Hey guys, Kate Spring here, and I’m here to address something that is a real letdown for women in their relationships. And that is a lack of sexual tension.
Sometimes, healthy tension can be one of those things missing in relationships and is like an on and off switch, but most of the time, it requires work.
Building sexual tension is like the growing hunger that makes a three-course meal so enjoyable, and the build-up to the main meal is the appetizer, and I’m going to share with you 4 ways to savor the entire meal.
Women need a gradual build up; they need to be teased.
The art of teasing is giving a little and then taking it away, always leaving them wanting more.
It is has been scientifically proven that women and men treat sex differently and the way women get turned on varies in time!
So remember, women need a little extra in the tension department. We want to want it. And I guarantee, once you try these tactics, you won’t go back.
1. Connect with her mind.
One of the most important ways to build tension with a woman is by having a connection with her mind.
If it’s not an undeniable sexual chemistry at first, then no fear, because we can help to create it with these few steps.
By connecting with a woman on an intellectual as well as emotional level, we will make her feel good about you, which is our goal!
This may seem pretty basic to you, but women are in their heads a lot of the time, and by penetrating her thoughts, and being thoughtful, you can really begin to have an effect.
Aside from the physical contact we have with people, our most important connection with others is an emotional and an intellectual one.
You can achieve this through sharing some witty jokes or talking about topics that you’re passionate about. It shows you have depth and a mind to go along with your body.
Dirty jokes do work, too, in some capacity! Don’t get me wrong, I love a good crude joke!
But being too jokey can take away from the emotional connection we are trying to create with someone.
We connect with the mind, so start there.
Humor and compassion fall under this category and are sure-fire ways to start building that connection that leads to attraction and then tension.
You basically want to show your best side, and this is one of the first steps to building that tension, but first you have to build that connection.
Onto our second way to create sexual tension.
2. Use texting to build sexual tension.
Absence makes the heart grow fonder. And texting can enhance that tension with a few flirty texts, and leaving off with an “I can’t wait to see you ;)”
Having a strong text game is key to creating sexual tension with your woman of interest.
Texting allows you to blush and squawk and squeal like no one is watching, and it allows you to have whatever reaction you naturally feel.
The text is a very specific one to learn—if you do not already practice savvy texting.
Complimenting someone over text message is a good place to begin, and when you sign off, leave her a little, “I’m excited to see you!”
These few things go a long way in the relationship build up. After all, it’s all about textual satisfaction!
To learn more about building attraction and sexual tension with your girl, head over to my website and watch the free presentation where I teach you the secret language that will make any woman feel an uncontrollable lust for you.
3. Build romantic tension by flirting with her.
The third way to create tension is through flirting.
Flirting requires some degree of comfort with your sexuality. Because if you are not, then your flirting may come off as strange and awkward.
Guilt surrounding sex is one of the most detrimental things that has happened to our culture.
Men and women are sexual beings and flirting is fun, so let go of whatever guilt you have pent up from your Sunday School days and explore.
Tension is the feeling of being pulled towards someone, but also experiencing resistance. It occurs when you and your girl interact and have a sexual desire to be with each other, but it is postponed or delayed or has yet to happen.
Tension is a thing that starts in the mind and spreads through the body.
Now, if you have already done the horizontal mambo, because let’s face it, one night stands happen, these tips will work for you because the imagination already has a scene to recall.
The goal of flirting is to create sexual tension.
Women enjoy sex, so whatever you thought about women not liking sex as much as men is untrue.
Flirting makes us feel good, and when we feel good, we want to continue feeling this way. And nothing feels better than the butterflies you get when you are being chased, and when we anticipate sexual intimacy.
Trust me, I know!
4. Be physically affectionate with her.
The fourth, but equally as important, way to build sexual tension is by being physically affectionate.
Physical affection is one of the best things about relationships, especially at first.
Women respond to a welcomed touch, and it makes them feel good! This kind of touching can include just running your fingers gently along her shoulder, arms, thigh, really anywhere.
Tickling, hand holding, and tiny kisses that linger also go a long way. This kind of gentle, physical contact really adds to the growing desire between men and women.
With physical affection, not only are we trying to build up attraction in the mind, but also we’re trying to build it in the body.
Remember to enjoy the tension, because that is the most exciting part of dating and getting to know someone. Tension is all about restrictions.
I think that’s why teenagers have so much sexual pent up angst.
Because instead of having to create restrictions on themselves, they have them imposed on them by parents and schools, who tell them what is and isn’t appropriate.
As adults, we have to re-employ these strategies of restraint; otherwise, we will just find ourselves in a slew of unfulfilling one night stands.
To learn more about how to create sexual tension with a woman, watch the free presentation here which takes an in-depth look at how to build attraction with any woman you want.
