101 Spicy Questions To Ask Your Boyfriend Tonight

Getting to know someone intimately is one of the best parts of getting to know them.

When I started writing these spicy questions to ask your boyfriend, I debated about whether or not to assume that you have already been intimate with them.

Then I thought, “who am I kidding?!”

You’re the one who is here looking up racy questions to ask your boyfriend so l refuse to do the fake morality tango in my personal corner of the internet.

If you or your relationship isn’t quite ready for this yet, check out these deep questions to ask your boyfriend instead.

Also, I put the more controversial questions toward the bottom, but you know your situation best. You’ll have to decide for yourself if it’s a good idea to ask some of these questions.

Here’s my usual (un) common sense warning: if it’s a good idea, do it. If it’s a bad idea, don’t do it.

With that out of the way, onto the good part. If you want to dial up the passion between you, this should do the trick.

Spicy Questions To Ask Your Boyfriend About Fantasies & Desires

Exploring hidden thoughts, turn-ons, and things they’ve always wanted to try:

• Is there a forbidden or taboo fantasy that secretly excites you? If so, what?
• What’s one thing you’ve always wanted to try in the bedroom but haven’t yet?
• If we could have sex anywhere without getting caught, where would you pick?
• Do you have any kinks or turn ons you’ve never told anyone about? If so, what?
• Have you ever had a fantasy about doing it in public?
• If you could design a perfect night of passion, what would happen?
• What’s something you’ve seen in a movie or read about that you’d love to try?
• If I blindfolded you and took control, how do you think you’d react?
• Have you ever fantasized about being with me in a completely different setting or role?
• Would you ever want to recreate a scene from a book or movie with me?
• Do you ever fantasize about me during the day? What’s the most recent one?
• What’s something about my body that you think about when you’re turned on?
• If I gave you complete freedom to do whatever you wanted to me, what would you do first?
• What’s a fantasy you’ve never told anyone because you thought they might judge?
• Would you rather have a night of slow, teasing pleasure or an intense, wild experience?
• If I told you I wanted to be completely at your mercy for one night, how would you take advantage of it?
• What’s a fantasy that you would want to build up to over time rather than trying right away?
• What’s the most unexpected place you’ve ever felt turned on?
• How would you feel if I whispered my dirtiest fantasy to you right now?
• If we had a private island for a weekend, what would you want to do with me?
• What’s a sound or phrase that instantly turns you on?
• If we could live out one fantasy together with no consequences, what would it be?
• What kind of seductive outfit would you want me to surprise you with?
• Would you ever want to try something spontaneous and risky, like sneaking off at an event?
• How do you feel about me taking control and teasing you until you can’t take it anymore?

Memories & Past Experiences

Recalling their hottest moments together and what made them special:

• What’s the sexiest thing I’ve ever done that drove you crazy?
• What’s the hottest dream you’ve ever had about me?
• What’s the sexiest memory you have of us?
• What’s one thing I do in bed that you can’t get enough of?
• What’s the most turned on you’ve ever been around me?
• What’s a moment with me that made your heart race the most?
• What’s one time you couldn’t stop thinking about me after we were together?
• If we had a highlight reel of our hottest moments, what’s one scene that would be unforgettable?
• What’s the most seductive thing I’ve ever done without realizing it?
• Do you remember the first time we locked eyes and felt that tension?
• When did you first know that our chemistry was off the charts?
• What’s a moment that made you crave me more than ever?
• When was the last time you got completely lost in pleasure with me?
• What’s a way I touched you that sent shivers down your spine?
• What’s a memory that still turns you on every time you think about it?
• Have you ever caught yourself replaying a moment between us in your mind?
• When did I surprise you in the best possible way in the bedroom?
• What’s a song that reminds you of a sexy moment we shared?
• What’s a moment that made you feel the most desired by me?
• If I could relive one intimate experience with you, which one should I choose?
• When did I completely take your breath away?
• What’s something about our connection that makes it different from anything you’ve had before?
• What’s a moment where you couldn’t believe how good I made you feel?
• If you could pick one night to go back and experience again, which would it be?
• Have I ever caught you off guard in the best way when it comes to intimacy?

