which will start to create a little sexual tension.
You want to play into the build up here because this is the time to do it. And leave her wanting more.
Turning a woman on with your body language begins with your body posture, but you also have to dress your body to impress.
How you present yourself is also part of your body language.
If you are trying to turn a woman on, dress like it.
I don’t mean whip out your leather ass-less chaps, but dress like you want to be there and that you have put some thought and effort into your appearance.
If I know anything about women, it is that we take time to present ourselves.
If you are dressed like you don’t want to be there, we will assume that you don’t.
If you look like you’ve made an effort to be there, then we can tell.
This is all part of that whole thought process that suggests we like people who like us already.
If you’re dressed up for us, we can tell you like us, which will make us like you, which is what we both want!
Still following me?
Okay, good. Let me repeat.
We are attracted to people who like us, and one of the ways you can communicate that to us non-verbally is if you dress like you’ve put some thought into your outfit.
This doesn’t mean you have to look like a GQ model, but it does mean that your clothes should say that you have good taste.
After all, it is that same good taste that has attracted you to her.
Learn a “secret language” that makes any woman feel an uncontrollable obsession for you by watching my free presentation here now.
