How To Keep Social Media Oversharing From Killing Your Relationship

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Some things should be kept private in relationships… so why are we obsessively sharing?

Sharing snippets of our lives via Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram has become the rule more than the exception. It’s a wonderful way to connect with friends and family far and wide.

Thanks to the handy App (or Play) store on your smart-phone, it’s a cinch to instantaneously share your breakfast, your kid’s first day of school, and that article on YourTango that your best friend will love.

Most of my clients explain to me that they have a love-hate relationship with social media. They love the volume of information and connection at their fingertips, but are less comfortable with the perceived loss of privacy.

Suddenly, TMI has become TMIS: Too Many Internet Shares.

Are your social media habits hurting your relationship?

Two of the most important components of a monogamous relationship are the trust and connection between partners.

In the moment of sharing pieces of our lives, it can seem funny to share a silly photo of our partner or post a Facebook status about him leaving the toilet seat up. Again.

However, what this type of sharing actually does is weaken the bonds of love.

How can you balance the line between what is private and what is sharable in your relationship? Ask yourself these questions before you post.

  • Are you violating privacy? If you’re sharing a vulnerable or intimate moment, ask if the sharing of the photo or status update violates your partner’s privacy. Would you be okay with people having the same information about you?
  • Are you acting out of love or anger? It’s tempting to use social media to vent, but acting out of anger only weakens your connection and sometimes, no amount of make-up sex can overcome what you shared during an angry moment.
  • Are you compromising security? Burglaries are on the rise thanks to folks posting about vacations on social media. And when it comes to children, are you allowing strangers to more easily identify and approach your child?
  • Are you potentially damaging your partner’s image? It isn’t just celebrities who need to worry about how they are perceived by the public. Social media results are a mere “Google” away from employers and potential employers.
  • Are you strengthening or weakening your connection? Always choose to strengthen your connection with your partner.
  • Last, but not least: create a joint vision. As a part of deciding how you want to create a shared life, if one (or both) of you are active on social media, don’t be afraid of talking about the boundaries for use.

Apply the Golden Rule. Before you hit “send”, ask yourself how you’d feel about the same status or photo being shared by your partner.

Are you being mean or catty? Are you airing dirty laundry? Are you being social, or will your behavior leave you single and anti-social?

Are you tired of not feeling like the best version of yourself?

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Originally published at YourTango.com. Republished with permission from the author.

About Debra Smouse

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