Preferences & Arousal

Understanding what excites them most and what they love in the moment:

• What’s one way I could turn you on instantly?
• Do you like it when I tease you and make you wait, or do you prefer instant pleasure?
• What’s a touch that instantly gives you goosebumps?
• If I kissed you right now, where would you want me to start?
• How do you feel when I whisper something dirty in your ear?
• What’s a type of foreplay that always drives you crazy?
• How do you want me to express my desire for you more?
• Is there any way I could make you even more interested in getting intimate?
• What’s one thing I could say to you that would send chills down your spine?
• When I look at you a certain way, do you instantly know what I’m thinking?
• What’s a sensation you’d love to experience more during intimacy?
• How do you feel when I completely let go and surrender to pleasure with you?
• What’s the best compliment I could give you in the heat of the moment?
• If I gently traced my fingers down your body, where would you want them to stop?
• What’s your favorite way to build up tension before we finally give in?
• Do you like it when I take my time or when I’m more impatient?
• If I pulled you into a dark corner for a stolen moment, what would you want me to do?
• What’s your favorite way for me to initiate intimacy?
• If I woke you up in the middle of the night wanting you, how would you react?
• What’s a look I give you that makes you weak?
• If I told you I wanted to please you for as long as you wanted without asking for anything in return, what would you do?
• What’s your favorite part of my body, and why?
• If you could only use one word to describe the way I kiss, what would it be?
• Do you prefer slow and sensual or rough and wild?
• How do you feel about experimenting with toys or roleplay?
• What’s a piece of lingerie or outfit you’d love to see me in?

Future Exploration & Experimentation

Pushing boundaries and keeping things exciting:

• Would you ever want to take a sensual getaway just for pleasure?
• What’s one new thing you’d love to explore together?
• How do you feel about incorporating sensory play into our intimacy?
• What’s one thing you’ve been curious about but hesitant to try?
• Would you ever be interested in roleplaying a completely different dynamic with me?
• What’s a secret location you’d love to have an intimate experience?
• How do you feel about experimenting with new rhythms and paces in our encounters?
• If we had a whole day to ourselves with nothing but each other, how would you want to spend it?
• What’s a new way you’d love for us to ignite passion between us?
• How do you feel about exploring more spontaneous and unexpected encounters?
• Would you ever want to plan an entire night where every detail was about pleasure?
• How do you feel about exploring your senses blindfolded?
• What’s a way we could build anticipation for an unforgettable night?
• If we created a bucket list of intimate experiences, what’s one thing you’d put on it?
• How do you feel about trying something outside of your usual comfort zone?
• What’s a unique setting that could heighten our experience together?
• If I whispered a new idea to you right now, how would you respond?
• How do you feel about deepening our intimacy beyond just physical connection?
• What’s a way we can create more sexual tension in our everyday lives?
• If I promised to give you an experience you’d never forget, what would you want it to be?
• Have you ever thought about filming us together?
• If we had an entire day to ourselves with no interruptions, what would we do?
• What’s one naughty thought you’ve had about me that you haven’t shared yet?
• If we could create the perfect night of passion, what would it look like?
• What’s a new way you’d love for us to explore pleasure together?

Power & Control

Exploring dominance, submission, and who takes the lead:

• If we played a sexy game together, what kind of game would it be?
• How do you feel about power dynamics in the bedroom?
• Do you like when I take charge, or do you prefer being in control?
• If I tied your hands and had my way with you, how would you feel?
• If I gave you a challenge where you weren’t allowed to touch me, how long do you think you’d last?
• Is there any word or phrase that instantly makes you want to submit?
• If I told you exactly what I wanted you to do to me, would you obey or resist?
• Do you like when I/would you want me to tease you and make you beg for more?
• Is there anything that instantly makes you feel dominant? If so, what?
• If I pinned you against a wall, what would you do next?
• How would you feel if I surprised you with a spontaneous act of passion?
• Have you ever wanted to completely surrender to me and let me take over?
• If I let you have full control for a night, what’s the first thing you’d do?
• Would you like for me to challenge you to hold back or when I push you over the edge?
• If I whispered a command in your ear, would you follow it?
• What’s something you wish I’d do that would leave you completely at my mercy?
• What do you think about being teased until you’re desperate?
• If I restrained you and took my time making you feel good, how would you react?
• If I took control, would you like me to use my voice, or would you prefer silent tension?
• What’s one thing I could say in the moment that would completely unravel you?
• Do you like it more when I take control or when you’re in charge?
• What’s one way I could tease you that would drive you insane?
• If I whispered something dirty in your ear right now, what would you want me to say?
• What’s one thing you think would take our sex life to the next level?

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That about does it for my list of spicy questions to ask your boyfriend. Let me know how it goes.

Have fun learning about each other!