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How To Tell A Man What You Really Want (Confidently)
Today I want to share with you something that will blow your mind.
But before I do, let me ask you this, how many times have you met a man, went on a seemingly good date but then he fell off the face of the earth or told you that it just wasn’t going to work out?
I bet there are plenty of you that can relate to this and I’d even be willing to bet that many of you have blamed the guy for it not working out. What if I told you that you might have had more to do with his loss of interest than you think?
Believe it or not, one of the most common reasons why men lose interest in women is because of their inability to communicate clearly and effectively.
This means that if you want to make a man addicted to you, you need to choose your words wisely. Let’s take a step back for a moment and look at the bigger picture.
Men are attracted to women who are confident, know what they want and how to ask for it.
However, before you can be this type of woman, you need to know your standards. This means knowing what you find unacceptable in a relationship, knowing how you’d like to be treated and knowing what you are looking for in a man.
Once you know these things, you then need to communicate them to him. This is where things get tricky. How do you tell a man that you’re interested in, what you want without coming across as being high maintenance, entitled or bitchy?
Communicating your standards to a man is one of the most attractive things you can do.
Since men love a challenge, knowing your wants and also that you won’t sway on those wants, pushes him to up his game because he knows that you won’t settle for less. Plus, just as you wouldn’t find a man who put his guard up around you attractive, neither do guys. Like you, they want to be with someone who is confident enough to voice their opinions and be their self.
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Now that that’s settled, let’s turn back to my earlier question.
How do you communicate your standards in a way that won’t leave a bad taste in his mouth?
The trick is to tell him what you want directly, but in a way that leaves him wanting more. For instance, let’s say you’re with a guy, he makes a move on you and you’re not comfortable with it. Rather than aggressively telling him or passively accepting his advances, it’s crucial that you speak up and be honest about your standards.
You could say something like, “I am attracted to you but moving as quickly isn’t my style. If you want to spend more time together though, I’d really like to get to know you better.”
This tells him that you’re into him, shares your standards in a way that isn’t belittling and keeps him interested by inviting him to spend more time with you. If he gets upset or blows you off after you tell him this, then that’s a sign that he is only in it for the sex anyways and you don’t need that.
The same kind of technique can be used in almost any situation where a man is pushing your boundaries.
Again, the point is to be honest about what you are and are not comfortable with and to keep him intrigued by letting him know that he does stand a chance with you.
At the same time, if there is no interest there, then be honest with him. Just as you wouldn’t want be led on, don’t do it to him. Believe me, once you know how to communicate your wants, needs and desires clearly to a man, he’ll be hooked.
Did you know that there is a state of desire more powerful than love?
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If you have any questions or comments about what I’ve shared here with you today, then please feel free to post those in the comments below. Until next time, take care and good luck!