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How To Get Over A Guy Fast In 6 Simple Steps
There are a few feelings that come close to the one you feel after a breakup, from heartache and tears through reminiscing and regret, and perhaps even liberation and freedom.
Whatever the feeling you’re having, wondering how to get over a guy fast?
Hey ladies, welcome. My name is Amy North. I’m a relationship coach from Vancouver, BC and author of the bestselling program, The Devotion System.
Today, I’m going to share with you the tips you need for getting over your ex. Now then, let’s get started.
1. Put away all reminders of him.
The first thing you want to do after a breakup is remove any and all reminders of your ex. This means photos of you two together, cute notes, gifts he gave you, the list goes on and on.
In some cases, it will be harder to remove all reminders, especially if you two lived together and split on things like furniture or art. But where possible, tuck aside anything that reminds you of him. This doesn’t mean that you have to throw everything in the trash but rather, find a box or bag to stash the things in and tuck it away in your closet or under your bed.
Once you’re over your ex, you can open that box or bag and decide what you do and don’t want to keep. Until then, try to keep it out of sight, out of mind.
2. Delete his number.
At this time, you’ll also want to delete your ex’s phone number. Now, you may be thinking, “There is no way I’m going to call or text my ex. I don’t need to delete his number.” No disrespect, but I don’t buy it.
The thing is, you may be feeling strong and secure in this moment but you will undoubtedly have moments where nostalgia comes creeping in and you start to miss your ex.
Who knows? Maybe you have a lonely night and start recalling all the good things you shared together and temporarily block out the bad. Either way, it’s best to cut out any temptation and prevent those possibilities from even happening.
If you worry that you might need his number in the future or think that down the road, you would like to reach out to him, then write it down and give it to a friend for safekeeping. Be sure that your friend knows not to give it to you until you’re fully over him and the relationship.
3. Make a list of everything that pissed you off about him.
Next, make a list of all the things you hated about your ex-boyfriend and all the things that he did or said or angered or upset you. In other words, the things you would not miss.
For instance, maybe he had a habit of interrupting you or perhaps he blew off your friends, maybe you didn’t like his style or the fact that he wasn’t good with budgeting his money. Whatever it is, and I’m sure there are things or you would probably be still together, write them down. You don’t have to show anyone this list so allow yourself to be completely open and honest here.
Anytime you’re feeling down or missing your ex, pull out the list and read it to remind yourself that he wasn’t perfect and that there are many ways in which you’re better off without him. Brilliant, right?
4. Feel all the feels.
My next tip for getting over your ex is one that so many people overlooked, and that’s to allow yourself to move through each emotion. There’s no denying that breakups are emotional. Even if you ended things on good terms, chances are, you’ll still have your share of waterworks at some point or another.
And that’s totally OK as long as you don’t let your emotions get the best of you. This means that it’s completely fine to spend the first couple of days after the breakup mourning your loss. But if this kind of behavior last more than a day or two, then you may be prolonging your heartache instead of healing it.
Give yourself 48 hours to feel sorry for yourself and do whatever helps you cope. Once that time has passed, it’s time for you to also pass on the past.
To learn how to let go of your feelings and move on to be any man’s dream woman, check out my site and watch the free video presentation.
5. Lean on your friends for support.
Now that we’ve established the timeline for mourning, let’s talk about what you should do after the fact, which is spend time with your friends. Breakups are one of those times when you can and should lean on your friends to support you. You can also count on them to keep you busy and distract you from thinking about the breakup.
That said, this is also a great time to make new friends. Take a step out of your social circle and meet new people and new places. Sign up for hobbies and activities that involve meeting others. Introduce yourself. You never know who you might meet.
WARNING: Your Ex is NOT Your Friend.
However, if there’s one person you shouldn’t be friends with at this time, it’s your ex. I know this can be tough, especially if you were best friends at one point but believe me, being friends with your ex right now isn’t going to help you. In fact, staying friends will work against you if you are trying to get over him.
The reason why being friends with your ex is such a bad idea is because you’re vulnerable right now. You don’t want to do or agree to anything you will regret.
Avoiding your ex at this time is for the best. In the future, you may be able to have a friendship with him. But for the time being, keep your distance.
6. Get and stay busy.
My next tip is one that I’ve already briefly touched on but I can’t stress enough how important it is— and that’s to keep busy. Do whatever you can to stay busy for the first couple of weeks after the breakup. Even if you don’t feel like going out with your girlfriends, it’s important that you do.
Sure, taking up new hobbies, meeting new people, and chasing life dreams can be scary especially when you’re used to your old routine but use this opportunity to reset your life. Whether you sign up for some new classes or do the eat, pray, love thing, take the solo time to become who you want to be.
Sounds cliché but think about how many times you’ve thought about trying something new but didn’t because it interfered with your relationship or other plans. Now is your chance to follow your dreams.
Well, that just about does it for today. Thanks so much for reading. As always, if you have any questions or feedback, please feel free to post those in the comments section below.
For more help on your breakup and love life in general, my website is available 24 hours a day 7 days a week. That’s where you can also find my contact info and details on my 101 Skype coaching services.
Thanks again for all your support, ladies. Good luck and I’ll see you again soon.