How To Make Him Fall In Love Over Text Message (Plus: 5 Rules of Flirty Texting You MUST Obey)

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When it comes to love and romance, you probably have the same set of ideas in mind. Flowers, candle-lit dinners, holding hands and planning your happily ever after with the man of your dreams. Well, that’s all cute and charming. Before you can share those romantic experiences with a guy, you need to make him fall in love with you, which is exactly what I’m going to teach you today.

Hey, ladies, Amy North here. For those of you who don’t know me, I’m a relationship coach from the West Coast of Canada and author of The Devotion System, a program I’ve designed to help women around the world find and lock down the love they want and deserve.

Today, I’m going to share text messages you can send a man to make him fall in love with you.

Now, before you get all worked up or start panicking that this is a huge, seemingly impossible challenge, don’t. Believe me, this isn’t as hard as it sounds. Better yet, I’m going to give you flirty text messages that you can use yourself. This means that all you have to do is listen to what I say here and plug these messages into your phone, simple as that.

That said, there are of course going to be situations or circumstances where these messages need adapting. I mean, you’re not going to text a man about a trip to Cuba if you’ve never left the country. But again, don’t worry. I’ll give you the text message templates and then all you have to do is personalize them.

First, there are some super important rules about texting him to keep in mind.

Now, I don’t say rules because you should never do them. But really, they’re just tips. Let me use rules as an acronym to help you remember these pointers though:

R– Re-read your message.

Before you hit send on your phone, it’s important that you proofread the text message you’ve typed up. Check for clarity, spelling, and tone. Read it at least five times.

You’d be surprised how easy it is to overlook even the simplest mistakes. Besides, if you send him a powerful message, then it has to be followed up with a spelling correction or explanation, then the original message you’ve sent is going to lose its bite. So don’t sell yourself short, re-read your messages before sending them.

U– Use visual language.

Now, when it comes to text messaging, men and women are quite different from one another in terms of the types of messages they best respond to.

While women like getting text messages that are descriptive and evoke feelings, men, on the other hand, are visual creatures. So they respond best to descriptive words that will easily let them imagine what you’re saying.

Let me give you an example. Instead of texting him something like “I really miss you”, you could send him something like, “I really want to kiss you right now.” See the difference between the two? There’s not much, but those little subtle things make a difference. So, take the time, put in the details, they do matter.

L– Leave him wanting more.

This one’s pretty self-explanatory. So simply put, it just means don’t overdo it. If you’re blowing up your man’s phone with pointless messages, then he isn’t going to look forward to hearing from you.

However, if you only send him well thought out, cleverly crafted messages, you will keep him hanging off your every word.

E– Excite him.

Avoid boring messages. I don’t know about you ladies, but there are few things that bother me more than the one or even two-word text message. You know the ones I’m talking about:

“Hi”

Or:

“What’s up?”

These make my skin crawl because they come across as lazy or they give me the impression that the person sending it is just bored and texting for their own entertainment. Or, maybe it’s because they don’t really make me feel– well, anything, aside from irritated.

Anyways, enough about my feelings. The point I’m making is that every message you send, your man should be excited. Now, I know this can be tough, especially if you have the kind of relationship where you communicate daily through texts and share your thoughts and updates. But seriously, believe me when I say that it’s time to stop.

From here on out, you want to make sure that every text message you send is captivating and exciting. I’ll touch more on this later.

Now, last but certainly not least:

S– Stay positive.

Again, this one seems self-explanatory but is definitely important enough to mention. If you want to make your man fall in love with you by texting him, then the absolute last thing you want to do is send him anything negative or depressing.

Sure, you’ll have your not-so-great days but even when those strike, keep your messages pleasant. There’s a time and place for opening up and letting your guy in on those vulnerable thoughts and feelings, but during texting isn’t it. A huge mistake women make with men is venting ALL of their negative feelings in written format.

So, from now on only send messages that express feel-good thoughts. If you’re upset with him for some reason, NEVER spell it out over text message.

So, those are my romantic text messaging rules. Now, let’s get to the good stuff, the kinds of texts that will make a man fall in love with you.

