What To Do When Your Man Pulls Away

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Let me ask you…

Have you ever felt so deeply connected with your man … his arms around you, feeling warm and happy and giggly and safe and utterly RIGHT…

Only to feel that WALL come down between you?

Almost out of nowhere.

Almost without warning.

And you feel that sickening clench in your stomach as you realize…

He’s pulling away.

And you don’t know why … or how to FIX it.

If you’ve ever experienced anything like this for yourself… then you need to read this article, and go watch the short cartoon put together for you at the end, RIGHT NOW…

Because whether YOUR man is ‘checking out’ of the relationship emotionally or not…

You NEED to know what to do when a man pulls away from you BEFORE it happens…

…Why?

Because trying to learn how to DRAG his love back to you when you’re already losing him is like trying to learn how to swim when you’re already drowning.

Look: I learned this myself, the hard way.

It cost me relationship after relationship, heartbreak after heartbreak.

And after years of seeing the men I loved walk out of my life, leaving me desperate and sobbing and bloody and broken…

…I finally got smart and decided to take back control of my love life.

That’s why I made it my life’s work to uncover the secret psychology of men

And the incredible hidden NEEDS that your man has… that all men have (but that he will never, EVER reveal to you on his own)…

And I want to share 3 of those secret, POWERFUL needs with you right now.

So if you want to prevent any man from EVER pulling away from you again… and DRAG his desire and devotion 100% back to YOU (where it belongs), forever…

Then there are just THREE things you need to know:

1. All men periodically NEED to pull away from ANY relationship … in exactly the same way YOU need to stop eating dinner when you’re stuffed to bursting.

To a man, love is a little like good, rich food.

But even with the BEST food in the world… even if he’s been STARVING for years…

He’s still going to get full eventually.

I’m paraphrasing from Dr John Gray, author of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus (and by the way, if you haven’t already read it, you should)…

But basically, a guy’s heart can only hold so much emotional ‘food’ before he needs time to leave the table and digest.

In other words, him ‘pulling away’ is a normal and NATURAL part of the desire cycle.

He “eats”… he gets “full”… then he leaves the table for awhile so that he can get “hungry” again.

In other words, ALL MEN periodically NEED to ‘leave the table’. Otherwise, he’ll never feel that desperate craving to get close you to again.

Which is why having a man periodically pull back from you can actually be an incredibly good thing.

Because IF you handle it right (and I’m about to tell you how), when a man pulls away, it’s a GOLDEN opportunity to snap his attention, love, and desire right back onto you again… and closer than ever before.

Here’s how to do it.

2. When a man pulls away, you must make an IMMEDIATE commitment to yourself to react in a way that most women DON’T, WON’T, OR CAN’T.

Let’s say you’ve noticed a distance in your man’s behavior lately. Maybe his cute little texts are getting fewer and further between. Maybe he’s acting quiet, and distant, and cold, and weird. Or maybe he’s even told you outright that it’s not working and he ‘needs some space’.

So, what should you DO?

Well, first I’ll tell you what you SHOULDN’T do when he pulls away (which is exactly what 99% of women end up doing):

Freak out.

Most women react to a man going distant by PANICKING and saying things like:

  • ‘What’s wrong?’
  • ‘Is it me?’
  • ‘Did I do something wrong?’
  • ‘Is everything okay?’
  • ‘You seem distant…’

But if you panic, freak out, or get ‘clingy’, you will QUICKLY drive him further away than ever.

And here’s why…

When it comes to love, a man’s capacity to feel love and desire for you is INCREDIBLY dependent on just TWO things:

– His ability to make you happy, and …
– His ability to feel your TRUST in him.

When a man perceives that he’s making you happy and that you TRUST him, his brain is flooded in a warm wash of happy chemicals.

He feels pride, ecstasy, euphoria, and a potent surge of sheer masculinity.

In other words, making you happy and earning your trust makes him feel like a MAN.

Don’t forget, most men walk around in their lives in a haze of insecurity, anxiety, and worries of being disrespected.

That’s why it’s so incredibly powerful when he feels your trust and respect in him.

It makes him stand up straight, feel ecstatic and warm and proud and strong, and ready to fight dragons for you just to feel it again.

But, if you freak out and react by trying to grab him and DRAG him back to you…

…then he (rightly) perceives that he’s NOT making you happy and you’re NOT trusting him.

Which triggers an instant and devastating surge of UNHAPPY chemicals in his brain.

The result?

Deep in his unconscious brain, he forges an unbreakable chemical link between ‘being around you’ with the unpleasant and deeply repulsive feeling of ‘being disrespected and distrusted as a man’.

And that’s when what WAS a simple, healthy, natural male instinct to ‘pull away’ in order to come CLOSER…

… now becomes a legitimate WALL between the two of you.

So how do you make sure this NEVER happens to you?

3. When a man pulls away, you need to EMBRACE it as the golden opportunity for a deeper, more incredible connection it really is.

