There is nothing more frustrating than trying to read a man, especially when he’s sending mixed signals. If a guy you are into has you questioning his every word and move, then I have some news for you. And, it’s probably not what you expect.
Hi, ladies, my name is Amy North. I’m a relationship coach from the west coast of Canada and author of the bestselling program, “The Devotion System.”
Today, I want to talk about a problem that so many women face, and that’s how to read a man’s mixed signals or messages.
First, I want to do is define what I mean by “mixed signals,” and that’s any message a man sends you, then contradicts.
For instance, if he goes from texting you daily to falling off the map, or if he tells you he likes you then suddenly disappears, simply put, it’s when he says one thing and then does another.
Now, here’s the shocking bit.
While women have spent centuries trying to read a man’s mixed signals, from a guy’s perspective, these signals aren’t actually a thing. They don’t exist.
He’s either into you, or he’s not. If he wants to be with you, he will. Simple as that.
Now, I know you maybe sat there horrified that you spent all this time trying to figure out his reason and rhyme. And, now, I’m telling you, there’s nothing to be discovered. But, hey, the good news is, you’re liberated.
The mystery is over. You should feel free as a bird.
That said, let me explain why guys send what us women consider to be mixed messages.
Men work differently from women. For instance, when a woman meets a man, she usually knows pretty early on whether she wants to be with him and, from there, acts accordingly.
In other words, if she’s interested in him, she’ll start seeing him as a potential partner. If she doesn’t, she’ll usually cut the cord.
Men, on the other hand, aren’t as quick to consider women as long-term romantic partners.
Instead, they’re just in it to have fun. Sure, they find certain women attractive, and that attraction is part of why they want to be around them in the first place. But, in the beginning, he’s more interested in having a good time getting to know her.
A man can have a blast with a woman and still not feel the urge to make her his.
When this happens, mixed signals come into the picture.
From a woman’s perspective, she likely thinks that he is interested in her at this point. Hence, why they have been spending all this time together and enjoying themselves.
However, if that’s not the case, then his behavior becomes confusing to her because it seem like he sends mixed signals.
The reality is that if he hasn’t made you his, he’s probably not going to.
Instead of analyzing his every move and deciphering each word in his text messages, realize that he’s not interested. The message is clear. If he wants to be with you, he will make you his.
Now, that’s not to say you should jump to this conclusion too quickly.
After all, he could very well be interested in having a relationship with you but busy with work or sidetracked with other priorities.
If after a month, you realize that he’s not making an effort to have something serious, then take the hint.
Instead of wasting your time trying to figure out what he’s feeling, realize that he’s not actually sending you mixed messages. He’s just not looking for anything serious with you.
In these cases, it’s important that you don’t be a clingy girl sitting around, waiting for something to happen.
In fact, if you do want a relationship with a guy, then this is the worst thing you can do. Instead, it’s important that you happily move on and show him that you’re not sitting around waiting for him. Doing so will give you the best chance of actually winning him over.
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One last tip I’d like to share with you for these kind of situations is to avoid playing the “friends with benefits” role.
Sure, you may think that getting sexually involved with him will make him want to be with you, but to be blunt, it doesn’t. He’s got the goods without having to commit to you.
At this point, why would he settle down if he’s already getting to have you so easily? Despite what you might think, you can’t sex your way into his heart.
Did you know that there is a state of desire more powerful than love?
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Well, that does it for today. If you have any questions or feedback about what we’ve just covered, feel free to post those in the comments below.