1. The “thinking about you” text.

If you’ve been looking for a way to make your man fall in love with you, then this is a great text to start out with.

Now, when I say start out with, I’m assuming that you’ve already met the man and have been seeing him for at least a little while. If you’re looking to find out what kind of text to send a man to initially get his attention and make him interested in you, then check out my other articles because I have other kinds of flirty texts that are better suited for that sort of scenario.

The “thinking about you” text and the others I’m going to share here are intended for if you’re already in a relationship with a man. The purpose of this type of text message is to do exactly as its name implies, to let your man know that you’re thinking about him. But, as simple as it sounds, the effect it will have on your guy will be profound.

Since it’s so easy for us to get beat down by that to-do’s in everyday life, then there’s no denying that something as small as an unpleasant or demanding text message can make you want to pull your hair out and crawl under a rock.

If you can be the reason your man smiles when he looks at his phone, then slowly but surely, you’re going to bind his heart to you.

To be the positive boost he needs or ball of sunshine in his life, consider sending a text like the following:

“Hey! I was driving to work this morning and I heard the Beatles song that was playing the first night we met. It made me think of you.”

Or another example could be something like:

“You’ve been on my mind all morning. I can’t wait to see you later.”

Yes, both of these are pretty simple but “thinking about you” text messages are a perfect instance for when less is more.

The next few text messages to make him fall in love that I’m going to share are a little bit more complex.

2. The “drive me wild” flirty text message.

If you’re looking to make a man fall in love with you, then it’s important that you give him what every man desires, sex.

Now, that’s not to say you have to send him nude or dirty photos of yourself or write the Kama Sutra out for him but it’s about turning up the heat a little bit to create sexual tension between the two of you through text messages.

Now, the reason why “Drive me wild” texts are so important is because they create a digital fantasy world for you and your man to explore together. It’s a space to say the things that you might not be brave enough to voice out loud and the chance to tell him all the things that turn you on.

For example, let’s say that you really love when he kisses a certain part of your body. But anytime you even think of telling him, you feel yourself blush or get awkward. This is exactly the kind of stuff that you can text him. Just be sure that when you do, you make your message as detailed and descriptive as possible.

As I already mentioned, men are visual creatures. That’s why you’re going to want to really paint him a picture with your words. Sending him, “Your kisses drive me wild” is OK.

This is much better:

“I cannot wait to feel your lips grace my body tonight. You know the spots that turn me on.”

The second dirty text message is the kind that’s going to get him going. Best of all, you don’t even have to live out the fantasies you describe here. Just be careful not to explicitly agree to do anything that you have no intention of doing. If you do, then he’ll think that you’re just all talk or in this case, all text which is a bit of a turn-off.

3. The “I love your _____ text.”

Now, this kind of flirty message can be as PG or X-rated as you like and is completely up to you. I will give you examples of both. Before I do though, it’s important to explain why these kinds of messages make men fall head over heels for the woman sending them.

Here’s the thing:

So many men feel like they don’t get enough compliments from their women. Now, as much as this is yes, our fault, don’t beat yourself up over it. After all, society’s designed a sort of weird perspective where women are the ones who long for and look for compliments, not men. But that’s far from true.

So, by taking the time to recognize something about your man, be it his physical self, emotional being, spiritual beliefs, or even just his personality, it will eventually make him fall in love with you even more.

That said, you’ll want to avoid texting the obvious here. I mean, if your man has stunning blue eyes, then chances are, he’s heard it his whole life. Hearing the same words from you isn’t going to send him over to the moon.

If you spice it up and say something like:

“I love staring into your sapphire eyes. They make me feel as deep as the ocean when I’m next to you”

Those descriptive words are a huge improvement— but again, try to choose something about your guy that he isn’t used to hearing.

For example, let’s say he has a fiery passion for social justice. You could say something like:

“You carry yourself with such conviction. Just being around you makes me a better person.”

Or if you want to stay with his physical aspects, then you can say something like:

“You were so breathtakingly handsome and that’s the least interesting thing about you.”

Or:

“I love the dip in your hip. Running my finger along it really gets me hot and bothered.”

I cannot stress enough that detail is key here. It’s one thing to tell a man he’s looking good, but telling him specifically what makes him so attractive to you will stroke his ego and get his heart racing.