If you feel like he’s pulling away (and he might very well be), here’s what you absolutely need to do:

– You MUST relax.
– You MUST NOT stress.
– You MUST remind yourself that all men do this, that it’s natural and healthy, that it’s literally FUELLING his ability to come closer to you…
– And most of all, you must allow him to pull back without freaking out and without trying to ‘fix’ it.

Because most of the time, there’s nothing TO fix.

It’s simply a man being a man … and getting closer to you in the only way he knows how:

By instinctively creating the DISTANCE between you that ends up driving a deeper, more connected CLOSENESS when he comes back your way again.

“But Mirabelle … I can’t just do nothing! How can you be so heartless??”

Ha.

Well, first of all, understand that I’m NOT telling you to do nothing.

What I’m saying is that you must relax.

And relaxing is not ‘nothing’!

Real relaxing means taking positive action to become a stronger, more awesome version of yourself.

Whether that’s reading a novel, seeing a friend, taking a walk, playing with your puppy, cooking a meal, working out…

…anything you do that truly relaxes you is taking positive action to build a better life, a healthier body, a stronger immune system…

… and probably also stronger friendships, better self esteem, and a happier, more balanced mind.

So, relaxing is NOT nothing : )

But … hey, I get it. ‘Relaxing’ can feel downright IMPOSSIBLE when you feel like the man you love is slipping through your fingers and checking out of the relationship emotionally.

Plus, there’s the bitter truth: sometimes, a man pulling away really does spell trouble for your relationship.

Here’s the good news…

Right now, here’s something AMAZING that’s going to bring all his barriers crumbling down forever, and drag his desire and devotion 100% back to you the SECOND you use it.

Here’s the deal:

You know how I mentioned at the start of this article that there’s a cartoon I put together for you?

Well, I want you to go and watch that cartoon right now.

And here’s why:

Because, in this tooth-grittingly personal video, I tell you a raw, honest, and devastating story of how one woman came so close to driving her man away forever …

PLUS I’ll give you the EXACT eight steps I found that STOP a man from pulling away dead in his tracks …

Make him ‘hungry’ for your love …

And honestly create a level of lasting bliss and deep emotional CONNECTION between you and your man that no-one and nothing can destroy.

And If you want him to not just ‘love’ but absolutely devote himself to you heart and soul …

Then click here to learn eight simple steps that give you push-button access to his deepest thoughts and feelings, and make him yours forever.

Mirabelle Summers

About Mirabelle Summers

If you are serious about changing your destiny with men, and getting him to happily do more of the sweet, caring, romantic things you WANT him to do…

If you want a genuine man who will love you, shower you with attention, and give you the commitment you deeply deserve…

Discover Mirabelle Summer’s secret mind control method and watch some pretty amazing things happen :)

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Mirabelle Summers is the relationship guru behind several insightful relationship programs, including Wrap Him Around Your Finger, Why Men Pull Away, How To Win Back The Love of Your Ex and several more. In addition, she has authored two love and relationship Amazon bestsellers.

One Comment

  1. Rose kalei pelayo

    August 25, 2016 at 1:49 am

    Hi I would like some advice please on a situation of pulling away please
    In 2009 I met my ex then we dated till 2011 then in 2011 my grandma passed away and she was my second mom I lived with for for like 16 years, and people grieve differently, so my cousins turned to alcohol and then when she passed away my ex wanted a break like two days after and that’s when I needed someone the most because my best friend was hardly there and people grieve differently my cousins started drinking then I unfortunately decided to hang out with his brother to feel close to him so it would feel like I wasn’t gonna lose my ex like the way I lost grandma to death like he wouldn’t come back I slept with his brother then he found out and I eventual ally told him, then he stopped talking to me and I left a rose and beer could times to his door step then stopped then a year later I said happy birthday to him he responded and we been on and off since then, then a while after that I seen he was on here again so I asked him about it then we stopped talking then started Again I told him my feelings and then we kept talking then last year he told me how he didn’t see me in his future but we still went out few times then couple months ago I decided that I want to move on and tired of getting nothing, I guess I had high hopes
    Till this day we still hangout sometime but I haven’t got to meet his kid yet, it doesn’t make sense where he says he doesn’t see me in his future but yet he still wants to hangout sometimes he recently took me out for dinner which only happens rarely, then a couple years ago I got into his dating account where we met and seen he was talking to a few overweight women and he claims to have only talked to one girl but I low-key stalk him on Facebook and check and see aoneotines if any women comment on his page and haven’t seen any I don’t know but the other day seen one girl that looked new but lives like hour half away and has a kid, that’s another thing he hasn’t let me meet his kid yet or bring me around his friends again and we been talk
    Talking again for the past year and last year we spent a weekend together and 2vweeks ago he treated me to a movie then ignored me for half the week then this past Saturday he talked to me then had ignored me till today hasn’t said hi or anything
    Should I just move on and if he texts me should I even bother replying it’s making me so depressed

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