Kate Spring here, for those of you who don’t know me I’m a dating and relationship coast from the West Coast of Canada. I specialize in helping men become the most confident and empowered version of themselves.
Today I want to shed some light on how to handle texting a woman and help you deal with some of the most common texting scenarios that take place between men and women.
I want to give you some guidelines so that when these texting situations arise, you have the tools to deal with them and come out on top.
So here are 4 very common texting scenarios and 4 specific solutions. Just a heads up that these texting scenarios aren’t in any particular order.
Let’s get started.
Texting Scenario #1: When she doesn’t text you back.
The first scenario I want to cover is what to do when a girl doesn’t text you back.
I understand that this can be extremely annoying, but there are so many reasons why a girl isn’t texting you back and it isn’t always that she’s not interested in you.
Although, sometimes, that is the case, sometimes it is just as simple as this girl has had a long ass day and couldn’t be bothered to look at her phone.
She could be really into you, but just not feel like texting.
Whatever you do, do not keep texting her if she hasn’t responded to your first one.
You want to avoid blowing up her phone. Sending her text after text after text will only creep her out. It’s counter-productive.
Everyone texts differently and texting etiquette is very varied.
A good rule is no more than two unanswered texts. Then it is up to her to come to you.
Aside from not wanting to appear desperate, this is also important because in order for a woman’s attraction and desire to grow for you, she too has to chase you. She has to want to be with you and put in the effort as well.
It’s all part of her attraction journey that she needs to have in order to fall for you, so allow her the space to chase you as well. Trust me, it will help you out in the long run.
If, after two unanswered texts, she still hasn’t responded to you, then file that one away in the swing and a miss pile. You’re worthy of people’s time so don’t degrade yourself by begging for someone’s attention who isn’t giving you the simplest thing, a response.
You don’t have to delete her number completely, but you should put it aside for the time being and maybe you could revisit her at a later date.
What to say when she doesn’t respond to your text message:
This might sound a bit weird, but you could just text her, “Ha-ha, ok, sounds good.”
You want to make light of her ignoring you. You don’t want to get mad, angry or sad, but you want to draw her attention to the fact that she’s ignored you without showing all of your hurt emotions.
I’m basically telling you to be a little passive aggressive here.
Oftentimes, this attempt will work in that she will just explain that she was busy and even apologize, or you give her the chance to make a comeback.
Either way, it’s harmless and lighthearted.
And if all else fails, if she hasn’t responded to you in a few days then pick up the phone and call her. Travel back in time to when phoning someone was acceptable.
Call her on the phone and put her on the spot. Or leave a voicemail.
People who talk on the phone– to me– are fearless.
Millennials nowadays attribute a great deal of their anxiety to talking on the phone or the fear of talking on the phone.
So be confident. Call her and go after what you want. If she doesn’t answer or return the phone call or even a text then you know where you stand and you should just move on.
Texting Scenario 2: When she isn’t giving you anything to work with.
Have you ever been in a texting conversation with a woman that sounds like this?
You: “Hey, Hilary! Get into any trouble this weekend?”
Her: “Unfortunately, no. Wbu?”
You: “Oh, you know, the usual bank robbery followed by a pretty major diamond heist followed by a family dinner and drinks with friends.”
Her: “Nice!”
You: “What does your week look like?”
Her: “Just work.”
Now, this isn’t a bad conversation, but, as you can see, your girl Hilary isn’t really giving you much to work with in terms of text conversation.
She’s giving short answers to your questions and she isn’t even really asking you anything in return! Hilary is straight up giving you nothing.
So what do you do and or say when you’re texting a girl and she’s giving you less than nothing to work with?
Keep doing what you’re doing until you get bored.
Ask her specific questions. This is because asking specific questions usually garners specific answers.
Specific questions mean she can give you more detailed and specific answers.
Texting is a snooze fest when it’s up to one person to keep the conversation going and exciting and when it feels like you’re pulling teeth.
For example, you could then ask her what a typical work day looks like for her, or what’s her favorite aspect of her job. Etc.
Texting Scenario 3: To text or not to text once you’ve solidified a date?
Ok, so you’ve got your chick to commit to a date with you. Now what?
Do you avoid texting her until 5 minutes before you meet up to let her know where she can find you seated?
I think not.
Some people like to leave all the conversation for the face to face meet up because they don’t want the conversation to run dry. But I think that that is a pretty gutsy way to go about dating.
If you don’t talk for the few days leading up to your date and the time comes a girl could easily ditch the date and not think twice because she never heard from you.
If you text before the date, you can get to know one another a bit better without the nerves of being face to face. You also build some excitement to see one another, which is very crucial.
This is why you should text her in the lead up to the date.
But if you build some excitement through a string of flirty texts then you will get her excited to go out with you and you too will also be excited because you have more of an idea what to expect, as opposed to going into this rather blind and unsure of what type of girl you’re about to go on a date with.
To learn some texting and attraction basics for getting a girl a little hot and bothered by you before a date, watch my free presentation where I’ll teach you the secret language that will make any woman feel an uncontrollable lust for you.
Texting Scenario 4: When the conversation goes stale.
In this case, when your text conversation goes stale, it is important that you leave it alone!
A bad text conversation is like a scab, the more you pick it the worse it gets and the longer it takes to heal.
Here you want to leave the conversation alone, let it get some oxygen and heal up a bit from the staleness and then come back to your texting conversation with her at a later date where you can instigate some interest and intrigue.
The easiest way to create some interest and intrigue is through timing.
You want to show your girl that you’re busy by not texting her all day out of boredom.
Ideally, when you want to re-start the conversation– say, “Hey Hilary! How are you? I’ve had a hectic week. Haven’t heard from you in a bit and would love to hear from you.”
This kind of text acknowledges that you are ½ of the communication equation and that you’ve been busy and not just waiting around for her text.
So when the conversation has gone stale, leave it alone and come back even stronger.
To learn more about attracting a woman over text, watch my free presentation where I’ll teach you the secret language that will make any woman feel an uncontrollable lust for you.
