How’s your relationship going? Are you as close as you want to be?
Sometimes it’s a real challenge to balance time with him and the 5 gazillion other things that you have to accomplish in any given 24 hour period.
Rather than give you a bunch of labor-intensive ideas for spicing things up, I’ve come up with a few quick tips to improve your relationship and keep your love alive without a ton of extra effort:
1. Make regular time for each other.
Time and time again, people tell me my ideas are wonderful, but they feel they can’t be as loving or romantic as I am because they don’t have enough hours in the day.
I have the same amount of time given to me each day as everyone else does. It’s how I prioritize my time that might be different.
Besides my relationship with my Creator, my time spent with Athena is most important to me. More important than my job. More important than the money I make. More important than exercise. More important than my friends or other family members. And yes, even more important than Ashton, my darling little son.
I am not against buying nice items for those who can afford them and don’t have to work insane hours to attain them. But I am slightly perplexed by those who work too many hours or have a long daily commute just so they can have “things,” not realizing they are losing something that is even more valuable and precious.
2. Share secrets with each other.
I’ve got a secret and I’m not sharing. Actually, I have a lot of secrets.
There are a lot of things that are only known to Athena and me. That keeps us close. I like it when Athena shares things with me that she doesn’t share with others. It makes me feel special and unique in her eyes. I tell her things that I don’t tell my friends or family. It’s not like these are horrible things we have done that we can’t tell others. I just want Athena to feel like she knows me better than anyone else.
Make your sweetheart feel special. Always share important things with them first. Let some things remain a secret between the two of you for a little while before letting the rest of the world know all about your personal life.
3. Plan regular date nights.
Without special time together, relationships can become distant, pull apart or simply become horribly boring and stale.
But you can’t simply replace doing nothing with doing the exact same thing week after week. The – oh-so-predictable – dinner and a movie can be all right if mixed up with some other types of dates.
Here are a few suggestions for date ideas: Bookstore, library, museum, zoo or park date, or collect clothes together to donate to a local shelter.
4. Spice up your love life.
If you find that intimacy is becoming very sporadic in your relationship (and you are not happy with that) consider scheduling “intimacy nights.”
Just like date nights, schedule one or two days each week for physical intimacy. Some people find the idea of planned intimacy off-putting at first, but later come to anticipate the weekly ritual.
5. Get your debt under control.
If you want to have improve your relationship and make things blissful between you, you will need to get your debt under control (or at least a plan to do so). Otherwise, your debt will control you and affect you physically and psychologically.
When you get a paycheck, the first thing you should do is set aside money for charity/church. Doesn’t seem logical, but it works if you want to attract more money. Sit down with your partner and discuss all aspects of your family budget. Only when you analyze your spending habits will you fully realize where you are wasting money. It’s a great opportunity to talk about your goals and dreams. Realize that frivolously spending money can be a sign of disrespect for your marriage and mate.
If you would like a bigger diamond ring or a fancier car, ask yourself why.
Take a quick inventory of all the items you own but could really live without. Consider how much you paid for them. What if you didn’t buy those items and had all that money in savings instead? Would it make a difference in how you view your job, your family and your future?
To create the relationship of your dreams, check out my book, 50 Secrets of Blissful Relationships which I wrote to help you create your perfect relationship.
Don’t miss out on the blissful connection with your partner that you really deserve.