Hi, I’m Elizabeth Stone. Here’s today’s question:
I have struggled with attracting the wrong people for a long time. Thank God that phase seems to be over. However, I am in a relationship with someone who is committed and devoted to me but instead of enjoying and accepting it, deep down I wonder, “Is there a catch”? I try to squash it when it creeps up but it’s lurking somewhere. How do I overcome it?
Good question. I like questions about upsetting thoughts because they dissolve easily when you look straight at them and deny that they have anything to do with reality.
Here’s how I do this:
When you think that thought– for you it’s something like “is there a catch?” and maybe “is this good situation really happening?”, first notice you’re thinking these thoughts.
Then don’t do anything.
I mean that. Nothing. Just notice.
Then notice as you think a new thought.
It’s not the actual thought that is a problem, it’s that you’re worried the thought is true and then imagine the consequences. It’s thinking the thought which is the problem.
Let the thought go and it will change like the clouds in the sky.
Resist them and the unwanted thoughts will keep coming.
And, they will attract more thoughts just like it. But if you stop right when you notice a thought like this and deny that it has anything to do with anything– you can get free from it.
Maybe not forever, but for long enough to regroup. Then, if it comes back, do it again.
Pretty soon, accepting the reality you’re living in will be easier.
Thoughts like this can get to be a habit, but only when you do some combination of believing in them and resisting.
Now, go enjoy your new relationship.
To find out 7 key ways women block themselves from attracting lasting love, sign up for my free masterclass The 7 Blocks to Manifesting Love.
