We have all been in a situation where we’ve let our feelings for a guy get the best of us. Maybe it was because you cared too much or maybe it was because he was a giant tease or strung you along when you believed that what you were sharing was real.
Whatever the case, you know better now.
Today I’m going to teach you some helpful ways to control your emotions when it comes to men.
Believe me, I know how tough it can be to not fall hard and fast when you seemed to click with a guy or to cry your eyes out when you feel disappointed or let down. But letting a guy get the best of you and your emotions isn’t healthy, especially if you’re looking to build a lasting, loving relationship.
The good news is that even though you may not realize it, you have complete control over your emotions.
Let’s talk about the three steps you need to learn and follow to control your emotions around men.
1. Identify your feelings.
This means that before you react to any given situation, it’s important that you take the time to define what you’re feeling and why.
It’s one thing to know you’re feeling annoyed or upset, but determining WHY you feel the way you do is a whole other challenge.
However, taking the time to identify and control your feelings is one of the best moves you can make because it’ll not only prevent you from reacting irrationally but it will also put you more in tune with what makes you tick.
Next time you feel your emotions bubbling up inside— be it good or bad, take a moment to mentally play through the scenario.
Some women find keeping a journal of their emotions helps to control them. If you think this could work for you, then give it a try.
If you find that you’re having a hard time digging deep and thinking through your feelings, then try removing yourself from the scenario. I know this sounds counterproductive, but when you think about it, we’re all so good at processing situations that we’re not a part of.
For example, when a friend tells you how she’s feeling in any given situation, it’s easy to conclude whether or not she’s being ridiculous or overreacting.
Use the same sort of process to sort through your own emotions and mentally run through the situation but take yourself out of the equation and instead pretend as though it’s happening to someone else.
Ask yourself what the rational way for that person to react would be, then compare it to your own feelings and reaction.
Whether you’re bursting with joy or drowning in sorrow, it’s important that you take a moment to breathe.
Since the point of this piece is to teach you how to control your emotions around men, it’s crucial that you stay in control of your feelings, regardless of whether they’re positive or negative.
You may be thinking, “but Amy, don’t you want me to feel extreme happiness?”
Of course I do.
However, it’s important that you don’t give ANY man total control over your emotions.
So after you’ve identified what you’re feeling and why— you need to take a breather and ground yourself.
Because your emotions are directly created by how you think and your physical responses to your thoughts.
For instance, when you’re feeling angry your brain processes your body’s physical reactions like a quickened heartbeat, increased body temperature, and dry mouth BEFORE it can interpret that emotion to be anger.
By controlling your breathing, you’re able to counter and even avoid these physical reactions which mean your brain won’t be so quick to process your emotions.
To do this, breathe normally a few times then inhale slowly through your nose, allowing your chest and belly to fill and expand with air.
You may find it helpful to close your eyes. Then, exhale slowly through your mouth or nose. Do this 10 times and the impact it will have on your mood and emotions is unbelievable.
Also, when you’re feeling less than awesome, make a point to keep your chin up literally.
Your moods manifest themselves physically.
The way you carry yourself will impact how you feel. This is why it’s possible to control your emotions simply with your face.
For instance, by keeping your mouth and jaw relaxed, you’ll feel more pleasant than if they were tight and clenched.
Besides, if you let a man know he has that much power over your feelings, then you risk scaring him off or letting him take advantage of you.
Instead, you need to stay in charge and only let your emotions shine through after you’ve given yourself time to breathe and process.
For some powerful tips on how to regain control and ooze with confidence to make any man weak at the knees, pop on over to my site and watch the free video presentation. I could go on and on about all the awesome stuff you’ll find in that, but instead, I’ll let you see for yourself here.
3. Know your worth.
At the end of the day, the only person who should be able to control your emotions is you. And, a big part of knowing how to control your emotions around men is knowing your worth.
This means that no matter how hard you’re falling for a man, no matter how smitten he makes you feel or how bad he hurt you, you need to understand that giving someone else that much power over your emotions is not healthy.
Instead, carry yourself with the mentality that any man would be lucky to have you and the one who does get you will treat you with that same level of respect.
It can be tough to get in this mindset especially if you have a habit of doing otherwise.
But… as they say, practice makes perfect.
When you can be the kind of woman who knows her worth and understands what she has to offer a relationship, it’ll make a million times easier to control your emotions so you don’t ever get in over your head.
It’s sort of like safeguarding your heart. You don’t want to set yourself up for disappointment. So by realizing you’re a prize to be won and reminding yourself daily that you’re in the driver’s seat, you’ll be in full control of your emotions in no time.
Strange text message that makes him quiver with obsession for you?
Once you use this text on a man, he will immediately distance himself from other women… and constantly think about ways he can get closer to you.
Aren’t you curious?