5 Tell-Tale Signs He’s A Jerk

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Today we are going to be talking about 5 signs that a guy you are dating might be a jerk.

I know it’s never fun to find out that the guy that you met and maybe have fallen in love with might actually be a jerk.

But it’s better to find out sooner rather than later so that you can take appropriate action instead of continuing to dump more time and energy into someone who may not actually be right for you.

So that being said, let’s go over 5 signs that he might be a jerk.

1. He’s always the victim.

Now, the first sign that he might be jerk is that he is always a victim of the world around him.

His problems are always other people’s fault. He says things like:

“Oh, it wasn’t my fault that I was late for work. The bus was late.”

“It’s not my fault that I said that thing that one time at the party.  It was that guy’s fault because he got me the one extra beer that pushed me over the edge and I just had no inhibitions.

“It’s not my fault that my previous relationship didn’t work. My ex-girlfriend was totally psycho.”

These are signs a guy is a jerk because when somebody’s life isn’t working, they always have some degree of personal responsibility.

There are things that happen that are outside of our control but you have to really own what’s going on in your life. If you don’t, that can kind of make you into a jerk because instead of pointing the finger where it belongs (at yourself), you are actually pointing it at other people. This can often cause you to criticize and blame other people unjustly. That is kind of a jerk thing to do.

2. He’s emotionally repressed.

The second sign that the guy you might be dating is a jerk is that he only has one or two emotional states.

As human beings, we all have a vast spectrum of emotions. We feel joy, sadness, anger, frustration, fear, anxiety, dread, hope, inspiration, awe, and all of these things in between.

If a guy is a jerk, he might only have one or maybe two emotional states. Chances are, these are probably, cynicism, frustration, and anger— something negative along those lines.

He might even pretend to always be happy. But those people are always passive-aggressive. They are happy, happy, happy until suddenly they hit a boiling point and then he goes “boom!” and explodes on you.

This is not a good sign because that shows he is repressing some of his emotions. He has only allowed himself to express a very small sliver of his emotional spectrum. When he keeps pushing down the rest of the emotions, eventually they will hit a boiling point and it will come and sort of explode in all of these different unusual, weird, sideways kind of ways.

He might lash out at somebody unjustly or he might become very passive-aggressive towards somebody else. And those are kind of not really very cool things to do.

So it’s definitely a sign the guy you are seeing is a jerk is if he has a very limited emotional spectrum of only one or two different emotions that he can regularly access.

3. He’s not there for you when you need him.

The third sign that the guy you might be seeing is a jerk is if he is just not there for you when you need him the most.

When things are good, he’s like, “Yay! That’s great. You got the promotion. Let’s go out and celebrate.”

But when something goes bad, he says, “Oh hey, your mom just yelled at you and said that she never wants to talk to you again? Sorry, I’m out. I’m going to go watch a game.”

If he doesn’t have that emotional capacity to be there for you, it means that he is probably not going to be very sensitive and caring in the long run which could potentially make him a jerk right?

He is basically going to leave you hanging when you need it the most.

4. He’s selfish.

A fourth sign that the guy you are seeing might be a jerk is that he really only thinks of himself.

If a lot of his thoughts and actions revolve around what’s best for him, how things benefit him and what he’s going to do, it shows he is completely absorbed in himself and not likely to be very considerate of you or the other people around him.

You can expect a lot of his focus in the future to be on him. He won’t really consider how things might impact you or the other people in your life and it’s definitely a sign that he might be a jerk.

5. He’s totally fixated on you.

The fifth sign that a guy might be a jerk is if he only thinks about you.

If a guy only thinks about you, that can make him a jerk because it shows that a lot of his fixation and focus is on you and making you happy and playing this like weird sort of ulterior motive mind game thing where he is like:

“Hey, if I make you happy then you can return the favor and make me happy. You can read my mind and give me all the things that I’m hoping that you give me including that one thing we talked about once that I always wanted in the bedroom but you said no that one time.”

If he is always focused on you, it’s dangerous because essentially, he is going to be over-giving to you. Somewhere deep down he wants payback for all of this stuff that he has been giving.

All these things that he is giving to you come with strings attached.

One of these days, he’s going to pull the strings. And, you have to either do what he says or face a big passive-aggressive pity party. Either way, it’s not fun and only jerks do it.

So if all of his focus is on you OR him, it’s another of those tell-tale signs he’s a jerk.

What you really want is a guy who can balance both things out. He knows what he wants and also can lovingly give to you as well.

I hope that you don’t see any of the signs that your boyfriend or a guy you met might be a jerk and the things I’ve described.

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