Remember, guys like to feel like the warrior in a relationship. So keep his manhood in mind when sending him these messages. The last thing you want to do is send him something that’s going to make him feel emasculated.

If you’re interested in learning some more powerful phrases for making any guy wild with desire for you, then visit my site and watch the free video presentation here.

4. The “recognition reminder” text.

If there’s one thing I discuss a lot in my Devotion System program, it’s making a man feel appreciated.

Without getting into too much detail here, it is this kind of recognition that keeps him working to win you over. I mean, he’s not going to put in continuous effort with you if you don’t take the time to recognize the things he does for you.

Sure, we’re all busy and yes, it can be hard to find the time to properly show your guy how much you love everything he does. But, the good news is you can do this in an extremely powerful and quick way by texting him.

The recognition reminder text message is a series of well thought out words that you should send your man to let him know that you notice all the things he does for you.

Again, this is a kind of message that you’re going to want to make your own. Take some time to really think about something amazing your man has done for you. Of course, you’re going to want whatever you choose to be time-sensitive because texting him about something he did a year ago isn’t going to be as moving as something he did last night.

You can play in the past a little bit. But if you’re going to go this route, then make sure to reference something more recent as well.

Here are some examples of recognition reminder text messages:

“I just wanted to thank you for all the things you do for me. Even though I might not always show it, you mean the world to me.”

“I’m so lucky to have you in my life.” Or, again, “I know I can be stubborn sometimes, but thank you for being so patient with me. You make life so much sweeter.”

Any combination of these will make your guy feel like he’s struck gold with you.

5. The “memory mover” text.

I intentionally saved this text message for last because it’s unlike any other ones I’ve covered today. Where my previous four types of text messages focused more so on your man, the memory mover is about the two of you as a couple.

How does this work?

First, recall a powerful memory you shared together.

Next, make a list of how it played out and include every single aspect of it. If it helps, pretend you’re a journalist reporting on a big story and fill in the who, what, where, when, why, and how? Leave no detail undescribed.

When reading this flirty text message, your guy should be able to see the memory flash before his eyes like an old silent film.

Use vivid, descriptive language that helps him easily imagine the memory you’re reminiscing about. Anyway, that’s so powerful he’ll feel like he’s reliving it in your words. Also, do your best to recall the memory in a present tense. It really gives him the chance to feel like he’s reliving the moment.

To help you out, here’s an example:

“Remember the first time you took me back to your house, sitting inches from each other on your couch, I struggle to keep my hands to myself.”

“We finally crawl into your bed as the sun was rising. You wrap your arms around me and deeply kiss the back of my neck.”

“Your lips on my skin is electrifying and I can’t control what happens next.”

Now, this example isn’t one you can just plug in because if you haven’t shared that moment together, then he’s going to think you meant to send the message to someone else and that’s going to be incredibly awkward.

This is just a taste of the type of text to send him. Yours is going to be totally different. That said, to get you started, some good intros could be:

“Remember that time…”

“Imagine we are back in…”

“The time we went to…”

Basically, you’re setting the scene. Spell it out for him and tell him a story that will show your fiery feelings, passion and desire for him.

Don’t forget to use words like feel, touch, taste, lick, quiver, shiver, grace, grope and so on. These descriptive words will really help bring your text messages to him to life.

Now that I’ve shared these five powerful flirty text messages with you, it’s your turn to weigh in.

Do you have your own set of texts that you’d like to use to get guys into you?

Have you ever tried any of the ones I covered here? Did they work? I want to hear from you. Please share in the comments section below.

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Amy North

About Amy North

Amy North is the author and relationship coach behind the bestselling Devotion System, which explains how to find and keep the man of your dreams.

She specializes in breakups, marital issues, and dating for women, and offers relationship coaching to clients from around the world.

Her background in both psychology and journalism makes Amy a highly sought-after relationship pro. With thousands of subscribers and millions of views, her YouTube channel has become a smash hit with women all over the world.

One Comment

  1. Jodene Cummings

    March 25, 2018 at 8:46 am

    What about texts for people who have been together for a long time and need to rekindle the passion?

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